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Asking for prayers for my step father and my mom.....he’s had a major stroke and being moved to John Hopkins as we speak.

It's not as bad as you think. Yes, it could use an update, but a fresh coat of paint does wonders. Talking with a realitor doesn't cost a dime. Doesn't mean you have to sign them, and the 6% can often be negotiated. Fingers crossed it all works in both your favor.

I remember this day.... I remember a call for an emergency bago... I hadn't met you yet in real life, but I remember the need to go, but the reality it was not possible. Hugs to you my friend, and hope you found moments of peace.

Big or small, those triggers are still out there.

Would love to join you all, but recently been blessed with a Saturday schedule at work. Hope you have a good time.

I drove Big Guy crazy lol. He was more of a neat freak than I ever will be. Drove him absolutely bonkers with shoes. They would stay, (still do haha) wherever I flip them off my feet. He started hiding them. Found the stash about 2 years after he died. Was pissed and laughed my ass off all at the same time.

FaithOverFear.....my life is crazy right now....niece getting married, blessed with working Saturday's now (with almost 22 years grrrr) and of course the lovely holidays.....will try to set one up in the new year....I'm in the Lehigh valley too.

Hugs to you Rob. I'm not a parent. As I have grown older, slowly I am taking notice of sometimes subtle, sometimes blatant apologies from my parents in a round about way. It kinda breaks my heart. My parents were far from perfect. However, NOBODY is. What I remember from my up bringing....they loved me. The displine I remember, oh dear lord did I deserve. Ha ha!! Rob, I scared the shit out of my parents. I'm pretty sure they were convinced they were going to have to support me til their dying day. You may think your words and guidance are hitting a brick wall, but they ARE listening. Hugs to you, yet again. I hit 6 years in July. Hope you found moments of peace.

December of 2016. It was brutal. I so get this.

You will never forget what matters.....how he made you feel.

I always take off on his bday..... my first year, a dear old friend suggested I do something special for myself, and make it a tradition. So, I usually spend the day, shopping, maybe visiting the local casino. Then I come home, make a nice dinner with some of his favorites and have a few friends over. At dusk, we send up some Chinese lanterns. (Thank you widdas gone wild 😊) Our anniversary, sadaversary, these days although remembered (6yrs July first), are usually spent with a few tears in the morning, then I pull up my big girl panties and face the day. I still have more trouble with the lead up to these days, than the actual day.

You'll know when it's right. Until then, you do what you must. I wore my band on my ring finger for a little over a year. I am at the 6 year mark in July. I still wear mine on a chain, and his on my right thumb. I don't think I'll ever take his off, but I have started thinking about turning my band into something else.

So get this post. In December, I officially became older than Big Guy. It hit me like a ton of bricks. He too will be forever 48.

@DonnaP it could not have been more perfect!! Thanks 😊

When Big Guy first died, I was given a demand by my father to deal with them swiftly. He was upset I had him sitting in the garage on his work bench. I park in front of the work bench, and I think he was afraid it would haunt me every day. I was extremely early maybe first month or two when I dispersed the first few rounds. I was numb, and felt dead inside each time. 6 years for me in July, and I too still need to get him to some of his favorite places. A little after a year, and I decided that he would travel with me everywhere I travel. Damn near had a meltdown when I forgot to bring him to Jamaica. Quit putting pressure on yourself. You'll figure it out.

Glad to hear things are going well. (((Hugs)))

Like everyone else, I know the words seem empty. However, I truly am so sorry. Please come here to vent and keep us posted. Praying for you both.

Thanks guys. I have had my moments for sure, but this trip has been very therapeutic, on so many levels.

I'm having a blast!! Without knowing it ahead of time, i ended up staying across the street from the National Irish football finals. What an experience for sure 😁... Anyhow met many people, drank a few too many Guinness ha ha. One of the people I chatted with ended up being a young widower. He and his buddies were a trip, and when they learned why I came back, insisted with true widda twistyness that we share a sip of Guinness with him. I loved the idea, and it was done. Today, thru tears and a happy heart I finally spread his ashes in our special town of Dunmore East. It took six long years, but I did it. Tonight I head to Powers Bar for true authentic music, it's not set up for tourists, and of course some Guinness. I love you Big Guy, as much today as when you were with me. You're always in my heart, and now you're finally at "home"

Your niece is my hero....❤️❤️❤️ Her attitude and new lease on life!!

Hachi, my trip is mostly new too!! Dublin for obvious reasons, but going to see sights my Big Guy wasn't interested in....like all of them ha ha St. Patrick's, Trinity College.... My official ash ceremony is Dunmore East...the small fishing villiage we both fell in love with. Have a long drive to the north Wednesday to Bushmills, then slow stroll to Belfast by Friday....head back to Dublin Saturday evening, for a mid morning departure on Sunday.....Getting so excited I can't stand myself!!!

Ha ha, love it!!

Looks like you all had fun!!!

Travel plans are coming along well.....although I once had thoughts of heading over to London or Scotland, I have decided that time constraints would make that too stressful. That being said, does anyone know if there is a coastal town, weather permitting I can get a glimpse of Scotland while I'm in Northern Ireland??

The mind is a beautiful thing....these days will become a blur....and in time, you will only get a glimpse of true of the horror that is today. This, almost 6 years later is still one of my favorite quotes..... It has been said, 'time heals all wounds.' I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone. Rose Kennedy Take the advise of the ziplock bag. There will be days his scent will make you lose your mind, but more often than not, it will save your soul.