Jen Posted November 24, 2015 Share Posted November 24, 2015 I just had a new fridge delivered, and the delivery guys actually flirted with me. I was sort of shocked-- I don't think I'd myself as flirtable! One of them told me I was pretty and asked for my number... and I considered giving it to him. It was almost like a setup for a porn flick... too bad the kids are our of school for the holiday. Did I really say that? :o Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
serpico Posted November 24, 2015 Share Posted November 24, 2015 I just had a new fridge delivered, and the delivery guys actually flirted with me. I was sort of shocked-- I don't think I'd myself as flirtable! One of them told me I was pretty and asked for my number... and I considered giving it to him. It was almost like a setup for a porn flick... Pretty sure I've seen that one, but even if I haven't I know for certain how it ends! ;D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted November 28, 2015 Share Posted November 28, 2015 I'm back to "I could, but should I? " Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 I'm going with "you should." Because at least one of us ought to be happy... or gratified. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted December 3, 2015 Share Posted December 3, 2015 I think it's just a matter of time lol. We're trying to coordinate our schedules. Dating and hooking up as a single parent is challenging. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
widowat33 Posted December 11, 2015 Share Posted December 11, 2015 Ugh. I was in the library with my male classmate yesterday, and I had some inappropriate thoughts,lol. There's something about doing stuff in public that's rather exciting for me. Of course I didn't act them out... Right now I don't want a relationship and to be honest I'm not sure I ever will. But sex? Yes please! Now just to find someone around here who isn't married, in a relationship, or who I am not related to, I live in a very small town,lol, which of course makes it all that much harder as your neighbours know what (or who) you are doing before you do! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen Posted December 12, 2015 Share Posted December 12, 2015 My son's best friend's dad has been chatting with me via text-- just casually-- for a few months now. My kid stays at his house, or his kid stays at mine, just about every weekend. He's divorced, a year or so older than me, and he's a nurse too. I've only actually met him once, but we have decent conversations (sometimes a bit risqu?!), and I kind of like him. My son likes him too, and after he badgered me for awhile, I finally gave in: I texted him yesterday and said "I'm being kind of brazen, but I think we should get together for drinks sometime." The overwhelmingly enthusiastic response to my act of supreme courage? "Sure, that would be cool." And nothing since. I should have gone with my first thought, which was to say, "I think we should try being FWB and see how that goes. No pressure, I just need to get laid." Might have gotten a better reception. Sigh. I'm so done with this crap. I haven't even done anything, but I'm just finished. Wrong thread, I know, but just... fuck it all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted December 13, 2015 Share Posted December 13, 2015 I'm wondering too Jen. Do men need us to be more direct, or are they not as interested as we think they are? It shouldn't be this frustrating. Seems like it would be effortless if feelings were mutual. Maybe it's not that simple though. I met Phil when I was 16. Teenagers lives aren't as complicated. Lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TheOtherHalf Posted December 13, 2015 Share Posted December 13, 2015 May I ask if he was badgering you for sex? Then you said "yes", and then he dropped it? And didn't get back to you at all? But you've been chatting for a few months? It is possible that he's just a jerk and messing with you. There's armies of them out there. It's also possible that both he and you are just saying you want sex, but secretly see it as something more than that. I think it's possible he wants you in some capacity, and since he's been investing into this for quite awhile, maybe give him a pass, and ask him what's up? Maybe suggest a no strings coffee and see what happens. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momtokam Posted December 13, 2015 Share Posted December 13, 2015 Jen, I know you said you only met once. What was that like? Your risqu? conversations, are they by text or phone? The reason I ask is because I have gone out a few times with this "minimal texter". In person he chats up a storm, but his texts are very simple and short. I try like heck to flirt by text, but nothing. I don't think he gets it. Sometimes I think I will have to hit him over the head to get his attention in that way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen Posted December 13, 2015 Share Posted December 13, 2015 Lol. The one time we met face to face was when he picked my son up to go spend the night at their house. I leaned in the car window and said "Hi, nice to finally meet you." He laughed and said "You too," or something like it. End of meeting. Conversations are all via text. He messages me when he's bored or wants to complain about work. I do the same. He's been divorced and subsequently celibate for about 3 years; I'm going on 2, so there's a lot of "God I'm frustrated" talk. I've gotten a few pix... To be honest, he's got some nice assets that I wouldn't mind getting my hands on. But when I've mentioned hanging out IRL, he's noncommital and disinterested. I think maybe he just relieves his sexual frustration by talking about it-- he has no real intention of doing anything. That's mostly all right with me. I'm not particularly interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with this guy. I've never had an FWB situation; I don't know if I could keep my heart out of it or not. I'm leery of forming an attachment to anyone, but I *really* *really* *REALLY* miss sex. Forgive me for being raw (it is THIS thread after all), but the DIY approach just doesn't work for me. I can induce an orgasm, sure, but there's nothing satisfying about it... even physically. Like everything else in my life these days, it seems... pointless. :-\ I kind of wish brothels were a thing. Go pay for a 2-hour fling with a clean professional... it would be like getting a massage. No need to risk my poor battered heart again. It's already committed to someone who's completely inaccessible-- permanently tied up, I guess. As I say, I just need to get laid. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momtokam Posted December 13, 2015 Share Posted December 13, 2015 Maybe he is unsure about going "there" as your kids are friends? Maybe he thinks you are not being serious and just being flirty? "If" it's something you think you want to persue, in whatever form, I would be more direct. Maybe try to suggest an actual time to meet if you know he might be free, instead of something open ended. Maybe he needs to be hit over the head as well! Just always be upfront with any intentions so there is no misunderstanding. Take all this as you think it works for YOU. I am in no way an expert. My track record has not been ideal! 😁 But yes, sometimes we just need to get ravaged! 😆 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TalksToAngels Posted December 13, 2015 Share Posted December 13, 2015 Jen just consider the FWB thing before you ever act upon it, as it opens up a huge can o worms. Sometimes it's ok for some who can handle the repercussions. Believe me I had one of these and it sucked. The feelings after were really weird, it ruined the friendship. I know the loneliness thing but in my case the benefits after really were a letdown, and I haven't spoken with the person since. It got all weirded. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen Posted December 13, 2015 Share Posted December 13, 2015 Yeah... I really don't know if I could casual sex. (Never had the opportunity!) On the bright side, we're not really friends... there's just some mutual commiseration, I guess. Meh. I'm not pursuing anything-- I said my bit, I'm done. If he wants to take another step, the ball is in his court. Sigh. Why can't the village elders just get together and arrange these things? Bleah. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TheOtherHalf Posted December 14, 2015 Share Posted December 14, 2015 So now I'm settling on you and him just carrying on until it turns into something else by some stroke of fate. If not, you have an amusement until you sort this out your feelings over the need to get laid. I'm picking up some ambiguity at the very least. If you decide on going ahead in the midst of not being super sure which way the wind blows, at least asses, as closely as you can, your ability to sustain the risk of consequences. Sex is tricky at the best of times, is my feeling. I jumped into a sexual relationship a year into my grief, which hadn't even started. It cost him his life and it cost me $20K to get away from him, because my spidey senses, plus he himself told me that he'd like to take me with him somehow. And I somehow knew on some unconscious level that he wasn't long for this world and I fled and he's dead. Super bad consequences, but I'm on the extreme. Something to think about though. On the flip side, I'm taking your brothel suggestion seriously. CBC just featured the Hooker Monologues. I'm listening to any ideas, lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted December 23, 2015 Share Posted December 23, 2015 ;D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
widowat33 Posted December 24, 2015 Share Posted December 24, 2015 Hmmm...what's the smiley guy all about Virgo? early Christmas gift? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsDan Posted December 24, 2015 Share Posted December 24, 2015 ;D High five! And ditto. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted December 24, 2015 Share Posted December 24, 2015 Not what I expected, but felt amazing to be with a man again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
widowat33 Posted December 24, 2015 Share Posted December 24, 2015 Yay! Happy for all of you who are gettin some,lol. Maybe a little jealous too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Torn Posted December 24, 2015 Share Posted December 24, 2015 Yes, yes..... Congrats to you all, getting some Muahahaha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen Posted December 28, 2015 Share Posted December 28, 2015 I'm not gonna lie, I'm jealous as hell. Happy for y'all, certainly, but green with envy. Nothing in my bed but stuffed animals, and not likely to be anything else in the foreseeable future. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TalksToAngels Posted December 29, 2015 Share Posted December 29, 2015 Jen I have to post a stuffed animal clip. Don't worry it's non insinuating ; ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted December 29, 2015 Share Posted December 29, 2015 I'm wondering if having sex was a bad idea. It just makes me want it more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted December 29, 2015 Share Posted December 29, 2015 I'm not gonna lie, I'm jealous as hell. Happy for y'all, certainly, but green with envy. Nothing in my bed but stuffed animals, and not likely to be anything else in the foreseeable future. It will happen Jen. When you're truly ready. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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