Needytoo Posted July 12, 2017 Share Posted July 12, 2017 Hello everyone, had to give my little update in this weird thing we call online dating. Did go to a meet and greet awhile back. The guy was 61 years old and extremely nervous (I tend to scare the living “poop” out of guys, not sure why). He then would text me a million times a day. I swear I was trying to be open to all of this. Then he wanted to get together for coffee at 10:30 at night, sounded to me more like a booty call. Then he offered to drive me around in his truck. Just doesn’t sound exciting to me. So I stopped it, I forgot to mention his parents live with him. Now chatting with this other guy. He seems nice, he knows a woman I know who just happens to be a widow. He was their best man at their wedding. He keeps telling me he's a large man. Technically I am obese as well but pretty damn active I am a little worried that he is morbidly obese. He has two adopted boys 10 & 13. He told me last night he moved in with his Mom after his father’s passing in December. I have such mixed feelings on this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrokenHeart2 Posted July 12, 2017 Share Posted July 12, 2017 Hey NT, are you sure the 1st one was 16 not 61? LOL Is there any chance you could talk to the woman you know. Maybe find out a bit about him? If not, why not meet for coffee? Hey, you just never know!! Good luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Needytoo Posted July 12, 2017 Share Posted July 12, 2017 Yep pretty sure first guy was 61. lol The lady I know works at the same college I do but she is laid off for the summer. I don't think I can bring up the morbidty obese question. He husband was and committed suicide because of his depression with it. I maybe can ask around and see if anyone has her home number. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Love2fish Posted July 13, 2017 Share Posted July 13, 2017 I vote for doing coffee NT. What have you got to lose? You can always (almost always) have fun with a M&G. Everybody has some funny stories if you can pull them out. After that it's up to you if anything more is going to happen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Needytoo Posted July 17, 2017 Share Posted July 17, 2017 So far I can't say I ever had fun with an M&G until yesterday. We went for a walk and then out for supper. Had a great evening. Just will let things play out and stay calm. ;D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Love2fish Posted July 17, 2017 Share Posted July 17, 2017 Good for you NT! Having fun is job #1 for a M&G. You did it once you can do it once a week now NT! Of course if this one turns into a relationship and is your last M&G that would be OK as well. pro tip: Wait a few days to see if he contacts you. After that it's OK to send him a message that you enjoyed the date and if he'd like to get together again you would like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
faye Posted July 17, 2017 Share Posted July 17, 2017 It's okay to google a name (if he'll give you one) an email address or a linkedIn account. Glad you had fun! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Needytoo Posted July 17, 2017 Share Posted July 17, 2017 He already contacted me. Not sure how Facebook does it but he showed up on my list of people you may know. Maybe he googled me first? Really hopeful on this one that I can get to the second date. Everything that I was looking for seems to be in this man. He is a very tall man and an overweight but he is willing to at least try some of the activities I like. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted July 17, 2017 Share Posted July 17, 2017 Good for you, Needy. Fingers and toes crossed that he will behave himself ... Since there is a Winnebago thread, we could road trip to each other for back up ;D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrokenHeart2 Posted July 18, 2017 Share Posted July 18, 2017 Hey NT way to go!! Glad you had a good time with him!! Keep us posted on your progress! Some of us are living vicariously through you brave ones!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Needytoo Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 We went for a walk and then sat and watched the waves. This time I didn't jump out of my skin when he went to hold my hand. I count that as progress. He is a very touchy guy always touching my arm or my leg I could get very use to this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted July 19, 2017 Share Posted July 19, 2017 Oooh, Needy -- he likes you At least that's what the relationship psych people I read say about those random touchy opportunities. Good for you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Needytoo Posted July 27, 2017 Share Posted July 27, 2017 So far so good. I have never met anyone like this man. Last night we went to the movies, this random touchy stuff is doing things to my body that I thought had stopped forever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrokenHeart2 Posted July 27, 2017 Share Posted July 27, 2017 Oh NT, I'm happy for you!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted July 27, 2017 Share Posted July 27, 2017 Totally get that, Needy -- smiling from ear to ear for you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted July 30, 2017 Share Posted July 30, 2017 Still underwhelmed by the guys contacting me. Still on my break from dating. Still lonely. It has been 10 weeks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted July 31, 2017 Share Posted July 31, 2017 Sorry Virgo Any chance of going to a meet and greet or doing a speed dating event, just to see what it's got to offer? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 Sorry Virgo Any chance of going to a meet and greet or doing a speed dating event, just to see what it's got to offer? We don't have speed dating available locally as far as I know. I'm ok taking a break, focusing on projects, but it doesn't take away the loneliness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 Hear that for sure. I see speed dating come up on apps like LivingSocial and Groupon these days. If you are interested, you might look there. Other than that, deciding if the loneliness is for companionship of a friend or of something more intimate. If you have left off going to lunch or meeting friends for coffee, it might help if it's the former. Deciding to try out the dating waters is pretty much the only option for the latter I am guessing. No expert for sure. Anyway: {{{hugs!}}} Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest oneoftwo Posted August 13, 2017 Share Posted August 13, 2017 Still lonely. It has been 10 weeks. Oh, this made me laugh. Still does. (no disrespect) It's been nearly 8 years. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Momtojandj Posted August 15, 2017 Share Posted August 15, 2017 Still searching , try new sites, gather up stories for a book I swear I want to write . 😂. However, wouldn't it be fun if we could share some of what we see and deal with in the area we are. For example, would love to share the picture of a guy online , in his tidy whiteys , in his bathroom . Selfie picture in his mirror, but made sure you couldn't see his face. 🤔🙈 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted August 15, 2017 Share Posted August 15, 2017 Momto -- I want to laugh, I want to cry. Yes -- let's write a book! I write fiction and blog regularly, so I am in! Even just the descriptions would be enough to make it a best seller. I see a screenplay as well Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted August 15, 2017 Share Posted August 15, 2017 Still lonely. It has been 10 weeks. Oh, this made me laugh. Still does. (no disrespect) It's been nearly 8 years. Widowed almost 4 years. Not laughing. No disrespect. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Momtojandj Posted August 24, 2017 Share Posted August 24, 2017 Has anyone seen the new Match stories on Match.com ? My subscription ended, and the day after it ended I see now they added match stories where you can add video, etc. I have said that forever , I think if you can see the person and hear them it 1. Would show hopefully that aren't fake and 2. Sometimes people don't show well "written " . So what do you guys think ? Has anyone seen it , or done it ? Of course now I want to re subscribe . Lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Momtojandj Posted September 5, 2017 Share Posted September 5, 2017 Sunshine.. no , my subscription ended the same day it came out. Possibly if I get a good deal to go back , I might try match again . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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