donswife

Great responses and Yes we can reverse the question

I will try also to post one good thing thank you for this post Today I am thankful that a Doctors appointment ,that I had been worried about, turned out to be nothing

I am thankful for my warm and cozy home with a snoring large black lab by my side after a busy weekend

Let's be honest here . I did plenty of things that bugged Don that he would mention all the time First of all I never tighten the lid of anything from Ketchup to aspirin , drove him crazy Every time we rented a movie I would pause it to do laundry so he never got to see a movie fully without interruption I would slam the door every time ,I got out of his award winning truck at car shows I tucked the sheets on his side of the bed which annoyed him and he would joke about it I could go on and I am sure he would be more then happy to add many more

Such a wonderful time . Thanks you so much for hosting !

Yup with you on that one...October sucks! His birthday was the 8th he died on the 18th and buried the 22nd Be happy to skip right over that month

Hi Bambi , Such a tough situation for you and I am so sorry this is something you have to deal with. Could you get an alarm system installed in your house ? That way you don't have to change the locks but also can stop him from coming in your house I know it is an added thing you have to think about but may give you peace knowing you have control of who is coming in and out pf your house Take Care

windy cold rainy day like yesterday ,no shoveling involved Snacks....Potato chips or cookies ?

Fuck you Facebook ...really I got through Don's birthday then ten days later the date of his death Then BOOM, Facebook reminds me three years ago today was his funeral Sigh ...I just wish this was easier for all of us

Three years for me today Like you said the hardest three years of our lives I just miss him and us Thanks for your post

thinking of you today Hope the day goes gently for you take care

Fuck that I hosted my nieces wedding in our backyard ,this weekend, with out Don Fuck that he should have been here Fuck that I had to do a speech in his honor and he would have done it so much better Fuck that in the process I sprained my ankle because I over did it I just wish Don was here...every day

I will be there ! Thanks for hosting

Thank you for reaching out to this site It will help as I know it has helped me more then I could have ever expected I am so sorry to hear about your husband and his accident Please just try and take it day by day and be gentle to yourself this is all a shock to you and your children Take Care

I am so sorry to hear this So heartbreaking Thank you for letting us know

Yes well said My sister is in Panama City Beach and Irma just shifted to head her way Several friends are also going to be impacted Wishing them safety

I am lucky that I have had dreams with him in it such a funny thing ,he almost always looks like he did in his 20's when we were first together...I like to think he gets to pick his best look So glad you had a dream of your husband, hope it gave you a good feeling

Yup ..august 31 st would have been our 26th wedding anniversary and yes they should be here to celebrate Take care of yourself

Such a great post Makes me look back at some of the wonderful people who held me up 1. My brother flew in to stay with me for almost two weeks He put down wood floors and built a closet in the new bedroom We were almost done with a two year renovation of our house when mydon died 2.My Sister's took over all my paper work and cancelled credit cards and paid all the important bills that needed to be paid , plus did laundry etc ..not including all the emotional support 3. The guys from his work got together and had memorial stickers made and sold them to raise money for where don mentored ptsd veterans 4. My neighbor just recently built a walkway in our garden because he remembered don talking about it and we had all the supplies I could go on and it makes me smile looking back and I am still having wonderful people checking in I just need to take a moment now and then to realize the good when the darkness tries to take over

listened to these podcasts yesterday while doing yard work Was so tough to hear the sadness in Katie Couric's voice after all this time but a lot of what was said by both these women was spot on

oneoftwo....count me in ! but instead I will have peanut butter and toast for now

I so agree. My niece uses one of those Blue Apron type of meal delivery services She says it has good portions and she doesn't waste as much food plus it has her trying different types of meals she might normally have tried to cook a little pricey but so it throwing away all that food

Fuck that I am having one of those days and Fuck that he isn't here to make it better ...

I have been reading up on the complicated grief a bit lately I had never heard the term before but in a way it makes sense of something that doesn't Not sure how one is supposed to get over still loving lh would love to hear anyone's perspective and if they have done therapy for it

I agree with the bittersweet feelings for the 4th Don and I would host an open house for this day so friends and family could come by We did this so we could just hang at the house and enjoy the yard Playing games in the backyard and with people coming and going I miss those times This time I meet up with some wonderful friends We had a great night of music , fireworks and a sleepover party It was a great way to recharge the emotional battery that has been draining a bit lately I truly thank those people for making this a great day take care