MrsDan Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 I just learned from my MIL that my FIL has lung cancer, and it's stage four. She didn't want to stay on the phone; much like after Dan died, she's trying to stay strong. I got off the phone with her and cried. I held Neelah, who adores and is adored by my FIL, and just sobbed. More than anything for my daughter. Is that selfish? She loves her Papa. He has been the one constant male presence, the only male she was comfortable with for a very long time after Dan died. And I'll have to watch her grieve him, the way I never had to watch her grieve Dan. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guaruj Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 I'm sorry to hear this about your father-in-law. Your family doesn't need this kind of stress right now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trying Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 I'm so sorry to hear about your FIL, f***ing cancer just sucks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheelerswife Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 I'm sorry you are facing the loss of your FIL. Maureen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kjs1989 Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 I am so very sorry. And no, it is the opposite of selfish when we cry for our kids' loss. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoVerySad Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 I'm so sorry, MrsDan. Of course it isn't selfish to want your sweet little girl not to hurt and lose her Papa who is dear to her. Watching our kids hurt is twice as painful than our own pain in my experience. If only we could protect them from hurt, especially when they've already lost so much. Sending you both tight hugs... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 I'm so sorry. Cancer affects so many families. Watching our kids hurting and grieving is painful. We lost my mom just 3 months before my husband. It's a lot, especially for kids. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Helena Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 I?m so sorry. A warm hug from me to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mmg19 Posted January 28, 2016 Share Posted January 28, 2016 So sorry, Mrs. Dan. ((Hugs)) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alexswife Posted January 31, 2016 Share Posted January 31, 2016 I'm so sorry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donswife Posted January 31, 2016 Share Posted January 31, 2016 I am so sorry to hear about your FIL , this has to be so hard on all of you hugs to you and your daughter Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
widowat33 Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 Thinking about your family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lcoxwell Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 I am so very sorry to hear about this. There seems to be so much sadness and sorrow, and it is normal to want to protect our children from the pain. Crying for your daughter and the loss that she will face isn't selfish, at all. In my opinion, it just shows what a wonderful, loving, and caring mother you are. (((Hugs))) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest nonesuch Posted February 6, 2016 Share Posted February 6, 2016 I'm so very sorry, Mrs. Dan. Thoughts and prayers coming your way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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