Hello everybody, I wish I'd found this site long ago. Thank you all for sharing your stories and encouraging words. Jessica was my lover and best friend. We were together eight years and married almost five. On our fourth wedding anniversary she was diagnosed with cervical cancer. We knew we could beat it, she was vibrant and athletic and a natural born scrapper. We did everything the doctors said, and chemo withered her away. She died in a Boston hospital seven and a half months later. I was right there with her. Our children were two, three, and five. The dreams, the sadness, the anger, the loneliness, I hear you all loud and clear. The ring, the bed, crazy comments, photos, triggers, children, lost careers, the hope, thank you all so much for sharing. You all have given me hope. To the newly widowed- just hold on for a while. Eventually you will find yourself smiling over some small thing without realizing it. Not every day at first, and maybe not for long, but it will happen and become more frequent. You can do this, there are genuine people here who have been through a similar situation. Sending you all the best, Adley.