donswife

like you I lost my husband suddenly we were together for 27 years and would've have stayed another 100 years I dream of leaving everyday ...getting in my car and just going .. I am glad to hear your story as it gives me hope that I might do this and have my own new story to tell

I am so sorry you for the loss of your wonderful wife sounds like you were best friends and soul mates which is something I truly believe we have when you meet that perfect fit Please keep posting and telling us about your wife and anything else you need to share take care

oh really what doesn't suck in this widda world I was sick last week and felt just like you MyDon would've tucked me on the couch and made me dinner I miss the phone call, if he had to go to work ,to see how I was doing ...I miss all the phone calls I miss the look on his face of really caring , and the kiss on the forehead you are not whining , this just sucks hope your feeling better

nothing says happy mothers day then a nice Jab from Mom these comments from people who we love sting the most they just don't get it

Jen ...I hear you and I wish I had good advise just wanted you to know I am here and listening and at times this is so hard the only thing that I can think of that might help is anything you could plan to look forward to ? even if its a Bago and make that a trip hugs to you take care

I am glad you got a couple who will love your house I get the feelings you were talking about when it comes to your house/home I believe that houses have a soul in a way and pick up what people have lived or lost in them I am sure you have "clensed" it of bad energy congratulations , this must have been hard to do

thank you all . Everything you guys have said has helped I do think missing Don at these times makes it harder I am going to try and put a positive spin on this and think of it as don showing up in my head and heart ,even if just for a second, to let me know he's here well I ll give that a try anyway again thank you all for the support --jeff1973 feel free to pm me , you sound like you are going through the same timeline and caretaking --JeanGenie so looking forward to the bago

soon after myDon died , my mom got sick a year in and out of hospice but had some really good moments with her she passed away a few weeks ago what is worrying me is that I have noticed I have restarted the first months of losing don I started to leave a note for him the other day ...few seconds later ..yup I was at a friends and was about to stay longer because "don would be there to let the dog out " ..then.. I am waking up in the morning and thinking he's at work ..then it hits I am scared that this whole process or whatever we call it has restarted and was wondering if anyone has any advise the only positive I have is for a few seconds He's here

damn I can never get my pictures to work:(

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so sorry you have to be in this group but glad you found us here just walking around and getting through the day is a huge accomplishment please keep posting here and again I am so sorry and please be easy on yourself take care

yes so true and its so freeing to have those people My husband and I always had a dark sense of humor and he would be the first one to laugh at these

I was just in mexico a few months ago (first time) if my funds weren't so low I would love to go I stayed at the Riu resort and recommend it highly , very safe and all inclusive take care

maybe captains wife we could also meet you for lunch/walk sunday I know it is going to be a tough day .. I would be happy to met up

I can come saturday and yes its coming up quick see you soon

I am so sorry ...its hard enough to lose a dog that was comfort to you but the added connection to your husband makes it even harder hugs to you take care

"yes Donna, you can be a normal productive person who just happens to miss her dead husband". I wanted to add congratulations with opening your new practice I go through a few of these phases I do huge projects and only focus on that and then walk in my house and notice I look like a pack rat or I then switch and I am vacuuming at midnight , yup I can see my neighbors rolling their eyes at that I did take a few breaks from this and went away , took a deep breath and it helped even know I hate the phrase ,maybe this is our new normal , we just need to find a way to be at Peace with it

Love duval and bourbon bar sponsored "drag race" I think we need a bago I key west

For once I have something fun I did on Saturday night I'm in key west Florida for a long weekend with my brother ,sisters and best friend We are on a much needed short vacation Last night we went to a drag show and you couldn't have asked for a better time Wishing you all the same for your next Saturday night

yikes I haven't put the house solely in my name put that on my list I really need to get to a lawyer to get will etc done but as usual delay ,delay ! its never ending

I still have dons magazines being delivered just can't seem to get the energy to make another one of those phone calls still in ostrich stage on some things

I wish I had words that could take this feeling away I think we all go deep into if I just stopped living the pain would go away like others have said when I felt this way I did come here and read and post even just to put down in words how you feel I hope helped a little this isnt easy but you are here so keep coming back take care

what people say does amaze me the worst one I got was at my nieces baby shower so not really someone I knew well she came up to me and said "Sorry about your husband but this was the best thing that could have happened to you because you look great " wtf so I just assume that people walk away saying to themselves ...why the hell did I just say that !

so funny and I can easily see doing this myself glad you got all the clothes back ..phew

I am so sorry that must have been so hard to see it gets so hard when pieces of the person we loved seem to be dissolving take care