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It was my first Mother's Day without him too. I got the most amazing gift from my kids--my daughter created a small booklet, made out of index cards, titled, "13 Reasons Why I Love You Mom." Each card had a different reason. My favorite...#8 You function as both mom and dad. No doubt I'm doing something right! Hope all had a wonderful day!

This is the first I ever heard of the day. Waiting for my greeting cards and flowers Saw this article which I thought was great. http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/grieving-national-widows-day_us_5908c1dee4b02655f8415065

I finally got some matches on Bumble and have started messaging the men. Most don't reply back. I'm a big girl and that's fine. But the fun (?) has been with the ones who have replied...the first got insulted that I didn't jump at his immediate offer of going all 50 Shades of Grey on me (really? we just started chatting five seconds ago!) The second guy told me in his first message that he was into extreme fetishes... OK...so is this how it is going to be? What ever happened to meeting for coffee?

I just got her new booked called "Option B". Will be reading it over the next few days.

An old friend of mine offered his benefits. I accepted. It was good!

I got my first tattoo at last year at 48 (the words "carpe diem' on my right inner forearm) and got my second a few months later where my neck meets the shoulder. Now making plans for my third. The new one will be the words "she persisted" on the left inner forearm. Eventually, I would like to get a memorial tattoo for my husband. That one is too special...I want it to be perfect.

Has anyone else tried Bumble? I did this week and can't believe not one match out of the dozens of men that I had liked. Not one. Ego bruised but, in all reality, not the worst thing to have happened to me.

Hello Ted. My sympathies on your loss. You ask is this normal...I don't think there i such a thing as "normal" in what any of us are going through. Each case is different unto itself. But, are others in the same situation as you and feeling the same pangs of guilt? Yes! I could have written an almost identical post. My husband passed on Halloween, four days after our 15th wedding anniversary. The final year of his life he bravely fought cancer but at the same time was slowly pushing me away. Intimacy was non-existent. If you ask me, the man I knew and fell in love with died a year before he physically left this Earth. In the meanwhile, I had reconnected online with a friend I went to elementary school with. He was able to lift up my spirits when the task of caregiving was overwhelming, make me feel desired when my husband pushed me away. After my husband passed, I experienced the guilt of wanting to start up with him immediately. However, I had to take a step back and allow myself to reevaluate the situation and give myself a chance to grieve. That was hard but this is all hard. I've come to the conclusion that my friendship was more important that starting a physical relationship that would most likely destroy everything at this point. Down the road, things may change but I can't force it. Hope this helps.

Wasn't as bad as I thought it would be especially since it was the first VD since he passed but also his birthday! Double Whammy! I met two of his sisters and his parents at the cemetery. His older sister brought doughnuts which is what he used to ask her for after chemo. We toasted him and had a few laughs especially when we cursed him for not leaving behind a pitcher of Bloody Marys for us! I then went with his mom to get a headstone (makes a great birthday gift--NOT). Later in the day, I returned with my children so they could sing Happy Birthday to him. Good thing the cemetery was empty because my son was enjoying running around in the snow! Best part of the day was finding out that my nephew had taken my son so that he could get me VD cards! And today I woke up happier than I had been the past few weeks knowing that I survived what I thought would be the worst of the firsts days!

I just wanted to share how I spent my Saturday night because it is kind of neat...I took my kids to the New York Islanders game (that's not the neat part). One of the players, Travis Hamonic, lost his dad when he was 10-years-old. Now he invites kids in similar situations to use his tickets to the game and then, after the game, he meets with them. (you can google the terrific story ESPN did on him a few years back) My two were thrilled. One of the first things he said to them was that he promised that it will get better. He was honest and said that this first year will suck but as time goes on, the pain is less and less. They will never forget their Dad but the sadness will make way for keeping traditions, making new traditions and living life the way he would have wanted. Not a bad Saturday night.

Gee, the only thing I got from Facebook was a bunch of phony friend requests once it went out that I was newly widowed! I wish you well!

I'm sure the coach would appreciate any insight as to what is going on at home. I know that my children's teachers and coaches were glad to know about my husband's illness and eventual death. I'll never forget how happy they were when some of them came to the wake. The show of support meant the world to them. Your son's coach may just say something one day to let your son know that he knows and he is there for him

Wow, I'm glad to see that I'm not alone. Tomorrow will be three months since my husband passed and sex is certainly on the mind. It's been over a year since I've had because of his illness and the effects of chemo. While I do feel guilty that he's been gone physically only 3 months, I also feel as if he really was taken from me long before that.

Hello, I'm Linda. My husband lost his brave fight against cancer on Halloween morning. We had celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary four days earlier as he lay in hospice. He was 50 years young (I just turned 49 last week and am left wondering what to expect next) I have two children (13 & 11) and my focus has been primarily helping them with the loss of their father. I have to say that since he was sick most of 2016 and in hospice the final five weeks of his life, they at least had the opportunity to say their goodbyes. I stumbled across this site and am grateful I did as I see that there are others who are experiencing what I have been going through.