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What Portside said! ASAP!!!!

Getting excited, I am looking forward to this after the huge headache of moving and selling my house😀, as it gets closer I will need info on what airport etc. Looking forward to meeting all of you...

I'm so sorry that you've lost someone special to your family

Funny how much their death has changed us. I look in the mirror and think I have a permanent look of sadness. I know I don't put makeup on as much as I once did. I think I just don't care like I did when he was here. I definitely aged a little faster the first 2-3 years after he passed, but it has now been 11.5 years and I wish some of these things would get better. I keep trying, can't blame a girl for trying...

Wow, what a beautiful place hachi. The last few days I've had the pleasure of sharing stories of my dh because the person happens to be someone who used to work with him, and he didn't even realize that it was our house until he met me here. This person buying it had never been here before.... Big (((hugs)))...

I know, I've lived in the north east just not quite that far north. It will still be nice and pretty up there....

Wheelerswife one of the things on my bucket list is to see it snow on the ocean whilst I sit on the beach drinking some wine. I get to enjoy the pretty beaches here in FL, but I rarely drink because of health reasons but I sure would with that one! I intend to accomplish it someday, anyone care to join me??

, must be a good show if it's getting sold out. I'm sure there will be plenty to do for everyone, hope you and your ng have a great time....

Love2fish are you asking us all on a date? It all sounds like fun

Second!

So, how are things going???

I'm sorry your kids have to know this pain so early in life. (((hugs))) to all of you....

Mike we (my family) call them educated idiots! They seem to have all that book smarts, and not an ounce of common sense.... As for JustMom, I don't think it matters if any of us were married for 60 years verses 6 years. When we lose our spouse to death, it's devastating and hurts!!! It does NOT compare, nor is it a competition of any sorts to anything! That would be like one of your relatives comparing it to their divorce for goodness sakes! Be yourself with your dad, and just ask him if there is anything he needs. Like someone else here said , let it play out, or if you see something way off, then step in! Best of luck to you dealing with the crap, just keep the shovel close....

Well closing did NOT take place on the 18th, That person went and did a surgery that could have waited for a few more days and would not even answer calls from his own realtor! I ended up chewing my realtor out BIG time, handed her her ass, told her she wasn't doing her the job she was hired to do, etc. etc... Finally after I think it was 11 or 12 days, I cancelled the contract with the douche bag and he then decided he wanted to bully me! He wouldn't sign off on the escrow money, said he still wanted the house, I found out he didn't have the funds, was lying about everything! Can you guess what I told him to go and do? Thank goodness there was someone who had been waiting the whole time to see if the sale was going to happen, and jumped right in, now I am nervous after going through all of that with closing in a few days..... I already have major trust issues, so please say some prayers that this time everything goes through and I can move on. I am soooo ready to just move on already! Oh finally got the douche bag to sign off on the escrow money. I had screen shot everything that was texted to me, and after the fight with my realtor she stepped up and showed his lender where he lied in the contract. He lost!!!

This says it all! Some people are just plain mean and psychotic, and clearly this man WAS NOT listening to her nor did he give a damn what she said or thought! So to those of you who made some rather nasty comments about her using someone else's death as a way to "get out" of the date with this person, REALLY? Have YOU taken a moment to think about what makes YOU stop and think about your dh/dw? What is that pull for you? My goodness is there no compassion anymore??? Besides, did WW date affect any of us? Not me, but I'm glad she has this place to come to.... Type on WW....

WW, I think it's fine however YOU choose to go about it. It's obvious the guy wasn't listening or interested in YOU to begin with! Sounds to me he was only thinking with his crotch and nothing else! He must of been a real boar!!! And yes, pun intended.... Sounds like one of those people that thinks NO means Yes, and just doesn't understand boundaries or others feelings. There is a reason that guy is still alone....

If I can ever get this house sold I would be interested! I've always wanted to see Maine, and it would be a nice get away from florida for my birthday on the 16th, and I would love to have some good people to have some lobster with

CONGRATS! WISHING YOU BOTH MANY YEARS OF LOVE AND HAPPINESS !

KK says it very well and so do the others, I'm so sorry you've had to join this club that no one wants to be a member of. Sadly you will find that others will pull away from you because now you remind them that it can happen to them, and you as a young woman are a "threat" to them. I find that to be the most ignorant thing in the world , but they do see us women in that context. Remember to eat, drink, and do the best you can to take care of that baby you are carrying, it is a part of both of you. Come here and vent, scream, cry all you want, WE GET IT! WE UNDERSTAND! Know that you are NOT alone.... (((hugs)))

I have to say I love reading all of your stories. I can sooo relate to several here, and agree with Portside about not giving up the goods too fast for the wrong person, unless that is something you can live with. I have seen, heard, and been privy to the immaturity of one who confuses sex with actual love! That breaks my heart. Now don't get me wrong, I love a good romp in the hay, and a man with a slow hand too, but there can be a difference also when you just want to play verses having love involved.... I enjoy playtime, but with the person I love.... sigh.....

Mike, My dh was cremated and is in a double urn which I keep with me. I had remarried, but just recently divorced. Although I was remarried it was never an issue about what or where I would go if something were to happen to me first! My dh and I had even had this discussion before he passed away, and he knew I would be with him and my name would be on the urn hyphenated. I can see the reason why if there is children from your marriage with Cathryn to be buried by her and the plot is already purchased, but it is not necessary to have to be there. You can always leave the plot alone, or your new wife can be buried there and if your going to be cremated you can be put in between both graves with both wives.... just saying..... But I wonder why it bothers your new fiancé so much knowing you have had that plot for so long. It's not uncommon to go ahead and purchase your own plot when we lose a spouse.

Me too Taurus, except I am 11 years in now. I did another short marriage and it just ended, thank goodness, but if it's not meant to be it will fail and hurt like heck. Be patient and good to yourself.

This line here says it all for me! The guy I just divorced promised it was all on the table before we ever married, and guess what? It wasn't! Somethings you just can't find even with investigating, like if they are closet abusers or right out psychopaths….

oh I forgot to add we also had our wedding date inscribed inside our rings too...

The movie was Ghost, the inscription was "ditto"