SailorGirl Posted February 29, 2016 Share Posted February 29, 2016 It happened again. Less than two years after losing my husband, I have just lost the second most important man in my life. My best friend/boyfriend Ryan went missing in the marina where our boat was docked on Feb 20. We had broken up about 6 months prior due to issues with his family; he was living on the boat, but we still talked occasionally. I was standing in line at the corner grocery store on Saturday when I saw the fire truck and rescue boat racing down my street. They recovered his body in the water around 1,000 feet from my house, which is roughly 1.5 miles from the marina. He was 39. I watched the recovery from my living room window. Everyone said he came back to me. To top it off, today is my late husband's birthday. He was a leap day baby, so this is his first 'real' birthday since his passing. Hy heart hurts so badly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wife of Tomasz Posted February 29, 2016 Share Posted February 29, 2016 SailorGirl I am so so sorry. My heart is with you. Hugs Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jess Posted February 29, 2016 Share Posted February 29, 2016 My heart hurts for you, SailorGirl. It just isn't fair. I wish I knew the right thing to say, but my thoughts are with you. Just heartbroken. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fuchsiasky Posted February 29, 2016 Share Posted February 29, 2016 So very sorry. Big hugs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Justin Posted February 29, 2016 Share Posted February 29, 2016 SailorGirl, I am so very sorry. To have to go through this hurt once is terrible, and I can't even imagine what you are going through now. This just sucks so badly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captains wife Posted February 29, 2016 Share Posted February 29, 2016 Sailorgirl - I am so so sorry. I was tearing up just reading this - this is COMPLETELY unfair. Please take care of yourself. I lost my husband similarly and in the body of water right around the corner from my house so I understand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen Posted February 29, 2016 Share Posted February 29, 2016 No words... I am so, so sorry. (((((((HUGS))))))) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Damiansinc Posted February 29, 2016 Share Posted February 29, 2016 Heartbreaking. HUGE hugs to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheelerswife Posted February 29, 2016 Share Posted February 29, 2016 Hugs to you. I'm so sorry. Maureen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trying Posted March 1, 2016 Share Posted March 1, 2016 There are no words to say how sad I am for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guaruj Posted March 1, 2016 Share Posted March 1, 2016 SailorGirl - I am so sorry that this happened. Please continue to let all of us know how you are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoVerySad Posted March 1, 2016 Share Posted March 1, 2016 I'm so very sorry, SailorGirl. Sending you tight hugs of support... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
widowat33 Posted March 1, 2016 Share Posted March 1, 2016 I am so sorry. Hugs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momtokam Posted March 1, 2016 Share Posted March 1, 2016 I am so sorry..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donswife Posted March 1, 2016 Share Posted March 1, 2016 I am so sorry ,.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gracelet Posted March 1, 2016 Share Posted March 1, 2016 The world can be a cruel place. I'm so sorry for both your losses. Breathe. Drink water. You (sadly) know the drill. Please be gentle on yourself darling. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SailorGirl Posted March 1, 2016 Author Share Posted March 1, 2016 It gets worse. I sent his sister a text and asked if it was OK if I attend the memorial service on Thursday. She wrote back and said "I don't think that would be a good idea. No." I know this isn't what he would have wanted, but I will respect their wishes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheelerswife Posted March 1, 2016 Share Posted March 1, 2016 I'm sorry. I don't know what I would do if I were you. I'm sensing that you need something for you, too. Is there a wake? Could you make arrangements for a private time with him present? Will there be an interment? How can you remember him, perhaps with other people who knew the two of you together? Letting go of our dreams is hard. I don't know if you had hope for getting back together again, but you apparently loved him, even though there were challenges in your relationship and with his family. Hugs, and keep breathing. Maureen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kjs1989 Posted March 2, 2016 Share Posted March 2, 2016 Oh geez. I am so sorry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
twistedmensa Posted March 2, 2016 Share Posted March 2, 2016 I'm so sorry. Cyber hugs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabzmom Posted March 2, 2016 Share Posted March 2, 2016 I am so very sorry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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