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I deleted it after I told him this morning (He knew About going to Obama together the only thing he didn't know was the history)... First text marathon/fight we have had. Things are clear now...We are ok...Yes I do have a conscience and he knew I acted weird Saturday. (I referenced that he used to sleep with his payroll lady who didn't quit until 6 months ago..and I didn't know they were sleeping together up until he met me). I didn't lie...just left things out...and he has done the sane. First big fight...but I think we got thru it. I think. time will tell.

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Yay!!!! Join us Ohio peeps!!!

Please don't let him resign....make them terminate him. If he's not terminated in writing...make sure a witness is present. The company under these circumstances wants him to resign...they terminate him-He will get unemployment. He resigns-in my experience it's doubtful.

Oh I remember this....and hearing it....even hearing excuses like "We assumed you were at your Mom's this weekend"--Basically they didn't want to deal with it..and it stung..The first two years...because we had been close couple friends and I immediately it seemed got disbanded..kicked out of the club. The good news....it forced me to seek out other true friendships. I will say I have two old friends from my previous life that still live in Stepford. But our friendship wasn't based on being a couple...or status in the community..We genuinely enjoyed each others company...it had nothing to do with our spouses...In fact....our friendship really didn't include couple/spouses. Over the years...I have found friendships that are based on your spouses....or even your kids friends/interests with kids...are fleeting. They really aren't deep. They are more convenient in the moment. Not saying that's bad...I have lots of those..But I no longer consider them close friends....more aquaintances. My true girlfriends...whom I may not see that often now...we can pick up wherever we left off. I reconnected with old high school friends, newly divorced friends...and even a few married friends whom I really just enjoy. But it does sting...and looking back....I see those relationships as shallow. But at the time it didn't make it hurt any worse. But now...I am aquaintances with those people...but I don't consider them friends. Actually, I find their company downright boring.

When I read thru this thread periodically....I realize that I have no desire to blend. I love NG..he loves me...my life is pretty crazy/hectic...I honestly can't imagine taking on a live in or a husband right now. That's just my situation with 3 kids. I am pretty frazzled juggling the things I have. I truly can't imagine juggling a new husband in my 40s. But I want to be with him...and maybe after a kid or two graduates I will feel differently. Right now I am enjoying the moment and am pretty content with the way things are. But I know I am weird.

Kinda goes with the "I am so blessed" stuff. I practice gratitude daily...but that slogan always irked me (and I am a person of faith) No you aren't blessed...you're lucky...or worked your ass of for it...or someone helped you along the way. The whole "blessed" always (to me anyway) gibes off the vibe of being the chosen ones...and those that have shitty things happen just haven't been good enough to be as blessed. But that's me...I know tons of people say it...And I do practice gratitude and being grateful.. I dunno..I believe in a higher power...good and evil...lightness and darkness....But all those religious platitudes just irk the shit outta me. --My jaded side I suppose.

If they start that shit on you with the Santa Shop (and whomever is in charge is almost always a control freak in this Stepford...I would make the PHD snarky comment your Mom suggested. Seriously.....they need a reality check. And it's passive/aggressive of me I know...but I love subtlety intimidating the PTA gurus.

Yes!! I so agree...and I can't the platitude "Everything happens for a reason"--I used to hear it so many times. I say bullshit..Sometimes bad stuff just happens to really good people for no reason. Just a random thing..genetics, laws of physics, whatever. But there isn't any grand plan in the whole thing. Random. I do believe we have the power and capacity with how we handle shitty situations....but that's our free will. Not some random grandiose plan.

:) Happy Dance! Congratulations!

My boys are 11 and almost 13. Overall they are doing very well. Both made A honor roll this past nine weeks, are involved..we talk about everything. They are very different though...the way I parent one is the total opposite of the younger one. And one is higher maintenance wanting all my time (the oldest). I worried about him with his foul language a few months ago. It's been a blessing teaching 7th grade at his school. I have all his friends..and really feel I know what's going on. I realize I was being tough...and not giving him enough credit that he's really a good responsible kind kid. They both eat like crazy and are growing like crazy. They argue some...we have jealousy issues Sonetimes between them...but they have become extremely close over the years. I always thought I was lucky that they had each other to lean on. They are 21 months apart and really it's tough sometimes but it's such a blessing they have each other. They have shared a room since the younger one came home from the hospital. Now my younger son and daughter....Those 2 bicker back and forth constantly. I seem to have the boy hang out house-It's exhausting at time...but I am glad there friends hang out here (as well as neighborhood kids). they are always having kids over (like every weekend)... But they are slobs....messier now than they were 5 years ago...and my housework has gone way up. It's a work in progress trying to get them to clean up after themselves (and honestly it's getting aggravating)...

I am in need of another adult only trip/weekend. Love my kids dearly...but every weekend NG and I shuffle kids activities, parties, they go with us to dinner/movies and we have to hide in the garage late at night to have sex. We haven't had alone time since Vegas....That was in July I think. I also enjoy my 8 year old daughters company better than my preteen sons.

he needs to write a "How to" book of some type. No..he doesn't know! He's uber private. But in my next book Playboy Neighbor is definitely getting an entire chapter. I am one of the people who writes a book...gets 5 copies made then locks them in a safe deposit box and my kids and grand kids can read when I die. 😃

:Oh the Santa Shop!!!! I did it once....always a few good cat fights/arguments during that week. Just giving you a heads up!😜

Yes! This!! With my oldest....when he was in 1st/2nd grade I tried...Did school carnival, volunteered when I could. I think I would rather poke my eyes out with a pencil than deal with the over the top controlling...Mom shaming PTA gurus. Then they get mad and talk about each other...both on social media and around town. (last week about 5 of them got pissy over the pumpkin/character project the 2nd graders did. I stay away now from all of it (amazingly I don't get talked about-outta sight outta mind). I am proud of you though for suffering thru the torture for your daughters benefit. Hats off to you TS!😊

Girl Scout parade last weekend and Lollypop pumpkins this weekend. You go girl!😎😇👀

Jesus Lol! You're right you are in Stepford too!!!😀😙😝 I am proud of you for doing it!!!i just can't....it's the same way here!!

Awful typos..in the dark on my phone

Had the best day yesterday....I got to see President Obama-in a small setting of only 150 people, shake his hand and listen to his policies/budget on helping the rx abuse/heroin/opiate overdoses in WV. (We have the highest rate of overdose deaths) It's a subject I am passionate about (as y'all know).. and never thought I would be able to attend. Playboy neighbor calls me Monday and tells me he mig be able to get tickets. His daughter is an attorney for Joe Bden. He gets my SS number birthdate and says he will let me know. Tuesday he calls at school-He got tickets. We stove up in his convertible Mercedes with the top down-had lunch...and went to the event. It was amazing and I love talking politics with him. He didn't hit on me (he obviously knows I am seeing someone I mean he lives across the street).. but did ask me to dinner. I declined and told him I needed to get home to the kids. No temptation on my part...and trust me finding a liberal well connected mentor is hot to me. But looked at him solely as a bud/neighbor. NG knew I was going and was excited for me...but doesn't know the history with Playboy neighbor. NG came up after his meeting around 9...It solicitafied to me how much I am into and committed to NG. Cause before playboy neighbor could seduce me Everytime. Of course probably 80 percent of my friends here hate Obama. So I am sharing it here. It was a happy day....and a day I proven to myself that I do finally have my shit together (in more ways than one yesterday)😊

Agree with Mrs Dan Soberecovery.com has an entire segment of the forum devoted to family members of addicts. I went to the site my first few months of being clean when I was going day by day and struggling to stay clean. Check out the website!

In my experience..if you voluntarily quit..you don't receive any unemployment. If you are terminated (or laid off)--depending on the reason for termination...USUALLY they have to pay unemployment. Most companies want you to voluntarily quit rather than termination so they don't have to pay the unemployment. I was laid off about 15 years ago from a pharmaceutical company due to downsizing. It was unexpected..but I received unemployment compensation until I got hired by another drug company. It was no problem getting compensated. Last year -I worked in marketing/development for a small private company that was unable to get the business off the ground in my city (they were trying to have a branch here and the market was horrible. They had not done the research needed before starting a new business and it went belly up within 8 months. They wanted all of us (5 of us ) to quit. We refused. I made the President tell me face to face (with a witness) that I was terminated. They did not want to pay the unemployment..but were forced to. I collected full unemployment (I had only been with them for 8 months..but had 3 years employment with my previous company)--I just rode out the 6 months unemployment and had a great summer with my kids. Don't voluntarily quit. My experience unless you are doing something illegal and that's the reason for termination-they pretty much have to pay you the benefits. At least here in WV they do. If they refuse you can appeal (but I have never had that happen )

If was a type...read...then "Aw Hell I don't want any opinions on this post".

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Yes! If you stay in the area for work...it sounds like you definitely need a new neighborhood/house! I complain about Stepford...but my neighborhood has always made Stepford bearable. We aren't fancy...and we have young families, old people, divorced, widowed, blue and white collar workers. I could move to another neighborhood and be absolutely miserable because we have several like you just described. And I agree...you can always rent until you figure everything out.