gracelet Posted October 12, 2015 Share Posted October 12, 2015 I'm casually seeing a girl (we're on date 4) and it's certainly complicated. Both of us have triggering anniversaries this month and are in delicate places. Me being me, I got absolutely smashed yesterday afternoon on four ciders while we took a little doggy she doggysits out for the day. It was, as she called it, the first 'datey date' she's been on in a long time. This is the first time I've been with a dog for two years and it naturally led to lots of reminiscing conversations about my wee puppy. She went to live with my in-laws for a bit when wife and I were having problems and was never returned... This girl is comfortable talking about Elle - far more than other girls I've dated. She found my blog and has digested my introductory post http://eerilycheerily.com/2015/05/28/dating-a-widow/ called 'A open letter to the women I date who discover this blog' so she half knows what she might be getting into. Anyway, probs TMI here, but mid sex (once we'd gotten back to the house - not in the park!!), we both ended up crying. It was awful yet wonderful at the same time. She started crying first. This is a girl who has walls up and is emotionally guarded. I didn't get to the bottom of it truly before I burst into tears too. I told her I felt rejected because of my widow shit. She said it's not that. Cue about twenty minutes of drunken crying and after I'd talked to her and she had managed to compose herself, me sobbing back on her. Like really sobbing on her while she held me tight. It felt like a milestone, yet I'm so terrified I've scared her off now. But, wow, what an amazing feeling it was to have her close, stroking me, telling me I was safe. I miss that. Who else has cried on a new partner? Is this normal? Just rambling Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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