MissingSquish Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 My mom's twin brother, my uncle was like a second dad to me. They found him on his front steps after being dead for 12 hours. He was divorced, had no kids. I hadn't seen him since Christmas (when I ran into him at the mall) but he was always a great guy. I am in total shock. He had a heart attack a year ago, but had a quadruple bypass and seemed to be doing ok. Services are Tuesday, I don't know much else further than that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeanGenie Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 So sad...I'm sorry. Sending you strength to get through the next few days... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheelerswife Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 I'm sorry, MS. Death just sucks. I'm sorry he died alone. I'm sorry this good man is gone. I'm sorry for your loss, too. Hugs, Maureen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IfIonlycould Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 MS-Sending cyber support.....(((HUGS))) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissingSquish Posted July 26, 2015 Author Share Posted July 26, 2015 Thanks guys for your support. Just found out from my mom that her sister is being admitted to the hospital (this is actually common for her sister), so services might be postponed beyond Tuesday. I guess this is an opportunity to tell work that I am widowed. I don't know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheelerswife Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 Sometime doors open, MS. You already have established relationships at work and a good track record since you joined their team. Nothing to lose here...maybe some respect to be gained, though. Hugs, Maureen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissingSquish Posted July 26, 2015 Author Share Posted July 26, 2015 Thanks Maureen. I know you're right that I shouldn't fear telling them at this point. I just sent an email to my manager requesting bereavement leave. Haven't heard back from him yet, but I'm sure we will speak either today or tomorrow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest nonesuch Posted July 26, 2015 Share Posted July 26, 2015 Sorry for your loss. Sending hugs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trying Posted July 27, 2015 Share Posted July 27, 2015 I'm sorry for your loss, and for your mom's too. i think that your manager and coworkers knowing your history will probably be a relief to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissingSquish Posted July 27, 2015 Author Share Posted July 27, 2015 Thank you guys so much. Spoke with my manager through email and am planning on taking off Wednesday through Friday (services start Wednesday). He asked if I needed to take tomorrow off too, and I said I would rather be caught up on work knowing that I'll be out for 3 days. I'm not 100% sure I'll speak with my manager about my widowed status at work. I've received some interesting opinions on the contrary, and I think I'll have to weigh this one out and see if it feels right to talk about. One wise widow said to me today: "it's grief, they're going to expect sadness. They just don't need to know the roots of it" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swilson Posted July 27, 2015 Share Posted July 27, 2015 My sympathy for the loss of your Uncle "2nd Dad" :'( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissingSquish Posted July 28, 2015 Author Share Posted July 28, 2015 Thanks swilson. Today was hard. My manager or the CIO asked for info for the services, so they might be attending and meeting my family (gulp) for the first time. Should be interesting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted July 28, 2015 Share Posted July 28, 2015 I'm so sorry for your loss. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captains wife Posted July 29, 2015 Share Posted July 29, 2015 So sorry to read this....these sudden, young losses are so hard. Hope family doing ok... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mmg19 Posted July 29, 2015 Share Posted July 29, 2015 Sending condolence MS. So sorry for your loss. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissingSquish Posted July 29, 2015 Author Share Posted July 29, 2015 Thank you guys so much. Wake is this afternoon and evening. I got through the first part of the wake ok. Funeral and burial is tomorrow. I know tomorrow is going to be really hard. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Baylee627 Posted July 30, 2015 Share Posted July 30, 2015 Gosh, I am so, so sorry, MS. Baylee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gracelet Posted July 30, 2015 Share Posted July 30, 2015 Thinking of you, my NY widow bestie. xxx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissingSquish Posted July 30, 2015 Author Share Posted July 30, 2015 Thanks widow besties. I was fortunate to have a visit from Meandthekids last night at the wake. You guys are the best. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trying Posted July 30, 2015 Share Posted July 30, 2015 (((Missingsquish))) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissingSquish Posted July 30, 2015 Author Share Posted July 30, 2015 Thanks so much guys. Love you all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissingSquish Posted July 31, 2015 Author Share Posted July 31, 2015 I feel at peace right now. Sad, but at peace. I am going to miss my uncle tons, no doubt. I whispered into his ear this morning, "till we meet again, save a place for me". I can honestly say I have no bad memories of him. Ever. I had a great relationship with him. I lived my life. He lived his life. We had mutual respect and understanding for each other. He loved me. I loved him. He knew I loved him. I knew he loved me. I've gotten a few signs from Squish the past few days that he's taking care of my uncle up there. Squish's favorite (and obscure) song came on the radio on Sunday. Driving home from the wake last night, Jack Johnson's Upside Down came on the radio. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissingSquish Posted August 4, 2015 Author Share Posted August 4, 2015 Back at work today, and the distraction was good. Just looking forward to my long weekend with Captainswife in a few days. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lmsmdm Posted August 4, 2015 Share Posted August 4, 2015 Ugh...it's never easy. Hugs to you and your family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissingSquish Posted August 4, 2015 Author Share Posted August 4, 2015 Thanks so much. This is so tough. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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