Guest Mel4072 Posted July 2, 2015 Share Posted July 2, 2015 My late husband's name was Mike. In January, I went on Match. I didn't want to meet any men named Mike because I thought it would be too hard. Well, I started putting one off and cancelled a date on him. I felt guilty for it, so I called him. I liked what I heard on the phone and thought "I could really be friends with him." So we met. Talking with him was easy. We talked for a couple of hours, laughing and just enjoying each other's stories and personalities. He asked if he could kiss me and I said no. He asked if he could see me again, I said yes. So our next date, he brought up the name thing and asked me to please call him something other than Mike because he was afraid I would always think of my lLH and be sad. I asked what his middle name is and discovered it is identical to my LH. Yikes! We have been on some amazing dates. An Air Supply concert with a five star dinner, roses and chocolates. A trip to Malibu and Disneyland. Valentine's Day we went to a haunted house. We've been to Galveston to a wedding together. Each time, we stay in different rooms and our kids are there and share rooms with their parent. It sounds extravagant, I know. I actually asked him why he took me on dates like that and he said "I knew the moment I met you that you were special and I wanted you in my life. I wouldn't do this for anybody else. " He is so patient and understanding with my grief and my fears, insecurities and anxieties about dating and a new relationship. He comforts me, reassured me, waits for me and makes me laugh. While in Malibu, he asked my daughter for her blessing to propose. She said no. I have begun to see a counselor to help me with the guilt I feel for her loss and the control she has over my life. Mike has offered to go with me, if I want. Last night, we were supposed to have a date. We haven't had any alone time for a month. He wound up taking care of a friend who had surgery yesterday but asked me to come visit for a while because he missed me. While driving over to see him, I began worrying about how he was letting a teen dictate his life and I got very upset and praying that God would fix things for us. I showed up and his friend left the room. Mike got down on one knee and said "There is never going to be a perfect time or perfect place. I wanted it to be special but I don't want to miss the opportunity because I'm waiting for the perfect time and perfect place." He pulled out a ring and asked me to marry him. I know people will judge, people will question. But I can't imagine letting somebody else decide for me on this one. There is no doubt in my mind that I want to spend my life with him. I love him. I'm engaged! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
linda5 Posted July 2, 2015 Share Posted July 2, 2015 Congratulations Mel! I'm happy for you. Wishing you and your new Mike many years of blissful happiness. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
patriciad Posted July 2, 2015 Share Posted July 2, 2015 Congratulations! Sounds like you found a really good guy. Pat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissinGrizz Posted July 2, 2015 Share Posted July 2, 2015 Best wishes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RobFTC Posted July 2, 2015 Share Posted July 2, 2015 Congratulations and best wishes, Mel! Take care, Rob T Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted July 2, 2015 Share Posted July 2, 2015 Congratulations and best wishes! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
canadiangirl Posted July 3, 2015 Share Posted July 3, 2015 Congratulations on your engagement! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest mawidow Posted July 7, 2015 Share Posted July 7, 2015 Wow, congratulations! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gracelet Posted July 8, 2015 Share Posted July 8, 2015 Mel, I wish you and Mike every happiness. You deserve it. Congratulations! Xxxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mac Posted July 8, 2015 Share Posted July 8, 2015 I wish you all the best. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catnip Posted July 9, 2015 Share Posted July 9, 2015 Blessings to you both!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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