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Just an update, the birthday dinner with his family went really well. We've been seeing each other a lot since. Our kids are always asking when we are going to get together. They like spending time together. His mother and brothers asked where I was when he was with them for Thanksgiving. We decided to celebrate separately for now. We didn't want to introduce our kids to our extended families yet. So far so good, but I'm always skeptical. Why is that?

He invited me to his mother's birthday party Saturday. I mentioned that it would probably be better for me to meet his children before I met his extended family. Instead of meeting them all at the same time. He agreed and suggested that I meet his kids tonight. They have been asking to meet me. It seems a little fast, but comfortable at the same time. I took my youngest daughter with me. Surprisingly our kids weren't awkward around each other at all. It was a fun evening.

That's not very hopeful Arneal, but I agree. They just have different issues. I hope things settle down. She doesn't know about me yet, so that should be interesting too.

SW...you just never know. Just take it one day at a time and enjoy his company. The last time I updated I had two dates in one day. I canceled the afternoon date because I dated him before. I decided not to go backwards. I stopped dating him for a reason. I did go on my evening date, but it was our last. My choice, a lot of red flags for me. I decided to go on a lunch date a few days later with a guy I had been talking to. I'll be honest, I had been hesitant to meet with him. He has 5 children, which is a little intimidating to me. I have 3 daughters myself. Our coffee meet turned into lunch at another location right after. We've been seeing each other quite a bit. I actually spent most of my weekend with him. He's been divorced for almost 2 years, but has been having a lot of issues with his ex. I'm not sure if I'm up for the drama.

Congratulations Rob!

Sw, did you have fun? I'm meeting one guy in the afternoon, and then the other in the evening.

Have fun practicing! I am seeing two guys Saturday. I hope that all works out.

Hopefully the weirdo gets bored and moves on. No dates recently?

SW...do you have an update?

I took my middle daughter to Ft. Wayne today. We went shopping, each got a trucus piercing, had dinner, and then went to see White Reaper and the Struts. Fun day! Tuesday I took my youngest daughter to see our first Blackhawks game in Columbus. Then Wednesday we went to the Columbus zoo. So much fun! Now my oldest needs to plan a mother/daughter trip.

The only thing you can do is be honest with them about how their actions make other people feel. They can deny their actions, but they can't really dismiss everyone's feelings.

Stillwidowed, I hope you have a fun weekend. My ex is going to teach me how to drive a manual shift tomorrow, and Sunday I have a second date with the guy I went out with a couple of weeks ago. I know, crazy I don't know how to drive a manual shift at my age. I'm nervous because it was my LH'S car.

I stayed in tonight because I went to another concert last night. Fozzy was the headliner and Adelita's Way opened for them. Fun concert! It was a small venue so part of Fozzy was out in the crowd playing. I love small venues.

RyanAmysMom- a date night sounds fun too. We were sitting second row, side stage. My girls were in tears from the excitement of seeing him live. He's so adorable! My only disappointment was that Kiss Me wasn't on his playlist. That's the song I really wanted to hear.

I took my three daughters to see Ed Sheeran in Detroit, MI. My LH's sister and my niece went with us. Amazing, fun night!

We had our talk last night. I am still confused, but decided to just remain friends for now. When we started dating he had just ended a long term relationship. He told me he's still struggling with that. He feels that he made the right decision, but misses her. I told him I'm not interested in being casual with him. I guess we'll see. Maybe bad timing, maybe better as friends. I do enjoy spending time with him and how comfortable we are together. It's comfortable having him around my girls too, but I don't want to confuse them either. I also told him that. I went on a date Tuesday and it went really well. We lost track of time and didn't realize we had sat talking so long. We're talking about going out again.

I started dating at a year and a half too. I think it's very common to be approached by or have an interest in friends. They're familiar, comfortable. My advice would be to not have the expectation that each man you spend time with is the one. If you enjoy his company, spend time with him. Have fun! Try not to overthink it. I know, easier said than done. I can relate to being attracted to the wrong men when I first started dating too. What I realized over time was that I was choosing emotionally unavailable guys because I was emotionally unavailable too. I knew the relationship wouldn't progress, which made it "safe" for me. I wanted the company, but no feelings. If that makes sense. I'm not saying that's what is happening for you though.

That's one thing I really like about him. He's a great listener, very intuitive. We have very deep, honest conversations. We both build up to that though. We think first, then have our talk. I guess we'll see. My youngest daughter already asked me this morning if we were going swimming. I worry about my girls feelings too. Ugh

Bunny, the pool is definitely a plus. Ha! Especially for my daughters. We definitely were "no drama." I honestly think my response to him saying I love you made him pause. I don't blame him. It's nice to hear that going back to an ex worked out for you. Trying, thanks! He has always tried to include my daughters. I only allowed that after we had dated for awhile. They all like him. He's fun, sarcastic like us. Arneal, you are right! All of those things are going through my mind right now. He's the only guy who challenges me in that way. I'm not sure how to explain it. I think it's guilt or fear because I "feel" with him. It's that vulnerability. I can see myself with him. The other guys I dated were just fun. If we date it would be exclusive, no doubt. On the other hand ladies I sometimes think I just overthink everything!!!

I think maybe I wasn't clear. He's hoping we can start up where we left off, but if that's not what I want he wants to spend time together as friends. I saw him again tonight. Honestly, this is different for me. I never really thought I would date an ex. I think it's because of how things ended that I'm reconsidering. About three weeks before we both stopped communicating he told me he loved me. I didn't say it back. I knew he was building up to saying it, but I still wasn't ready to hear it. I did have feelings for him, but I wasn't in love with him. Not yet anyway. I think in this situation it was me, not him. I'm leaning towards spending time with him and seeing where it goes.

Yesterday was my birthday, so of course I received a lot of messages from family and friends. One message I didn't expect to receive was from the last guy I was seeing. We dated for 8 months, and abruptly stopped seeing each other in April. He invited my youngest daughter and I over for dinner and swimming. It was very comfortable, we had fun. We had a really good conversation on the phone after I got home about how and why our relationship ended. I'm still processing how I feel about it. He did say regardless of our relationship status he enjoys my company and hopes that we can spend time together as friends. He invited us to his house again tonight to swim.

Stillwidowed, have fun on your meet and greets.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Heartbreaking

I'm in a horrible mood and really shouldn't be around anyone. I'm spending my evening alone cleaning. I just want to crawl in bed and sleep this moodiness away.

jgib, That is exactly how I feel. I'm not interested in being with anyone just to be with someone. I haven't tried online dating sites yet. All of my dates have contacted me through Facebook or mutual friends.