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I am so very sorry for your loss. Please be kind to yourself. It's a rough road for sure, but things do get lighter with time. Sleep when you can, eat when you can, and drink plenty of water. Yes, you can cry enough to dehydrate yourself. I am glad you found this forum, but so sorry you had to join our club.

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I remember when Big Guy and I were new...he would always tell me his ex was nuts.....I remember telling him he was being dramatic.... usually both people involved are ok, just not ok together..... boy oh boy was I wrong ha ha ha....there will have to be some interaction, but as said before keep it to a minimum. Biggest challenge is to not fall into their trap and and try to deal with them rationally as it's not possible. Once I realized that, things went smooth... I would yes the crazy bitch and end the interaction asap.

I will never forget taking care of Big Guy, and he was treating me awful.....I flipped out, said I don't get it...you were down right flirty with the nurses and yet you're treating me like shit!!! His response was priceless ha ha ha...."but woman, I had to be nice, they were wiping my ass...." as I was snapping on the rubber glove to do just that. Needless to say, I might have gotten a little rough, and he saw the light 😂...hugs to you, and hope you're able to work it out

Plans have become more defined...Dublin 9th....Kilkenny 10th, Dunmore East 11th, official scattering of the ashes....12th-15th Northern Ireland....then back to Dublin for flight out back to US....Bueler.....anyone out there?

Saving for up coming Ireland trip, but agree. We all need to get together soon.

I certainly think it is possible. I just don't think it is promised.

(((Hugs)))

I email it to myself....my phone asks me how large I want the file....I sent it small, save it, then upload

I talked to a newbie last week. Her loss was just after Xmas. Quick back story, I work in a customer service environment. I talk to hundreds of strangers weekly and therefore, I "meet" newbies on a regular basis. For almost six years I have been referring people to the board. First Ywbb, and now here. After I had resolved her issue....recurring theme "omg I need to trim my finances! Where can I trim costs" I let her know I was going off topic to advise her of this place. I always start with, you don't need to join, just reading helps to let you know you're not going crazy. My heart broke when all she heard was crazy. She thought I said she was crazy for trying to save money. She just heard the fucking head tilt you get from EVERYONE in the beginning. I hated that tilt within 48 hours. My heart ached as she advised she had her faith and such a huge out pour of support she didn't need such a place. I wanted to scream to her they are about to disappear!!! I hope and pray she jotted down this address before she shut down. You all saved me. July 1, 2011 is my date. This time 2011 if you told me I would be on an online chat board, I would have said you were CRAZY!!! So, I guess what I am trying to say is Thank You!!! I rarely post...well, I go in spurts haha....but Ywbb, and now Widda.... you all are some amazing people, and if I have to be a member of this damn club, I am so grateful I found this motley crew 8)

Your tat sounds much more refined, and dignified than my Foghorn Leghorn ha ha...can't wait to see it!

You have one of the most beautiful smiles I have ever seen. So happy to hear is showing up more often. Soooo, you know me, how'd it go?

Wow

Omg!!! I don't want to spoil for anyone....but this episode is killing me...tear jerker for sure.

This^^^^^^ remember this!!!

I certainly remember the constant lack of sleep. I too filled those voids with the screen. Ywbb, Facebook, Majong, etc.... later, dating sites were added, and chatting with boys... Went to doctor and got sleeping pills. Didn't want a habit, so I listened to a tv doctor Colonel Potter from MASH...he kept his in his office, not his tent, so he had to think about it. Living in a 2 story colonial, I kept mine downstairs in the kitchen. I finally listened to the many articles I read about sleep. Did I mention I am such I asshole when I lack sleep, I personally don't know anyone who can be a bigger asshole? Keep the bedroom for sleep. No tv, no phone or tablet. None of it at least 20 min before bedtime. I watch tv until my bedtime, in a different room. My bedtime rarely varies, even on the weekend. My nightly routine before the sheets takes about 15 min. So, I am close. Since I have followed those rules, I am usually asleep within 30 minutes. The sleep aide is used maybe a month out of the year, and just a half a tablet to get me to sleep. I'm lucky as once I get to sleep, I usually stay there.

MACC I am so very sorry about your father. It's just so hard to see the men that once carried us on their shoulders, slow down and have difficulty carrying themselves. ((((Hugs)))

Thanks everyone!!!! I was vaping, with a very low nicotine....that helped with my hand to mouth.....can't have any nicotine in my system as when they test, can't tell a cig from any other form. That's when the weight slipped in. Soverysad, yes I too lock myself in my room ha ha ha!!! I know it's "not my fault". I just wish the first hospital liked him too. They are known for cherry picking their candidates so their results look better. When they sent the 12 year old pharmacist into the room to talk to me about the dangers of smoking (yes I do know it's a hideous life threatening habit) and how it can cause high blood pressure (my average is 110/68 as a pack and a half a day smoker....haven't checked it since I stopped) I almost lost my shit. Please, please, please don't speak to me like I am 5....Especially since you are 12!!!!!! Currently I have chosen to focus on my up coming trip to Ireland. So excited right now I can't stand myself.

I have been on the road to try and donate a kidney to my father for about a year now.... first hospital, loved me, but denied my father. Now we are at a new hospital, they have okayed him, but now I am the issue. First hospital confirmed we are a match. I had to quit smoking...tough, but I can do it. However, quitting smoking has added weight. I have NEVER been skinny...have struggled with that my entire life. They are putting everything on BMI. I know I am over weight, will never deny that, but I am not so over weight that I am a surgical risk. I am so frustrated because my extra weight is due to hand to mouth because I'm not smoking. I would get it if my family had a history of diabetes and such, but we don't. My father was a premi and was born with one kidney. I am so angry because it should be my body, my choice.... I want to make my fathers remaining years as comfortable as possible. It has become such a burden because I can't seem to shed the fucking 10 pounds to make it all "ok" in their eyes. So the kidney exchange is not happening because of me. I have started walking again....always watch what I eat.... ARGH!!!!! Just needed to vent....

The great NE PA here.... feel lucky to be close enough to go to bagos here in PA, NJ, and NY...

Omg... right??? Yes the 6 year anniversary is coming on fast!!! I have proved I CAN do it!!! However, there are days when it still brings me to tears, because if he were still here I wouldn't have to. I am dating a guy who helps me a lot, but it's not the same... it is still all on me 100% I miss him, and there are days when I am just exhausted, and I melt because if he were still here, ....... well you know

Welcome back, I remember your name. Marching towards 6 years myself. I'm sorry about your friend. She is lucky to have you!!

Love this!! Thanks for sharing

So glad you made it a good day!! I will hit 6 years in July. Decmeber 12, I became officially older than he was able to be, and that day was hard. Glad the Alfredo was was a delight!! (How can it not be ;D) I love the salad evening things out ha ha.

I could have written this post. I post on his Bday and our anniversary. I want to post more as well, but that god damn head tilt. Anytime I post anything about him, and get many. Hated the head tilt from day one!!!