Gabzmom

I have a business and I wanted to quit. At the time of my husband's death, my daughter was 13. It doesn't seem to get easier as her activities have increased and I have to do all the driving. Luckily, she gets her license in June. There just isn't enough of me to go around. I was asked to go back to Corporate and work in Education and Training. Problem was the 75% travel. Turned it down. I decided not to make any drastic changes to my career or living situation. We still live in the same house - I love my neighborhood and neighbors. The house is too big, but I can downsize when DD goes off to college in two years. I am really glad I stayed with my business - it allowed me the flexibility to work around my DD's needs.

Big, big hugs to you. I have a sophomore and will be there soon enough. Your pride is so evident - I know he's got to be a great kid! Big hug to you both.

I would like to bookmark this thread or save to a favorite. Is there a way to do that on this board?

1-ish works for me.

That's a totally awesome story!!!

Fingers are crossed!

I think that is my issue. I don't want to give up my data and there's not even a chance I would ever go over 3 EVER! Thanks!

Gah! This is a non-important topic but I need to ask as I do not get the whole data thing. I am grandfathered with unlimited data with my carrier. I was eligible for a new contract back in February 2014. I just chose to keep my old iPhone and have not renewed. I am considering getting a new phone and it will cost about $700 if I do not upgrade with the carrier. If I do, then I have to go to a new data plan. If I upgrade, I think the phone is about $400 with the same gigs. I have a 64 gig iPhone 4S. I am getting a new phone because I have had it shut down on me and I have lost numbers, etc. Have no idea why I feel I need to keep unlimited data. I don't use more than 2 Gs per month. My DD has a tendency to use 4 to 5 Gs on a heavy month. Gah, again! :

I love the logo, too!

I can only send a hug as I choke back tears. I am sooo very sorry.

Congratulations to the both of you!

I get it was time to move on. And it was hard to breathe when you feel your life line was yanked out from under you. I think, if they were moving on, or it was too much, maybe asking if others wanted to step up as admin - that might have been the way to go.

I am going to my first Bago! NYC bound!

OMGosh! I thought it said smile. I was assuming it was two levels of "like" or "thumbs up!" OMG - I hope I didn't smite anyone! If I did, I meant to smile at you!

I think for the most part, I have stayed close to the people that were close to me before Rob. I think it was hard for the couples to include me. However, I have so many obligations because of work and community activities that I went to either alone, with Rob, or with my daughter that my community and work stuff is still the same. I would go to Girls' night out events with my married friends and that was fine. I have a tendency to need a break from everyone and spend a little time alone.

I am wondering why you feel that separation. It was hard for me because it's in rare moments that I feel Rob's presence. I feel the week after he left this earth, the wind blew and he went on with it. Yet there are times when he is with us - right as rain? Sending a hug your way although it's not sad for you.

Thank you, thank you! I apparently had an unread message and didn't see it because I didn't know how to look with the default setting. LOL. This is much easier for my old eyes!

Hi, I'm Angie. My husband Rob and I were somehow meant to be together. He by far was the funniest man I ever knew - he had a brilliant, dry, quick wit that kept me in stitches. He was a kind and nurturing soul - he was kind and gentle with the young and the elderly. I loved watching him around my grandma and his grandparents. We got married twice, thanks to Deserts Shield & Storm. He was in the Air Force and left after 10 years and went into the AF Reserves. He got his degree and ended up finishing a career handling insurance fraud. Rob was a runner in high school and for a year in college. He didn't run much during our marriage but his family said it was beautiful to watch him run (he ran the mile and mile medley) - his fastest time in HS was 4.19 and in college it was 4.11 (I remember that because it's my height). Rob was my best friend, the perfect complement to me. He was laid back and easy going and I am hyper and always on overdrive. He was pretty healthy on the outside but had some issues with high blood pressure. He was thin and seemed to be in perfect health. However, he left us far too soon due to a cerebral aneurism. We are now almost 33 months out. My daughter was 13 at the time of his passing. I think she was my lifeline - my reason for living. People perceived me to be strong and yet, as I look back, I think I fell into this deep abyss. I was on auto pilot - my memory was shot, my brain was shot. I could only focus on making sure my daughter would be okay. I miss him every day. I know this is getting long but I thought I would post my first posts on YWBB. I joined in August of 2012. I couldn't read the threads - it was too painful for me and Lord knows, I was pushing my pain aside just to survive. I think it took me damn near two years to allow myself to be sad. I had my crying moments in the shower, in the car, in private. But I kept those moments very brief. I started and stopped, and started and stopped a private blog to write my thoughts out - it was a bit cathartic at times and at others, so very painful that I had to leave it. (and as for the slacks mentioned below, they are still hanging in my closet) Anyway - here are my posts: YWBB on 9-2-12 I am so sorry for everyone's loss. I signed onto the board on 08/02. I could only post a few words at the time. I have been pretty much in a fog. As the fog lifts, there is still so much to do. I am getting the medical bills now and I put them away. Rob died from an aneurism. I found him downstairs and called 911. A neighbor came over to help me. He was still alive but having a hard time breathing. They did surgery - I had a little hope that he would come through, but with major medical problems. He had been responding. Then later that evening/morning, they called me at my brother's home (he lives 2 miles from the hospital). His fluid was building up againg and they put in the shunt. By this time - severe brain damage. We got back to the hospital within a half hour - 3:30 a.m. We said our good-byes less than 12 hours later. My best friend and love of 21 years was gone at 53. I feel lost without him. We have a 13 yo and will be going to a program called bridges. This is so hard. And I feel so sad for all that have to go through this horrible time. I hope we can get through this - I call it "our new normal." YWBB on 9-2-12 I gave away Rob's suits to my nephew. I asked my DD to pick things she wanted. We are keeping his shirts as a friend is going to make a quilt. I am taking his shoes and slacks to a place for people that need work clothes/interview clothes and can't pay for them. I gave ties to his best friend, brothers, and my daughter. I still have several. I can't get to the socks, t-shirts and underwear. I have the craziest moments at the littlest things. When I returned his work cell phone. When i had to cancel the Long Term Care policy. When I changed the insurance on the car. I cry and feel like I am erasing him one piece at a time.

Obligatory wedding photo: I never saw this picture until the day before the funeral. It was taken at our BFFs' wedding. They met at our wedding the year before: He and I being goofy at a 70's birthday party: My favorite of father & daughter:

I am in!