BrokenHeart2

I want to first thank you all for the support and prayers for my 21 yr old niece with CF. 3 weeks ago today she had the surgery and I am thrilled to report that she was discharged TODAY!!!! Just look at her beautiful smile as she awaits her chariot!! LOL My new nickname for her is SuperKate!!!

I can relate to Needytoo. I felt totally abandoned by my 5 siblings and the rest of the fam. Forgiveness for my siblings has made a huge difference. I realized they really just dont get it. How could they, they haven't gone through it. As for my pre-widowhood superficial "friends", they are long gone and I have the genuine good old friends while making new ones too.

Oh Rooshi!! Congratulations! I'm so happy for you! This job sounds like what you want! So happy for you!! Hugs!!

What the hell? In the US time removes your wid status? Oh what, they came back? That's insane. At least here in Canada I'm still a wid. Hugs to all my US wids!

Watched some TV and now pouring a tubby for my tubby time then bed. Such an exciting night. UGH Sleep well fellow wids.

Thank you SF for your wonderful post. I'm coming up on 3 yrs and you give me HOPE! I want to live again and am working hard to do that. Your post for me is very inspirational! Hugs.

At almost 3 yrs I'm relieved to hear I'm not the only one that hasn't finished things. I guess I better get my DH husbands name off the deed of the house if I'm going to sell it. I still have bills coming in both our names or just his but I can take care of that when I move. I too hate paperwork

Wow TS, you're living my life except I don't feel like I have much of a new life. Still circling I guess. I am prepping the house to sell and doing other things in baby steps to get a new life. Gotta love all my 'pillows' PS: Today I bought a new flowery duvet & pillow covers, I smiled thinking of pillows (DH never wanted flowery bedding)

Good luck tomorrow Rooshi!! If it was me I'd bring a copy of my resume and the list of references just in case. Would it help if tonight you wrote down what you can bring to this job and company. Sometimes getting it on paper helps with clarity and tomorrow before you go in and you're nervous you could just reread your list!! Hugs

Funny you should ask POAP. I just bought a book and crayola pencils and I love it! My amazing niece got me hooked a few days ago and everything you said sounds right! Right lobe, left lobe, whatever lobe..... it works for me Hugs!

There seems to be so many of us lately posting about the 3rd sadiversary. I'm a little under 1.5 months for mine. There seem to be such a commonality about the craziness of this one. For me, one of the things that keeps running through my head is.....what the hell have I been doing this past 3 yrs. I feel like I've lost 3 yrs of my life and still have to go one day at a time. I guess I always thought I should be doing so much better by now. Oh well, it is what it is. Big hugs to my fellow wids or as Heartspy phrased it fellow pillows!

Hey Trying nowhere near whole so there's no magic but I like the pillow analogy once again. Thinking back, you have all been my soft pillows to land, sometimes I feel like I'm starting to get some footing under me only to have it sucked out from under so fast. And then I have to pull myself up again. What a trying jouney this has been. I like 'Solidarity' Hugs

Welcome Dean to a group no one wants to belong too. But I'm glad you found us. There are such terrific and supportive people here that have walked your similar jouney. I have received such comfort and understanding here. Please remember to breathe and drink lots of water as crying is very dehydrating. I too was where you are. I couldn't imagine surviving the unimaginable pain... I am. The pain is still here but different. We all somehow find our way Big gentle hus to you.

Hugs HS! I'm coming up on 3 yrs next month and so many thoughts and emotions hitting. I really like "Widow/ers are the best pillows" What a great way to state it, you are so right!! Like TS said....solidarity!!!

G you got that right, we surely do get it and I am so happy for you that things seem to be falling into place for you!! None of us asked for this new life but we sure as hell have to make the best of what we have. My DH would be the first one to kick my butt knowing how I have been struggling. I'm finding so much encouragement from my fellow wids in BAG and it's helping me more than y'all know!! Keep on keeping on!

I hate @#&* cancer too!! I'm sorry you are going through this. Hugs

Trying, in my humble opinion, right now it is your house. If it were me, I would just do what I wanted but discuss the renos. Have you 2 talked about what you are wanting to do? Is there something he wants to do that you don't agree with? Maybe he has some great ideas you haven't though of. Just sayin! Good luck with the renos!

You're so right SVS. Back in my early days it took me a few weeks just to sign up after reading so many posts. Then I finally signed up and was glad I did. I felt so alone and lonely. After I started posting I realized I wasn't so alone with this horride pain and some else got it. No matter what I posted there was always someone else that could relate to my experience. Big hugs to all the wids.

DP hugs to you.

Wecome back piecesofapart. I too am so glad we can come here and share this shitty journey and support each other!

Thanks for asking SVS. My niece is a true warrior. She is progressing amazingly!! Each day she doubles her distance walking in spite of the pain. Unbelievable! She is amazing the hospital staff with her progress. Last night my sister sent me a face closeup pic of Kathleen with her eyes all wide and her mouth twisted with a caption at the bottom: "I contain recycled organs" with 2 emoticons a strong arm and the recycle symbol. I couldn't stop laughing. Kathleen is even texting me now too. Sis told me that her joy of getting new lungs seems to be overshadowing her pain. This is still all so surreal. Keep the prayers coming!! Thanks everyone!

I can so relate to this song. Gary Moore is one of my fav blues signers Gary Moore - Still Got The Blues (Live) - YouTube https://www.youtube.com ? watch

Wow IMD That's heavy! I have no advise because I don't have a 10 yrs old wanting this. Please follow your heart. You are Mom! Opps I guess that's advise Hugs

Awe, I'm so sorry to hear of your Moms passing. No loss is easy and as we know, on top of losing our spouse elevates the loss Hugs to you Donswife!

I'm nowhere near what you are doing. It is just stuff but it's HIS stuff. I'm not saying keep it all, just keep what's most important to you! In my head, I'm thinking you'll never forget no matter what stuff you get rid of. I have to embark on what you are doing now. I've just been avoiding it. Maybe I'll post the same in a month or so Damn, this is so hard. Hugs B