Lisa

The 1st year ip I had a Mass and brunch. The 2nd breakfast with my parents and Mass. It was a week day. Then we moved to having a meal at a favorite place of his. I find for us it is good to have a plan but not too extragavant, no plan is a disaster. Anything too involved with other people or specific doesnt work. I have to consult with his kids. They arent up for much. #6 is coming up in a few weeks. We havent decided yet.

Sailing! Being the driver or passenger on the road ?

You are in my thoughts and prayers. Squishing you with hugs

Maureen said it all perfectly . Just wanted to show my support.

Big hugs

Im no expert but i would allow him a break. Kids have so much on them. And my experience is they act on their grief later than us. Add serious injury? I say a break is reasonable.

She was so kind and had a beautiful soul. I'm so very sad for the many she touched. She will be missed. It is especially hard when we lose one of our own.

Sending a vurtual hug and understanding

Good luck Maureen

I think that's a big part of this stage. If there's hope it will get better it is like accepting that that life is no more. It is a very tough spot. I had an extremely hard time believing this was what was left of my life. He was suddenly ripped away and I was in utter ruin. And with his kids to deal with no less.my life totalky changed and not for the better. I didn't want goals. I couldn't identify as anything other than a widow. I don't like this life but I no longer hate it. It is what it is. I am going on 6 years. It is a long time. And sadly, it will be a process for the rest of my days. Come back and visit. We will put a smile on your face.

Hugs Jen.

I walked around in a daze ipor crying for a long time. My pallor was dull. I didnt get my bright complexion back for years. I think there is a new widow look. That's how we spot each other at bagos. Dont worry what other people think. Just be you.

Dont let doubt eat at you. I would definitely let it go

It sure is not easy. Ive been following you as long as Ive been widowed andIi think you are doing great. Good to vent, it is just so sad. Sending a virtual hug

And I'm sorry about your loss.

No. This makes no sense.. I'm a donor wife. They took what they needed right at the hospital or med examiner's. There should be no cost to the family. Ever. It shouldn't interefere with or delay funeral arrangents etc incl open casket.

Walk with your head held high today. We are all so lucky to have you in our lives .

Stop beating yourself up. These thoughts sneak in.it is normal. Do something nice for yourself for your birthday. When I intrusive thoughts thst are dusturbing, I notice them and let yhem pass rather than concentrate on them whenever possible.

One breath at a time.

I have mad nerd love for Josh. That song is great for bringing up tears ♡

i find this so comforting. I dont know that you need to believe in Heaven to be comforted by this song. Lovely voice too.

If anything would bring the urge back this is a good candidate. These milestones are bittersweet. Hope youfee a bit better today.

Yes!

I downsized twice but we did not own our home so it is somewhat different. I have no regrets.

Sounds like a lot of drama stirrers in your family. Not heIpful. Sounds like creepy sibling rivalry. Good for you for holding it together. I'm sure it hurts. Try to do something nice for yourself.