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I am so sorry that you have to go thru this Nicky11. We all have noticed what you are experiencing. I was not able to think anything except why this happened to me. I went back to India for 2 weeks end of Dec and was feeling bad that everyone else is back to normal except me and her mother (they were close). Came back and had a very bad month. Then decided to join a meetup group of singles (divorce/separated/widow(er) ). Now I am part of the group and whatsapp and noticed how everyone is try to move forward. It is similar group like widda but just more physical and virtual meeting. I was able to meet different people like 4-5 times in last 4 weeks. It has helped me to see the world in different way now as I can see there are lots of people like us. If you can join similar group please try. Hugs Manoj

Hi Lewis, Thanks a lot for great work. Donation done. Please let us know if you are still short. Also where are you hosting. I host with following 2 companies and prices are very reasonable along with great service. http://sectorlink.com/ http://softsyshosting.com/ Thanks Manoj

Congrats.. Party time..

Great... I was thinking of doing something but now started getting ideas so please keep writing.

I think everyone will accept the truth but will take their own time. I noticed my kids have accepted the truth faster than me. I still sometimes keep looking for her inside the home at night. Some days don't feel much pain some days can't stop myself. Also if you are surrounded by people i noticed I feel less pain.

Perfect

Since my last post week earlier I saw her once more and this time she was talking to me. I don't remember the discussion but was smiling after I woke up. Tatianakm: I had similar experience on my marriage anniversary. I thought my mind is making it up but it was like I was half sleep and half awake. Waiting for another similar experience.

I don't have this issue as my inlaws are not expecting anything so really cannot comment much except according to me everything belonging to him should be yours and now it should be your decision what you want to give but again if there is something which is very imp for them and not that imp for you please go ahead and give.

Ok march it is... Do you want during March break? Let's fix some tentative date and take it from there.

Congrats and best wishes.

I am not 8 months out but keep happening to me. Especially I am ok whole day and suddenly reading one of the messages here brings back the memory and start crying so it is pretty normal for us.

VDay was not that bad. Came to work stayed late.. Went home and starting to work and found my laptop acting crazy so decided to fix it but stayed up till 2. Made sure not to check much of whatsapp and no facebook at all. Didn't go to crowded area and survived.

Should we plan a meeting or wait for March so that snow is over.

Hi Jennica, I am also 5 months out and kids are doing fine. So yes please take care of yourself as then only you can take care of them. I talked to them about their mom sometimes in funny way and sometimes little serious way but they are getting use to it. Thanks Manoj

Hi, So sorry for your loss. The things you are feeling are absolutely normal as we all have gone thru it. Eat and drink lots of water to keep yourself going. Yes friends will disappear as we all have seen it. Keep posting as it will help and also read other topics as it helps you to relate everything to yourself. Hugs Manoj

I am in similar situation. It has been more than 5 months and not even 5 times got her in my dreams. Most of the time in my dreams also she is gone and I am somehow trying to relate that in real life I still feel she is there where as in dreams she is gone. I hope god will help us to at least meet them in dreams.

I suppose guys age faster than girls..

Hi Leah, I totally understand life is no easy especially after your love is gone. I try to go with this concept When you can't avoid it might else well try to enjoy it. I know it is very very difficult for all of us but trying doesn't hurt. Finally now after almost 6 months I am getting back to senses. I haven't even invoiced people for the work I did for them before the incident. Hugs Manoj

Hi Missing Ac, Very sorry for your loss. When someone joins here it is unfortunate for all of us. This site is great and when ever you feel low come here and take it out with a new post and trust me with all replies you will start feeling better. Hugs Manoj

Very nicely put Arneal

Hi Leah There is nothing wrong with you. Some days will be like that and some days will be better. Go and meet people even if it means forcing yourself. Last weekend after taking too long to decide I finally went to club with a meetup group. I couldn't dance for first 30 minutes and then every few minutes think of her and stop and start staring in space for a while but overall felt good that I came out and met some new people as don't have many close friends in canada and everyone I have is in India. Have a beer if that makes things better Hugs Manoj

Hi Mrskro, I hope you are feeling better and enjoying your beer after venting out. I feel something like that when at night 2AM had to put dishwasher or make things ready for next day morning etc. Never did any of those work in my life as was a spoiled kid and then husband. My wife was driving a Buick SUV and I have a sedan. Not sure what to do with 2 vehicles but sometimes feel need both as small one is good at gas (I drive 100+ Km per day) and bigger one is gas guzzler. Paying insurance for both and specially when my boy is uni and one vehicle automatically goes on his name. Anyways sorry took over your thought to vent out. Will go out and look for a beer else will settle with coffee till evening. Manoj

Congrats and Best wishes

Hi Kiwi, So sorry for your loss. As Adley mentioned this forum will help you speak, hear and write your and eveyone else thoughts. I lost my wife in Aug end due to medical injury and still pain is there but now it is little better than earlier, I suppose brain and heart knows how much pain you can take. So please take care of your kids and even more importantly yourself as they can rely on you but you cannot rely on anybody. Hugs Manoj

Good luck