Virgo

I'm not quite 50 (43), but I've witnessed the desperation with all ages, men and women. A lot of my friend's tell me I'll have a hard time recoupling because I'll never settle for less than what I had. I don't see that as a negative, but they feel what I had with Phil was rare. Maybe, but I'm not settling.

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SW I wondered about that too. Hopefully he did tell her. Who knows, maybe she's casual too. I've learned being single that a lot of couples have open relationships. Not for me, but I don't judge. I'm glad he told me. I do respect that.

SW- Obviously his reaction was very telling too. He sounded very defensive. It's good that it came out on the first date. I think you handled the situation maturely. He has some growing up to do. I just want honesty from these guys so I can make decisions for myself with the information provided. No games! Julester- it is hard to schedule dating around "life." I'm glad you're enjoying each other's company. Leadfeather- I'm glad you found someone you enjoy spending time with too. Jim, that I mentioned before, is seeing someone. He's basically unsure about her and looking for fun on the side, or other options. He was upfront and honest about where his mind is. I respect that. I'm not interested in being a side piece, so that's not going anywhere. Another guy reached out to me on Facebook. He is currently going through a divorce. She filed two months ago, so it's very fresh, raw. I'm not sure about that, so I'm going slow. We haven't met in person yet, but he has asked to. We'll see.

It's quiet in here lately. How are those summer romances going?

When I get into a funk like that I try to find something to focus my attention on. Whether it's a house project or learning something new. I think the key there is change. You need a change. The hard part is getting started. What about a gym or health club membership? You would be doing something just for you while interacting with others. A lot of gyms offer different classes you might be interested in. Focusing on improving your health would build up your confidence too.

I went out for a little bit on my own. The two guys that I've been chatting with had their kids tonight. I wasn't really feeling it tonight anyway.

I went to a Blacktop Mojo concert in Ft Wayne. They were awesome! They sang one of their songs sitting down on the floor in the middle of the crowd. I got a side hug from the lead singer. I'll definitely see them again! The opening bands were terrible. I wouldn't walk across the street to see them again. Music is such a great escape!

I thought this was funny, and s little weird. Saturday afternoon I was talking to my youngest daughter about me dating. She was asking all sorts of questions. Jokingly I said "my new boyfriend's name is gym, g y m not Jim." She said, " wow mom." (Insert eyeroll. ) Well, later that night I got a friend request and message on Facebook from a guy named Jim. 😲😄 What are the odds?

Cbbi- I guess it really is all about perspective, and kids really do adjust to change easier than most adults. I'm glad to hear your transition wasn't awful. Here I am still dragging my feet a bit. I did sign up for more classes though.

We had a great time! Between the train ride, ride on the subway, dinner, the concert, and traveling back home our date was almost 16 hours. The music took us back to our teen years. He ended up not going to the other concert with me Sunday. None of the bands were really his favorite music genre. I had a blast!! I ran into people I knew. I'm glad I went!

That is why I asked how long you two had been dating. I think even under normal circumstances at two months you're still getting to know each other. It sounds like he's trying to get it. Give him a chance. If you're not comfortable sharing that part of your life with him yet then tell him so he doesn't feel like you're shutting him down.

I enjoyed reading how I also feel so eloquently described, thank you! I think that it is definitely going to be different. How could it not be? Not worse, or less, but different. We're in different stages of our lives, and have past experiences that made us into who we are now. When we met our spouses we grew up with them. I was 16 when I met my late husband, married at 19, and happily married until he died at 39. I would like to view my next loving relationship as growing old with someone.

Thank you ladies! I'll let you know how it goes.

How long have you been dating your NG?

I have a date Saturday. We're going to see Def Leppard and Journey in Chicago. We might be going to another concert Sunday. (Stone Temple Pilots, Theory of a Deadman, Saving Able, Nonpoint, and Nothing More.) I've had the tickets to the concert Sunday for awhile, but it's really not his favorite music genre.

Congratulations Rob!

Most people should stick to...I'm sorry for your loss.

I've been dating off and on for around three years. I took breaks along the way. Probably almost a years worth. I dated the last guy for eight months. We stopped seeing each other in April.

I miss having someone to share life with. Being half of a couple. Someone who actually cares about me and considers my needs. I take care of everyone else. I need someone to be there for me. My family and friends are amazing, but it's not the same.

I might get to that point eventually too, but that's not where I'm at now. I want to move forward. Honestly, I'm feeling pretty discouraged lately.

I'm ok posting here since most members are online dating. I would guess their motivation is familiarity and wanting physical contact. The more I think about it, I think I'll pass. That's not where I'm at.

I still haven't ventured into online dating, but I'm dating. This is really the only dating thread to share in. I had two men who I previously dated ask me to get together this week. Part of me thinks only forward, not backwards. Then part of me thinks it would be fun to go out.

I wore my ring only a few times after Phil died. It hurt me more than it helped. To me it represented everything I lost. My life was forever changed, so I wanted to change the meaning of my ring too. I had my diamond solitaire set into the center of a custom white gold heart pendant. He'll always be a part of my heart. I love wearing my pendant.

Yes! All of it! I miss feeling like someone actually cares about me, someone I can count on, who is always there for me.