donswife

great quote ladybug -when I do dream of myDon he is also young like when we first met full head of hair I try and think he got to pick what he gets to look like in dreams I would like any way he looked just so I can see him ,if only in my dreams

Wanted you to know I heard you and understand this feeling well my version of it as we are all different but still in this together key word is Fighting . You are fighting an uphill battle but you're still fighting yup wish we all could catch a break and get a "time out "of this struggle take care

hoping your stars have aligned a little better for you and yes it does suck ... it gets so overwhelming when it seems everything goes to shit at once well life is overwhelming enough with out these cannonballs being thrown at us my first winter after Don died the brand new boiler kept failing , off and on so repairmen couldn't figure it out never knew if I was waking up to frozen pipes other things kept breaking that winter, of course I hear you ! ps can you put that plastic window wrap stuff on the window for temp fix ?

Jordanna , I am so sorry you had to join this group. It's a place no one of us ever expected to be in. I can only let you know I am truly sorry you lost "Your light and rock" please try and take a breath and be kind to yourself keep posting and I will let you know this place was truly a life saver for me take care

Hi Bill , So sorry you have to be here but glad you found us. This forum has been a great comfort for me and I hope it is for you also. Take Care

well said ..its all so true " I just miss him " hugs to you

its the moments that we cant explain that bring us to our knees Can't explain why they come but they pack a punch I also have his truck in the driveway and have that feeling when i see it its a comfort and a curse Thanks for posting

I see him leaning on our bridge that leads to the back yard holding on to an ice coffee and walking towards me when he see's me the way he did when he was here ..

yes I can only imagine how that must have felt it is the surprise attacks of grief that are hard to manage I still remember the first time someone said the Widow word to describe me it was one of my dearest friends and no bad intentions were meant . like you said it is the truth still stopped me and I truly had to catch my breath , still do sometimes as it seems still so unreal sending you hugs and as usual we get that feeling and it sucks

Ouch ..I am sure she didn't mean it but I understand how it just hits you like a ton of bricks it is the casual remarks people make in conversation that just make me catch my breath just brings all the rawness back take care

made perfect sense to me what he said thanks for posting

ok I know this is just a tiny one but driving through dunkin donuts they have a Resse's peanut butter square , Don would have loved that ! anything peanut butter and sweet , Made me smile for a second then...yup hes not here

We are here and we "give a shit" I wish I had a way to make the hurting stop please know we are here and we hear you sending you hugs take care

this is such a personal decision so no right or wrong way just do what you feel is right for you , I am sure you heart will lead you you can always put it back on if it doesn't seem like the right time I am almost two years out and still wear mine but only because I still feel married and I am sure when the time comes for me I will know

Hi I am not quite sure but I would think if they cashed the checks it should pay out I hope so and good luck every little bit of money at this time helps

I am so sorry I can't make it , its the only day I can go see my nephews new college have fun ~

HI I am so sorry to hear about your husband please try and take care of yourself as I know this is a huge shock for you and your children come here often when you need to read or write about anything take care

what a beautiful picture of you and Clint these days are so hard ,I so wish there weren't how was your day ? I also took my dog and headed to the lake for the weekend I just needed to unplug I agree not the best for everyone but you do whatever you need to get through the day take care and hope you are doing ok

No reason to apologize Ruth we all get it and are here to support and let you know you are not alone in these feelings this is all so hard and I am sorry you are having a hard day take care

Fuck !!today would have been our 25 th wedding anniversary just fucking unfair

with the help of family and friends our bedroom that we started redoing before he died is finished it overlooks the backyard and you see all his gardens MyDon would have loved to see the finish project Hate that would have been our bedroom is now just mine

" if I don't do it , no one else will" I think this says it all its the reason we all get up in the morning its the reason we honor our husbands, like you did, at his memorial all of us here know how hard and heartbreaking this was for you we get that you had to take deep breaths just to get yourself ready and walk through the door I am sorry his family didn't attend take care

Eileen, thanks for this post its inspirational to hear someone who got through such a tough time and is looking forward to the next chapter which is about you and your children this made me happy to read take care !

oh I so wish there was a worm hole or a time machine to bring them back " i just miss you " says it all just wanted you to know I read this and understand Take care

Jennifer these words you wrote let us see what a special love you had for Clint and the love you both shared thank you for writing here on what is a very difficult day, to say the least we get it and so wish you never had to post here take care and keep posting