MissingSquish Posted April 12, 2015 Share Posted April 12, 2015 I've ended (for real I think) my relationship with my bf. I am feeling really vulnerable, lonely and guilt-ridden over ending it. He was a great guy on paper, but in the end, I never really knew how I stood with him. He was overcommitted with work and volunteering, and it left me with little of his energy or his time. I have put way more effort into this relationship in some ways than even my relationship with Squish. I am so tired of not having a genuine connection with someone, and I'm tired of having sex only once a year in the past two years. I don't understand why this has to be so hard. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trying Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 I'm sure it was a very difficult decision but it sounds like you are doing what is best for you. You deserve the type of relationship that you want and as much as this sucks right now it will open the door for possibilities. Hugs! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 It sounds like you're making the right decision. I know sex isn't everything, but only have sex once in the past two years would be a deal breaker for me. I wouldn't have made it as far as you have in the relationship. ((hugs)) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captains wife Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 MissingSquish - I am so sorry....I know, trying to formulate a new relationship is hard. I hear you on your comment of having a genuine connection with someone...it is tough and I wish it wasn't. But you put such good effort into this relationship and remember you can walk away feeling you did what you could + you are walking away because you are not getting what you need from the relationship. That is a brave decision and its good you are doing what is best for you over the longer term. Your bf is the one missing out here ! Please remember how much you have to offer and there are a lot of fish in the sea - it just takes a little bit to find the ones you want to be with...but a better match is out there for you. Sending big hugs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missingm Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 So sorry. But i hope you realize how strong you are to realize that this relationship was not what you needed and you made the decision you did. Hugs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest look2thesky Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 If it's not working I hope you can find the strength to not just think but to end it, you are worth more. Hoping for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheelerswife Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 MS, I know you've been patient with this guy and you care about him, but perhaps you can now focus on someone who might be present to you. You deserve to be higher on the list of priorities! He might be a great guy, but he's not in a place to be there with and for you. Hugs, Maureen PS. Pru seems like a better snuggler than this guy! At least she's always there! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HvnBound Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 MS, so sorry that you had to do this but you have to do what is right for you! Hugs to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissingSquish Posted April 13, 2015 Author Share Posted April 13, 2015 Thank you all for your words of encouragement and support. He has not acknowledged or responded to the message that I left for him Saturday night. Par for the course I guess. I love my widda posse. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IfIonlycould Posted April 13, 2015 Share Posted April 13, 2015 MS-Sorry to hear you are going through this....you know if it feels right..and if it doesn't...it is hard to do and can make one feel the loss of their spouse all over again...sending HUGS. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest look2thesky Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 Sorry I repeated.. *deleted* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest marian1953 Posted April 14, 2015 Share Posted April 14, 2015 I am so sorry, MissingSquish. You really do deserve the best. I am sorry you are hurting right now. big hugs to you. Marian Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissingSquish Posted April 14, 2015 Author Share Posted April 14, 2015 Thanks guys. You all make the getting through heartache a lot easier knowing you have my back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissingSquish Posted April 19, 2015 Author Share Posted April 19, 2015 I've tried to keep myself busy this weekend, but today I could barely get off the couch and leave the house. I know that work this week will be a good distraction. I'm just tired of being alone, though being with the wrong person makes one feel alone. I miss Squish. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trying Posted April 20, 2015 Share Posted April 20, 2015 (((MissingSquish))) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissingSquish Posted April 20, 2015 Author Share Posted April 20, 2015 Thanks so much, trying. <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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