JeanGenie Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Deb, I'm so sorry... Cancer just sucks. My DH had colon cancer; my BIL died from pancreatic a month later; and any day now I will lose a wid-friend due to pancreatic cancer. What amazes me with all three of these men is the grace and dignity they all had when facing this diagnosis. Both in living every day after their diagnosis but then in facing death in their final days. I agree with you...I don't think I would handle it as graciously either. I'm glad you were able to spend those last days with him. In time, I was able to be grateful for those last days together and know how lucky I was to have that time. Wishing you comfort and peace. It's a sucky club you are now part of, but this board/community is a great place for support. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SimiRed Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Deb, Yes, being a cancer wid does suck! It is a horrific disease and hard to handle as the caregiver. Sending you "Hugs" and try to focus on the good memories, not the ones that cancer leaves you with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest fern Posted October 10, 2015 Share Posted October 10, 2015 Yup, cancer widow here. My healthy, vegetarian, never-smoking DH was diagnosed with lung cancer at stage IV and given 6-8 weeks to live. He made it about 6 months. It was hell. I'm still in shock. We have a kindergartener. So sorry for your loss!!! And...I just read all the replies. Shit. I'm so sorry for everyone's loss and suffering. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twistedmensa Posted October 11, 2015 Share Posted October 11, 2015 Metastatic cancer from an unknown primary source. 32 days from diagnosis to death. Made worse because they first treated him with antibiotics for bronchitis even though he had a history of lymphoma. When the first round of antibiotics didn't clear it up in two weeks, they put him on stronger antibiotics for an additional two weeks. Four weeks of non-treatment for what we already knew was cancer and based on his past experience, would be astonishingly aggressive..and it certainly was. Fucking managed care...more like careLESS. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bear Tomás Posted October 12, 2015 Share Posted October 12, 2015 Thymoma, an extremely rare cancer. Almost all of Laurie's doctors had only seen it in text books. Lucky her. Cancer sucks! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SailorGirl Posted October 12, 2015 Share Posted October 12, 2015 Melanoma. 2 years from diagnosis to death at 34. Complete and utter hell, and that is putting it mildly. F cancer! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Missmybecky Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 Melanoma here too. She was in the best shape of her life and then 17 months from diagnosis to death. You are right SailorGirl, it is a hellish roller coaster! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
danidee Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 Stage IV lung cancer. He got the official diagnosis on Christmas Eve 2013. He died 18 months later... 9 weeks ago today. He was only 39. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheelerswife Posted October 13, 2015 Share Posted October 13, 2015 Hugs, danidee, and welcome. It sucks. I know you have the holidays looming ahead of you, too. Just keep breathing. I'm glad you found us. Maureen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quixote Posted October 14, 2015 Share Posted October 14, 2015 Starting at age 19 (I met her when she was just starting remission), Hodgkins, breast, then the other breast, then pancreatic at age 44. The last beat her, as it usually does. The fact that before she'd kept "winning" (how I hate that word) made for a severe case of denial for the first month or so. I dunno, maybe that was for the best. I didn't really lose it until a couple of months after she died. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abitlost Posted October 15, 2015 Share Posted October 15, 2015 Cancer sucks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sojourner Posted October 15, 2015 Share Posted October 15, 2015 Non Hodgkin lymphoma. Started as a typically slow-growing form that, while incurable, has a generally long survival period (follicular lymphoma). Rapidly transformed into a very aggressive but frequently curable form (DLBCL), which for him turned out to be resistant to all treatments, from ones that normally can cure it, especially in someone as relatively young and as healthy as he was, to an experimental clinical trial. He beat the odds, which were all in his favor, and died. Just about 2 years from diagnosis to death from cancer-induced multiple organ failure. Only fairly recently have I begun to be able to remember him without it being memories/flashbacks of hearing his final gasping breaths, lying to him that we (kids & me) would be fine, that everything would be okay, and then reassuring him that we will see him later. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bear Tomás Posted October 16, 2015 Share Posted October 16, 2015 If the boogie man is coming, he is coming. Yep Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TooSoon Posted October 16, 2015 Share Posted October 16, 2015 Brain. Glioblastoma Multiforme. Misdiagnosed until it was the size of my fist. Cancer sucks. Another Glio-fucking-blastoma Multiforme widow here. Oh, ABL, what an insane journey that was. Some days I still marvel that we made it through and are still standing because there were many days when I wasn't so sure. xxoo Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Losttogether Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Glioblastoma multiforme (brain cancer). Lived 16 months from diagnosis. Died at 37. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mizjsea Posted October 21, 2015 Share Posted October 21, 2015 Stage 4 Kidney cancer, rare aggressive subtype (1%). No signs of anything and in incredible shape and health until first symptom at stage 4. Gone in 7 months. After being on this side of the fence, I am so bothered by all the "cancer lore" - such as all the stories in the media about the cancer fighters who win with their positive thoughts. If optimism was a true factor, my husband would have lived till he was 105. My brother has a good expression that "fate steps in and lets you know who is in charge." I know similar things have been said on these site; it is nothing new. But the shock IT happened still takes my breath away and I suppose it always will. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fuchsia Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Chondromsarcoma stole my husband a week ago. He fought for three years and live every day to the fullest. He wss wonderful. Cancer sucks! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest DebW Posted October 25, 2015 Share Posted October 25, 2015 Stage 4 Kidney cancer, rare aggressive subtype (1%). No signs of anything and in incredible shape and health until first symptom at stage 4. Gone in 7 months. After being on this side of the fence, I am so bothered by all the "cancer lore" - such as all the stories in the media about the cancer fighters who win with their positive thoughts. If optimism was a true factor, my husband would have lived till he was 105. My brother has a good expression that "fate steps in and lets you know who is in charge." I know similar things have been said on these site; it is nothing new. But the shock IT happened still takes my breath away and I suppose it always will. I am so sorry for your loss. This too annoys the hell out of me, people who are positive seem to be deemed more worthy to live than someone who is struggling with what they are facing - you can't tell me that these people are 100% happy all the time, it's just what they present to the world. Also the 'miracle cures' touted in the press, it used to upset Anthony no end to have well meaning friends text or email us links to the lastest thing to try. We aren't religious in the conventional sense either and it annoys me when people tell you to have faith, God has a plan. As my 8 year old said, there is no good god that would allow this to happen to his daddy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guaruj Posted October 26, 2015 Share Posted October 26, 2015 My wife, Catherine, died in July 2014, 8 years after the discovery of her first soft tissue sarcoma tumor. After being on this side of the fence, I am so bothered by all the "cancer lore" - such as all the stories in the media about the cancer fighters who win with their positive thoughts. If optimism was a true factor, my husband would have lived till he was 105. I agree with this completely. |+| M a r k |+| Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bones Posted October 26, 2015 Share Posted October 26, 2015 Leiomyosarcoma of the left pulmonary artery. Misdiagnosed as a Pulmonary Embolism. Symptoms persisted and was misdiagnosed again, with a psychogenic cough- a fancy way of saying that persistent barking cough is all in your head. Someone finally had the good sense to repeat a CT. The diagnosis did not seem compatible with life. It wasn't. As many of you witnessed the same, my husband went through unimaginable procedures and complications to try to stay alive for his family. He passed July 2015. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheelerswife Posted October 26, 2015 Share Posted October 26, 2015 I'm sorry that you lost your husband to leiomyosarcoma, Bones. I'm all too familiar with it myself, having been diagnosed with the unterine form of LMS just weeks after my second husband died. Not many people have heard of it. Sigh. Maureen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TalksToAngels Posted October 26, 2015 Share Posted October 26, 2015 Cancer wid. Misdiagnosis, with soon after to be "death sentence". I hold a lot inside, knowing the doctors could have acted sooner, with regard to treatment. It seems a complete blur now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest nonesuch Posted October 28, 2015 Share Posted October 28, 2015 i didn't even look closely at late husband's death certificate until yesterday. I had to fax it to the manager of the Veterans' Cemetery. Pulmonary embolism Lung cancer Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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