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1st off, I'm not a homophobe but have developed a sort of "gaydar" over time. Anyway I'm walking on a nice day when a guy pulls up, rolls down his window and says "Oh, you're not who I thought you were." I replied "That's probably a good thing" and just kept walking.

A lady I had been dating told me she couldn't compete with a dead woman, basically ending the relationship. I figured it was an excuse for her to exit.

Congratulations to you both!

Carolyn, wonderful partner, best friend and wife for 36 years. Truly one of the greatest gifts God ever shared with me.

Glad you had a good dream. I've good ones and some very weird.

I make no apologies for talking about LW, but it's not as though I bring her up all the time. We were married 36 years and I can't just flip a switch and turn all the life and memories off.

Thanks for reminding me of this thread. I've slipped into living in a state of squalor. 1. I really need to straighten this place up. 2. Throw away or donate the unused and not needed items. 3. Sustain the order of things while trying reach goal.

Sorry you're dealing this. Someone mentioned it as being avoided so as not to share our "widow cooties".

Justin, DD & Jess, I'm so happy for all of you on the new adventure. Justin I was wondering, did you ever get over Columbus IN?

{hugs} I'm sorry devastatedbroken. Please be good to yourself.

Cold and snowy today so I didn't want to try the roads in the cemetery. Watched some hoops with mom, came home and got things together and ready for another week.

I'm sorry Doug, welcome to a life that can sometimes seem meaningless. Not much makes sense and many things you believed and held onto have been turned upside-down. I'm glad you found this forum and that you don't feel alone, some of the stories here of surviving and moving on are inspiring.

Mac, it's good you share that trait as it could be a sticky point for some. I would be looking for that giving spirit in any future lady, to loosely quote St. Francis "It's in giving of ourselves that we receive".

At over a year, still not settled about being alone so for me it would be unfair to waste another person's time. Count me more cautious.

{Hug} ThereseE, happy to hear from you but sorry the passing of Graham lead you here. I found this forum to be a valuable resource in this life we now find ourselves in. Please take care of yourself and let the people you trust help you when they can.

I don't have a FB but still look at LW's to keep up since we knew almost all the same people. Even though I posted pics of our grave marker for her distant family to see, some of her not so close FB "friends" still wish her a happy birthday :-\ If I ever move on with someone it may be interesting to see if her FB could be a problem.

{hugs} KC79, I'm sorry about your husband. Welcome sounds so hollow but as k3songs and Guaruja have said, you've found a very good place where your thoughts and feelings can be shared.

Last year, 10 months after she died, I purchased a companion monument as the brochure called it. It's lettered with both our names, DOB, her DOD and our wedding date. On the back side of the monument, I had them letter a panel with our sons names, 2 arrows and Psalms 127: 3 - 4.

Wonderful news for the new year, congratulations to you both.

Thanks for starting this, I hope you both are able to stay the course. For 2016 I will try to volunteer in meaningful efforts that benefit our area. When possible, I will try to reach out to others at difficult times. I must remember to thank God for all the many blessings in this life.

{bro hug} I'm sorry for your pain Mark. That sudden loss is awful, like nothing most of us have ever felt before. The depth of this pain and sorrow is simply mind numbing and you may feel as though you're on auto-pilot for hours at a time. Please keep reaching out this forum has been a beacon of light in my cloudy journey.

{Hugs} Wynne, I'm sorry you lost Ronnie, I hope you'll find Widda.org a good place to talk about tough emotions and life. Shake off the expectations of others, I agree with you in that there is a need to reach out to those who have to carry on after the loss of a loved one. This awful period of time may be the very worst time in our life, so yes we need to vent and we get it.

Happy New Year Amy. Good to hear you're making progress with life and family, it gives some of us not so far along a little hope that things do get better.

Thank you Euf, GL really speaks to me. "If I could only have you near, to breathe a sigh or two" :'(

{Bro hug} I'm sorry. It sure sounds like you're plugging away and doing the best you can and I can relate to the feeling of barely covering the basics. It was a struggle by myself so I can't imagine the stress you have of helping your children with loss :-\ . I've learned a lot from the friends who share on these forums