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Jen, I am sending you huge hugs. I know how hard this is.... Part of what snapped me out of the deepest darkness was thinking about my kids. I needed to be happier for them. They deserved a happy mom. They had gone through the worst possible thing in their lives and I didn't want them to see me like that anymore. They were the reason for my motivation. It wasn't easy but I knew there was no other way.

Hugs to all the mom's and dad's here! We've all done or do double duty and it's not easy. We are kicking butt and raising great kids! 😊

They must have done a little searching with what little they knew. I've tried searches on myself with the minimal info I have given out in the past. It shocked me how much came up! I became much more careful after that. It didn't help that DH's death was very public.

Next!!! You deserve more!

Did they have your full name? Sometimes even without a last name and just some other tidbits of info you can find a lot in a search. They have probably done a search and found you. Or, if you searched them, you could show up as people they might know. In any case, if you haven't met, and they haven't asked you out, ignore the request. Even if you have met, it's not a valid reason to be friends on Facebook. Safety over anything.

Oh Jess, I'm so sorry....

The one time I was booked to go I never made it. I think it has way better possibilities than on line dating. Not as many men sign up in our age range and I've heard they say yes to everyone to get a possible match. Don't know if it's true or not. I say it's worth a try. Even for a few laughs and potential stories to share on this thread! 😂

Now here is an interesting conversation starter! 😂😂😂😂😂

Love, love, love this!!! 😊

A little bit of colourful language, so be warned. Being honest, open, and not playing crazy games. Just say how you feel. Pretty simple right? http://thoughtcatalog.com/melissa-moeller/2016/04/why-modern-dating-makes-me-want-to-punch-myself-in-the-throat/

Engineers are pretty cool! 😊 Just make sure he is not a pipeline engineer that will go back to Turkey, on a big business trip, and ask you to courier him a new cell phone because you are the only one who can help him after he "loses" it. 😂

Grace, I'm smiling ear to ear for you! I wish I could give you the biggest hugs in person! Virtual ones will have to do in the meantime! 😊

"All my ladies, listen up If that boy ain't giving up Lick your lips and swing your hips Girl all you gotta say is My name is no My sign is no My number is no You need to let it go......" 😊

So much for the promise of spring! Profiles hidden again. Just like the actual weather, spring has decided to be elusive so far! Have fun tonight Needytoo! I have a movie date with my minimal texter tonight. Getting out will be good!

I'll be facing this in June with my senior. I think you know your daughter best and the kids she hangs around with. In my case, my daughter's friends are good kids I don't expect anything too crazy at the after parties. She is a smart kid and knows when she is beyond her comfort level. Her school is very academic and there are few parties going on there. I have no issue with 2 am for her. So much depends on their social environment and their friends. I think that is the most important factor in this type of decision. Good luck. I know I'll still be anxious until she get home in any case!

Thanks SunshineFL. There are some very good articles there.

I think I'm done with the on line crazies again. Finally chatted with someone that seemed real, not a widower engineer new to town! Conversation and banter was great over a couple days. When I suggested adding voices to our words and talking on the phone, he deletes his profile. Another multiple cut and paste master would not let up and finally asked if I was shy. I replied no but I am not interested in multiple copy and paste messages. He replied that it worked and he finally got my attention. I reply yup he did but I still wasn't interested. Then he started calling me difficult and said I didn't know how to laugh. Well bud, you have no clue about me or how much I actually laugh! Block! Another widower wanted to email off site after message one. I replied that I would love to email, after a couple messages on site to get to know more about him. Poof! Serioisly, it's just so frustrating.

The touches, the kisses, the anticipation, the buildup.... This makes the end result...oh so much better.

Such incredible news! Sending you the biggest hugs and the most positive thoughts and vibes for her.

What I find interesting is that, none of the gentleman here, with the opinion that a woman who has sex on the first date is a non postitive thing, have said they would refuse it, if offered. They have said they would wonder about it the next day, trash her name with their buddies....etc., etc. So then it's ok for them to partake in the experience then? Hmmmmm...... So IF I had the opinion that men who want sex on the first date are scum, where does that put men who do partake in having sex on the first date? Everyone's situation is different and everyone can have their beliefs. Obviously for some, first date sex HAS "formed deep, loving, successful relationships". For others, waiting produces the same results. Not so cut and dry here.

Speaking from personal experience, when you go without for quite a while, the need becomes insatiable, the more you get, the more you keep wanting. Just saying.....

I went to see one at 4 months out. She was very credible and some things were spot on and even chilling. She told me though that when they cross to the other side, they need time to adjust and learn how to communicate. It's like learning a new language. She said it's best to wait at least 6 months. She was struggling a bit with me and even called me the next day to relay more to me over the phone as she felt he was not as forthcoming with her the day before. Just my experience.

Nice to see you all are keeping things heated up nicely here! 😆 I had a busy day and I have a busy week ahead. Please don't let the heat slip away. 😉 I did just have a really nice long hot shower though.... 😊

Oh no.....I am so, so sorry...

Canadian women know how to create the extra heat needed for our cold climate! 😆