Mrskro

Mine was frankly easy to cut the ties too. They weren't there for us in any way shape or form after DH died. I see no need to extend myself to them now.

I hear you! I need to get laid

Needy; you have just describe my sister and brother and our relationships. My kids and I have all adopted the "why fake it" approach. The once in a blue moon they invite my kids to something (I'm no longer invited) we just say we have something else going on.

Jen; I agree with TalkstoAngels.

MIK3 ..... Nope just Nope That one might take the prize as all time worst.

Yep, that's what I'm needing.

I'm so terribly sorry for all you have been through. You've come to the right place. Hugs

Incredibly well written. As you walk through plans and life, be gentle with your reactions to the absurdity that others may say or do. Gently remind yourself that your pain is truly unfathomable to many, and they do not understand the complete and utter confusion that is going on inside of your brain. I still struggle with this.

My kids are older, so babysitting isn't so much of an issue as help getting them to there various activities when they overlap. I hate asking and only ask when desperate too. What I started doing was sending out a group email or text to a group of friends (they are all friends as well)..."hey everyone I'm stuck...or I would like to go do this and ....I need help with xx. Can one of you please help me out? I found it saved me from going person to person.

Virgo; Sign me up for a sex weekend!! How do I get one of those?

So very happy for you all!! Congrats

Hugs. I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine with a young baby. Please know we are here if you need to talk.

I am so sorry. We are all here whenever you need to talk, vent, or cry. Unfortunately, we get it. Hugs to both of you.

I am so sorry for what you are going through. Hugs.

Everything I'd say has been said so I'll just give you virtual hugs. I am so sorry.

Not so much a vent....but I think I'm doing this online thing wrong him: nice (not even sure why I responded) me: nice ? but thank you Him: nice profile Me: thanks. How are you today? Him: I'm well. So coffee in an hour? UMMMM after 4 words? I don't think so

Jen; I can relate to this. I don't know where to begin to re-write my life I already had planned out. This isn't fair to any of us. I am in awe of you and your 5 degrees, I can't imagine going back to school, heck I can barely get it together to help the kids with their homework. Hang in there! and HUGS!

Forget the bird....did you get your hot water back on?? Vent away....I hope your weekend got better. I agree sometimes just getting it out helps.

Does it count as washing the windows if I had my darling children do it this weekend?

No words just HUGS!

My husband didn't have a prolonged illness but we weren't in a good place when he died and he had mentioned divorce way more often than not. So I have mixed feelings about my grief for him specifically. I think we grieve the loss of the life we had imagined and planned for. Grieve the loss of our kids other parent. I had a conversation recently with someone who thought I should be moving on by now (I'm a year and 5 months out), and I explained to them, I'm not just grieving for his sudden death, I'm grieving the loss my children will experience everyday. I'm grieving that my daughter won't have her dad to walk her down the aisle or my son won't have his dad to teach him about girls. I'm grieving the loss of the future we had planned. The present we were supposed to be living. I grieve that there's no one who knows alot of my story now, that I can reminisce about the memories with. I grief the friendships I lost when he died, when they couldn't/wouldn't/didn't know how to be here for me. I don't think grieving is just about the person we lost unfortunately.

Portside; I don't have an issue with a large age gap either. In my experience the young ones seem to just want a mommy figure to do the stuff they never figured out how to do; but honestly for me the ones I have dealt with either still live at home or with a roommate. I've tried but with the younger ones it seems to me that my 16 year old is more mature and has it more together. (although I will admit, she is the adultiest person in our house sometimes)

Captains wife......I find those as funny as the men 15 years my junior who claim to be just attracted to older women; but don't have their shit together and just want someone to cook and clean and do their laundry for them. Or worse still want kids (when I clearly state I do not) UGH!

I have to admit; I found comfort in this....that I'm not alone. Mike....you hit it bang on woe-is-me poker....unfortunately, I've been playing that game with my family for the last year and a half. I thought it was just me, my lack of patience with other. I finally reached my breaking point and cut contact with them. But then again they are all DGIs. I do believe there is a time and place for letting things out, work and school are definitely not those places.

My daughter turns 16 in 5 days, so I know what you are going through. I was also in a crash with a drunk driver, although I was 17 at the time, and honestly it took a good 6 months before I would drive again. My crash also happened in the early evening, 6:00. I was going bowling with a group of friends when a drunk turned right in front of me. I'm going to let my DD get her licence in 5 days, She is going to take drivers ed. Where I am, she can't drive after dark, has to have a licensed driver with her....etc for 8 months. I hope by then I can let her get her "real" licence. Good luck