donswife

I am so sorry for your loss , I am sure this also triggers all the feelings you had when it happened to you My don donated his organs , corneas skin, etc it was done locally and NO Cost to me so hard enough as this is ,know that your intuition was right about it sounded unusual take care

have a wonderful adventure and can't wait to hear how it goes and see pictures yes all you need is money and id and a sense of adventure which you have gives me a little hope that one day I can plan an adventure also take care

wish I had something to say to help but I don't just sending hugs your way and that was perfectly written

I remember the first time I had to fill out the married , single line actually it was for my new health insurance and I couldn't figure out that one question so I called and ask if I should claimed Married and she said no you are no longer considered Married needless to say took a long time to recover from that one Sukl1-I like your answer and to tell the truth I am constantly still talking to my husband , makes me sound like a crazy person but it helps sometimes

just curious how I am supposed to answer this question sometimes I don't or can't emotionally go into my story and cant handle people's reactions from pity to not knowing at all what to say just wondering how to handle it

today has had a huge rush of those feeling you are having that its finally settling in that they are not coming back not sure why , think it has something to do all the yard work I had to rush home after work to mow , Don loved to mow , called it his zen to me its just another thing I have to get done and it reminds me like a punch in the chest that he is not here I also have most of his things around ...his slippers havent been moved an inch I still sometimes use his soap(irish spring ) just to smell it in the air and yes those phone calls everyday seeing where you are so missed

I agree the 6 month mark is so tough . I feel sometimes like its a prison and in my head I have big X's to mark the days hoping that each day will be the day I am out But its seems like we have all been given a life sentence and the days are never ending I wish for you(and all of us) some days of not feeling like we are drowning and not just grasping for air but actually breathing on our own terms sending a tight hug your way

I have 3 of my nephews getting married so lots of my weekends filled but would love it if it worked out will keep looking for when you pin down a date

Jess - I really feel for you Hard enough to go through this but also not having him with you to help has got to be such an emotional roller coaster but a wise women once quoted On particularly rough days when I am sure I can't endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100 % and that's pretty good cant tell you often I think of this quote you have and it gets me through the next few rough minutes/days take care

You're not whining at all , sorry the time away ended quickly with all the crap of doing things by ourselves I planned my runaway a few months after Don died It was just me and my dog overlooking the ocean (it was winter but didn't matter ) It was such a good time to be away from the house , chores , bill paying and thinking then friends a month after that took me overnight to a casino , not my thing normally but I had a nice time with laughing and just getting away from all the grief I now will try and plan a few more distractions of get away's

I am around the 6 month mark and you are so right about everything so odd to think I would prefer the auto pilot and fog of the beginning first months but i miss the 'denial' part that seemed to shelter my heart thanks for writing this

Gave a women ,with three kids in her Car, a jump start , she had been waiting for triple A for an hour Bad news , wasn't the battery , good news she said it was ok... just nice to have someone who was willing to help her out other good news Triple A was pulling in the parking lot when I was leaving

Sorry cant make it this time but will make sure I am in on future ones You couldnt ask for a better day ,

The heartbreak is overwhelming The fact you are getting up and going to work is a huge accomplishment and paying bills , I forgot a few bills along the way in my haze reach out whenever you can and like its been said before ...Just breath and take a minute at a time take care

I am holding on to my old Iphone which isn't working well but it has 2 voice mails from my don I am desperately trying to figure out a way to save them ,any ideas ? his voice is still on my answering machine which freaks some people out but comforts others (me mostly) sometimes I call the house to hear him so I am not sure what will happen when I lose these , which could happen at any minute with dropping phone or it just stopping working so all I can say is I am sorry you have lost these connections and I send hugs your way

this has just started happening or me also. I so remember all the things we did and feel him around but just recently I try and picture his face and can't I look at pictures (and talk to them :)but when i try and visualize him it just fades I hope it comes back for all of us so know you're not alone

I got the big shredder out and shred-ed away all those credit card applications that come in the mail probably at least 6 months worth ...felt good

I may not be able to come on sunday, I'll know more by friday a much in demand Handy man is coming by and so far sunday is the only day he can make it If he is able to switch days Ill let you know was really looking forward to coming

Don was a huge Fly fisherman and tied flys , the last couple of years he volunteered at at a place that help Veterans with PTSD His coworkers and family and friends have sold decals in his Honor to raise Money to have a plaque made in Dons honor that will be given to mentor of the year for the next ten years , Pretty proud of that

Yikes I am suppose to close his pay pal account its pretty amazing all the things we have to close or change I agree it would be so much easier if someone could just wave a wand and its all done Hard to keep it all on track when you are just trying to get through the day so know you're not alone

started to get some of dons fly tying material to donate to Project healing waters , don was a mentor there Raised over $1500 in his name to the organization and will also be giving the veteran he mentored one of dons favorite fishing poles also dog sat this weekend for a friend who owns a kennel so she could go and clear out her dads house (he passed away)

I so remember this feeling. Still have it but I am trying to take, as they say, one day at a time I mostly feel loss of the other part of me that was him, if that makes sense always felt like a whole happy person when we were together and now constantly feel like something is always missing But I do have good days and you will also but its so comforting to have a place like this to talk about the bad days

HI sounds like a great idea I am in if it works

Just stumbled upon this one His Name was Don. we met when I was 22 and he was 25 , both pretty wild at the time but the moment we met that was it! over the next 27 years we made a wonderful life together. He was the love of a lifetime and we never took that for granted We always had fun together and mostly when it was just the two of us. He was a jack of all trades and built me a beautiful house with amazing gardens outside. He was the kind of guy you wanted on your side He was fiercely loyal to his friends and family but it was an exclusive club I am happy to have been a member of that club thanks for letting me say his name and share his life

happy anniversary and its a good day to remember all the great times together and it sounds like you had that Hope this stays a good day take care