MR Posted August 28, 2017 Share Posted August 28, 2017 I had mine last week and exactly one year back i heard from doctors that she is brain dead but couldn't stop kids from wishing me and infact they gave me a small gift too. I was faking whole time but couldn't tell them whose wishes I am missing the most. Cried whole day whenever was alone. Hugs Manoj Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amor Posted December 7, 2017 Share Posted December 7, 2017 I still wear his clothes on occasion to bed Look at the empty chair next to me often and think you should be sitting there. Wishing no one would sit there but my love. still have a hard time saying or admitting the W word. Like it would change, if I do not say it then it is not true mentality. Like watching movies we enjoyed together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted December 10, 2017 Share Posted December 10, 2017 I still have the last shirt he wore at home hanging in my closet. I used to smell it daily. Sometimes I slept with it. It's never been washed. It will never be washed again. It has been almost 4 years, so his scent is very faint but still there. I'll never forget his scent even after it completely fades from his shirt. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jgib Posted December 11, 2017 Share Posted December 11, 2017 I still have some of his aftershave. I can’t get it in Canada, so I save the bottle and bring it out and smell it when I am really lonely...... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KrypticKat Posted December 14, 2017 Share Posted December 14, 2017 While I do think about my husband all the time and relish in the happy memories, I find it easier to fantasize about being romantic with celebrities than my late husband because it could still happen with the celeb and I feel both guilty and depressed about that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jennica Posted December 14, 2017 Share Posted December 14, 2017 KrypticKat, so do I. Not really celebrities but peopleI just make up in my head. I don't like to fantasize about my husband because that will never happen again. I figure that wouldn't help my mental state either. But like you said the other could happen. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blwilli68025 Posted May 23, 2018 Share Posted May 23, 2018 My confession: My wife only passed a month ago, but I almost want to date, just for the physical connection. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Love2fish Posted May 23, 2018 Share Posted May 23, 2018 (edited) 22 minutes ago, blwilli68025 said: My confession: My wife only passed a month ago, but I almost want to date, just for the physical connection. Been there, done that. As have others here IIRC. That is not to say your story is not unique. No two of us have exactly the same story. I am going on six years out. Within days of DW passing I told my sons and her closest friends that I would be dating very soon. I don't regret it to this day. I made mistakes which I do regret but working on building a new life was not a mistake. Sorry you are here, glad you are reaching out. Edited May 23, 2018 by Love2fish 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sudnlysngl Posted May 24, 2018 Share Posted May 24, 2018 4 hours ago, blwilli68025 said: My confession: My wife only passed a month ago, but I almost want to date, just for the physical connection. This walk is different for each and everyone one of us. I will say one thing and it comes from the best place in my heart at 11 years out for me and newly divorced. Please be careful out there. Times are different, and people have changed. Your head and heart are a bit cloudy right now, and I'm not saying to not venture out, just saying be careful and get back to living if that is what you are able to do for you! Best wishes and best of luck to you blwilli and to you to Love2fish 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Love2fish Posted May 24, 2018 Share Posted May 24, 2018 2 hours ago, sudnlysngl said: ..... Your head and heart are a bit cloudy right now, and I'm not saying to not venture out, just saying be careful and get back to living if that is what you are able to do for you! ..... Very wise counsel, thank you for stating that so clearly sudnlysngl. Dw's best friend became a grief counselor. I told her that I was going to be dating soon. Scandalously soon. She was unfazed. Told me to go for it. She told me that her opinion was that I was going to fall down and it would hurt and I should get up again till I had learned to walk. Just like a baby learns. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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