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Vent away Rob, only parenting sucks to no end! I almost think they push more with us because they know there isn't another parent and they think they can get away with more. I know I give in more now than I ever did before. I take away the phone for my oldest, and ipod or ipad for my younger 2. What is she attached to that she would do anything to get back? I know the negative communication is normal with teens sadly. It's always something. Mine is 17 and is current very stressed about her grades and her university applications due soon. She is a great student but her stress is effecting some of her recent test results which in turn is stressing her more. I'm trying to get her to relax more but this stresses her more! Our disagreements are more in this area these days. My SIL tells me they become human again at 19-20 years old. I can't wait! Then my younger ones will hit that stage! Not a lot of advice for you Rob, but know I am commiserating with you.

Well said! You could also agree to just go out as friendly neighbours. A night out would be nice and a nice distraction. As long as he knows up front how you feel.

Yes, it is very, very, hard. So much about what you wrote I completely understand. While not engaged, I had to do this, last year, September. The baggage was too much for me. I did end up hurting him very much, but if I continued it, I would have hurt him more. I don't have any words of wisdom, just understanding.

Yes! Knowing the art of flirting helps too! The "Hi" only messages are on all sites. Be patient, some actually do write more than that. You may not want to see what they write, but they do! 😁

Homeless people need love, too! :-) Take care, Rob T 😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁

Ok, here is one from a few days ago. I think we have all seen profile pics with the bathroom selfies...ewwww Didn't think it could get more icky? I saw a public washroom selfie with someone in the background! Oh my!!!

Yes, this pops in my mind as well. I am 3 years + widowed and it's not as much on my mind as before. My dad died of a heart attack at 47 when i was a young adult. I always thought I would die before my husband and possibly young. I wasn't sure i would reach 47. When he died before me, in an unexpected accident, it really messed with my head re my mortality. I was 47 and my husband was 49. I then thought I wouldn't reach 49. Crazy thoughts I know. When I became older than both my dad and my husband were at their deaths, it somehow eased my mind a bit. It is normal to think about our mortality, especially when we are the only ones left for our kids. It scares me to think they could lose me too.

So great to hear this! Keep it up and you will feel more and more comfortable with it. I did join a gym last month but not getting there very often yet. Need to make it more consistent. You are doing a great thing for you and for your daughters. They need you strong and healthy for a very long time, even though it may not seem like our kids need us at times.

Yes Rob! For just a few more compliments, I may have caved! 😁 Good luck on your potential date! So glad she responded. Hopefully it might turn into a good prospect. Perfect plan! Get your freebie and then take the break. It will give you some time to see how you may want to come back and retry. Breaks are always good from these sites. My little break is/was good. It made me see how sad it all was. Still not giving up yet though . Poking in and out a bit at a time for now. Not going crazy with too much on line time.

Here is a laugh for this morning... http://m.huffpost.com/us/entry/1105868 I actually found this in my local matches yestersay on OKC but for a 48 year old! And here I thought he was being so original!

The ultimate cut and paster....must read the entire dialogue 😁 Oct 6 Him- I don't know what kind of chance I have but, I couldn't go by without stopping to tell you how gloriously divine and beautiful you are Oct 6 Him- It would be a pleasure, to get to know you. Not just the beauty of your physique, but the depth of your mind, complexity of your intellect, history of your personality, and exquisiteness of your smile. Oct 6 Him- My name is xxxx, and I really believe that conversation is the start of enjoying the full beauty and depth of someone else Oct 6 Him- Would you like to have an engaged, honest and hopefully fun conversation, sometime? Oct 6 Me- Sorry, but I am looking for someone closer to my age. Oct 6 Him- Cool, thanks for the reply. I don't think my previous messages implied but I was looking something more along the side of fun and not serious to be sincere. I hope I didn't offend you in anyway. Oct 6 Me- Not at all offended. I get it a lot on here. I got your implied message. Oct 6 Him- Lol. Ok. Well, thanks for the reply. You really are gracefully gorgeous and wonderfully elegant. Wish I had a shot to know the rest of you too. Oct 6 Him- Have a good one.. Keep smiling it's a truly wonderful and expressive smile you have. Today ? 9:08am Him- I don't know what kind of chance I have but, I couldn't go by without stopping to tell you how gloriously divine and beautiful you are Today ? 9:08am Him- I've only ever been with older women, and they were about your age or older. I only say this to be honest and clear, showing some of my traits. And to give you the reason why I'm contacting you. Today ? 9:08am Him- It would be a pleasure, to get to know you. Not just the beauty of your physique, but the depth of your mind, complexity of your intellect, history of your personality, and exquisiteness of your smile Today ? 9:10am Him- My name is xxxx, and I really believe that conversation is the start of enjoying the full beauty and depth of someone else Today ? 9:10am Him- Would you like to have an engaged, honest and hopefully fun conversation, sometime?

I have not checked on this. I'm guessing the more confusing, the better for them. Can you email anyone there to find out? I went back on, to send 2 messages today, to fill my 3rd month guarantee commitment. I was 2 days away from my month end. Of course, crickets so far and one message was very witty based on his profile! If you have earned your free guarantee, make sure you get it, if you want to use it or not. Why should they not own up to it? Take a break from it if you want, but make sure you have that free extension, if you ever want to use it. You earned it! And this other woman, well a non reply is just dumb if she showed interest. It's not a reflection on you, but her. Maybe she is just feeling out the site to see how it works, who knows. Never feel it's a reflection on you, it isn't.

A lot depends on what you are hoping for. Something long term, or short term, or just fun outings. I think I waver on these thoughts in my mind and they often vary depending on the person I might be talking to or my outlook at any given time. I still hope when the the right person does show up one day, these won't be questions I'll be worried about. Yes, I know...I probably didn't offer any real advice. Nice is very good... you could try and just enjoy what comes for now. We all need some smiles and fun in our lives without too much over thinking.

Toured a University today with my daughter. She is very stressed about the whole process and upcoming applications. We had a full, knockout, laughing, family ticklefest tonight after we got home. We all needed that gut busting laughter!! Felt great!

I really don't know what the magic formula is to meet someone. Online, in person, through osmosis, etc. My thought process these days is very open. I am hoping that the right person is out there and somehow we will find each other. It may not be now or soon, but hopefully at some point. Delusional...maybe! In the meantime, I'm taking it one day at a time and keeping my "whatever" attitude in check! We shall see. Hopefully I can still have a few laughs through this process! 😊

I often wonder MrsDan, why do they send these messages of they don't get responses. Then I thought maybe they do, which is even stranger to think about. One time I actually responded with "Does this actually work for you?" I think I really put him off balance and he said things like, sometimes and depends. It was an interesting conversation for sure!

Sweetness is very good! Classy for sure! I guess they feel a computer screen allows for this kind of communication? Would they say those things if they met out in person somewhere? I think not!

Hahahaha!!!

I'm so sorry Nonesuch...

Rob, you young stud you! POF was the same here for me this time. I completely deleted my account there because it was just much older in age or in looks contacting me. It was much different 2 years ago and I actually met my one relationship on there then. I'm not really going on the other 2 sites right now, but recently on OKC it was only men far away in the US or UK contacting me. Scammers? Maybe. Who knows, too far for me so it doesn't matter. My friend is trying to convince me to try Tinder. She is insisting it's not a hook up site for my age group and has friends in relationships from Tinder. I can only imagine the stories I could share from that experience! Right now I'm just laying low for a bit. My minimal texter from a few weeks back is still sending texts like "Hey". We did meet up last weekend for coffee a second time. But still getting minimal contact after that. He is very busy, but a nice guy and does lots of talking in person. I'm still trying to figure him out, but it's probably the speed I need right now after my last crazy whirlwind. Tracey, there are nice ones on the sites, look at all of us on there.😊 You need to be in the right frame of mind to weed through it though. Not always an easy task. Bear, yes, the too many choices confuse people and keep many from continuing conversations. Someone better comes along and they go "poof" on you. What happened to giving someone a chance first? I'm in the "whatever" mood right now with all this stuff! Keep sharing your stories everyone! We all need a good chuckle as often as possible!

TooSoon, I think now that you can see a little light at the end of the tunnel, all the emotions are being released. You have held on, and held on, to complete these tasks and now you are almost there, and a release had to happen. It can't all be held inside. These cries are good, let them out, the release will feel good, like another step forward. Hang in there my friend, you are doing amazing!

Hugs Maureen.... There really is no easy way...but it's so good to hear you are looking forward and feeling hopeful.

I have no experience in any of this blending discussion but I love hearing how you are all making it work for your situations. We are all different and need and want different things. No need to over think things. If it feels right to you, then all is good!

You would think that men in my age range (45-55) would have developed some social skills because we didn't grow up on social media. I can understand this maybe from the younger set, but I didn't expect this from my age range.

Oh boy! It's not you MrsDan. Don't take it personally at all. It's the on line dating "poof" phenomenon! Not sure why someone can't just say something after numerous conversations with you. Instead they choose to just magically go "poof"! Before my 4 date whirlwind disaster, I was chatting with a couple other gentlemen as well. One really wanted to meet and we had talked on the phone and had a very nice conversation. Then I met my whirlwind man. I told this other man I wanted to give this a chance and I wasn't very good at dating mutiple men at once and I explained the whole poof thing to him and that I didn't want to do that to him without an explanation. He was so appreciative and nice about it. Hoped we would have another shot at a later time. I know... I'm an odd duck in this crazy pond!