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Oh tybec I'm so sorry that you are having to go through all of this. Yes I'm very familiar with that bible quote, yet the hits keep coming for me, oiy!!!! My buyers title company wants my soon to be ex to sign a quit claim deed on MY house with which his name is NOT on or associated with, after our divorce is over! They are wrong and my attorney even tried to tell these idiots this and they still argued with MY attorney about it, sshhheessshhhh. So now it's going to cost me several hundred dollars that I can't afford to have him meet up with me, (and I thought I wouldn't have to see the jerk ever again) to sign this and then I have to file it to sell MY house, and I didn't want this ass to know I was selling or any of my business..... Oh the atrocities of life handed out to us widows, I'm so sick of it! Best of luck to you, and hope your house sells soon and you are done with all of it very very soon, and are able to have this person out of your life for good....

This is one of those times that shows people say the dumbest things! How much time we have together, and/or our age does NOT dictate our love for each other.... It reminds me of when my dh died 11 years ago, and it took everything in me to attend a grief support group. The man running the group actually came to my house and asked me not to come back because my young age (43) upset so many of the people there! I didn't go back. I did learn you can't fix stupid!!! and death doesn't just pick the elderly.... I'm so sorry your "friends" were so insensitive. (((hugs)))

[ It depends on State and local laws and ordinances. I thought I said this, sorry.... Because nothing matters if it isn't the law, and really it is up to the person who is having to deal with it all.

First, if there is a lease, then they (the tenants) have to have to pay their rent even if the house is being sold. They only have to pay the new owners after they take ownership of the house, and if I understand correctly then the rent payments then go to the new owners until the lease is up. It's like judge Judy says, you don't eat the whole steak then decide you didn't like it!

What your realtor knows is how to make their money , they don't care about you! Do you have a signed lease with the person who rented your place? If nothing else, even with the sale of your house the witch owes you for 1 months rent outside of the other monies paid to you when she moved in! For the time it took with no income on the property. So, if you need to sell, understandable, but don't be a doormat and let these aholes take advantage of you because they know you are alone. Be the strong hard woman you can be, and make them do what they are suppose to do, DON'T BACK DOWN! State your case like you know what YOU are talking about, even if YOU are faking it. Be strong and FIRM, make it sound like you are the one who is being fair with them, not the other way.... YOU GOT THIS...

That is exactly what I did Toosoon2. And it is a HUGE pita!, but you really have to grow a tough skin, cause there are some really rude people out there and they are gonna say some nasty ugly crap about your house so they think they can get it for nothing! You got to be able to say NOPE, and let them get on up outta there, until the right one comes on in there and sees what you saw in that place. Like I said it is a sellers market right now, so be patient and it will move. I myself, am downsizing. Got up this morning feeling weepy cause I only have 3 weeks left here after 25 years.... But I knew there would come a day to let it go. I went and rented a storage unit yesterday, and will be moving stuff to it next weekend, sigh.... Next month will be at my daughters place, for a while. gonna try that for a bit. will keep you all posted Good luck to you...

Well an update. He (the soon to be ex, jerk) said he would at the very least show me some respect and wait until the divorce was final before he even considered another woman, and he claims he wasn't interested in anyone else. Yeah right, I knew he was lying and cheating for months now! Well he has been on dating sites for over a month, and I just threw him out February 18th!! The divorce will be final on the 7th of May, at least I was smart enough to get this jerk to pay all the bills here and to sign an agreement to pay me back over eleven thousand dollars he owes me that I set up on a time line I set up, the way I set it up. Then I close on my house on the 18th. I do however believe in karma, and he has a HUGE debt to pay. Hopefully it will be due and I get to see it happen before my time is done here on earth. I appreciate all of you reading and listening to my ranting and complaining, thanks...

tybec I am selling my house right now, and I did get a few LOW offers cause that is what people do! Counter back and stand your ground, make your realtor work for YOU. It is a sellers market right now... As far as the friend goes, hhmmm, I have to agree with trying2, she should be offering something for breaking the lease. Best of luck to you.

Thanks Trying, I do feel like an emotional exhausted nut job right now! On top of it all, I have to meet with a judge on the 7th to finalize my divorce from the jerk , after my doctors appointment that morning, oiy!!! So my back aches ALL the time, I have to deal with the mistake of the jerk, packing a house I have lived in for 25 years, and now moving the stuff starting tomorrow into a storage place, SSIIIGGGHHHHH...... I can, and am doing this ;D :

Sounds to me like he is just dropping by to say hi, and he is happy with how your life is. I would think he would really point out something in specific if there were something wrong, or at least I would hope so. Know what I mean? But I understand feeling confused by it, because that's what I did when it happened to me, then I learned to relax and pay more attention to see if he was pointing something out or just stopping by. Don't be so hard on yourself, some of us have gone through it too, so your not alone.

I'm so sorry for your loss Annie. I'm not young like you so I can't imagine your pain at your age. Please keep coming here and expressing yourself. I'm glad your going to see a counselor, take good care of yourself, or at least the best that you can right now. It does get easier with time, and I can tell you that. I also can tell you that we all learn how to live with the loss in our own ways, and I can promise you that the love stays with you. ((((hugs))))

I hear you sunshine, and as of now, we are in contract :-X, have the closing date as well. I got to choose which person, and I liked the one I picked and his realtor. He met my counter offer, and the inspections are Monday, knowing that I am selling "as is". I can say on thing for sure - this is stressful stuff, and I'm tired.... I will be glad and sad when it's all over!

so perfectly said for so many of us here jeudi, thank you...

This has been my hardest challenge thus far since dh died. I guess I am that person who truly loved being a wife, and mother. We had just gotten our last child out of the house and were just starting to make our list of things that "we" had waited to do when "the kids are grown and gone", when he got sick and died. Just want peace and happiness. (having dh back would be great too)

What he said....

jeudi, you are right I am in Florida and she didn't have the tube with flyers, or the directional sign on the main road! I had to ask for them, which pissed me off!!! I had my house priced right, especially for the size, the area, and the acreage... I as of today have a bidding war going on ;D, and did a price negotiation with one of the people and he met what I asked for, so looks like I am probably finally selling, yayyyy!!!!

Happy Monday back to you! So I was wondering, does this mirroring work for other expressions as well??? lol Like the next time I see my soon to be ex, when he starts to be an ass to me can I just act out with mirroring what he has been doing to me for the last few years ? ;D

found out the fixer upper across the street sold for over 100,000, and it has no yard, and had no sign. Sold in less than 2 weeks!!!

To those who have sold their homes and are selling. I have my house on the market right now, and my question is this. Is it common for the realtor you hire NOT to show your house, but to list it as an mls and have other agents show it? Also, I've had to be on her ass for everything. Like I am 2 blocks back off the main road, so I had to ask after a couple of weeks ,"hey where's the signs up on the main road?" Then I had to ask where's the flyers that I should have to put on the counter for when people come through or that I can hand out? So stuff like that. She also wanted to drop the price on my house in only 2.5 weeks of it going on the market!!! That really pissed me off. After other agents show the house, my agent NEVER gets back with me with any feed back either! Is this normal? Oh and this is definitely a good market here for selling a house! Do I have a right to feel like she is NOT doing her job, and I am not happy with the pictures they did either, and I told her so....

((((Euf)))), I get it, they are our pets and we love them. Sorry she is gone....

Mac I like how your time line is. For me , I am now 11 years out, At first it was the WTF just happened and where did everyone go?? then year 2-3, ok what am I suppose to do now? The only person left or who stayed was my daughter, but I guess it's time to buy some more tissues and get back up! year 4-5 I can do this , maybe I will go out with that guy, this is fun again. Life is ok again, I can do this! Ok, I will marry this guy and live again... year 6 I married the guy I dated. year 7.5-8, new guy started mentally, and emotionally abusing me! I let him into my vulnerable soft heart and he went for it. year 11, 3 days after my 11 year sadiversary was told I needed back surgery, (day before valentines), ng tells me he wants a divorce, calls me a fu**ing whore, and walks out, empties our bank account, leaves me with 2 big dogs to feed, and has the nerve to ask me to give him MY HOUSE, that has been mine for 25 years! today, sitting here, packing up my house, for sale sign up, and once again wondering WTF! But also knowing once it is sold, I will have my back surgery, I will heal, I'm not a whore, and if I was he couldn't afford me ;D, and I will get back up and survive to see that bastard fall!!! How about that! I always said I should write a book about my life, but don't know how many people would read it....

I absolutely agree with arneal on this! I wish I had listened to mine. If I had of, I wouldn't be getting a divorce right now as I type this! All of the signs were there and I ignored them, telling myself that I was being to picky, or to hard on others, etc. Damn it wasn't my gut telling me to pay attention and run the other way..... I am emotionally, physically, financially, and mentally paying for it now. Please take the time for you and really look at all of it, and don't just settle :-\

I realized today as I did more packing and reading on here, that the place I want to run away to is Misfit Island. Does anyone else remember this place from Rudoldph the red nose Reindeer? I don't want to be a dentist. Although I will be kind and friendly to abominable, perhaps even cuddle with him, lol.... Anyone else want to go with???

It's ok to not be strong all the time Mizpah. It is very tiring to carry so much upon our backs. I think like Portside side said, people are just trying to be nice and say "something" rather than say "nothing". I at 11 years out would rather they just say nothing! Wishing us all peace and some kind of happiness.