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Sorry to hear Adley.

momof2obs : "Not a bad Saturday night" i would say it is terrific night for kids. Those words coming from someone who has thru the same means a lot.

Best wishes from all of us.

Hi momof201102016, So sorry for your loss and welcome to club nobody wants to be part of. Yes pain will lessen but never go away I suppose. I use to cry almost whole day and now came down to few times in 5 months. Yes it will be a good idea as Newgirl mentioned to put the query in parents section as some will able to help. Take care of yourself and your kids. Manoj

I agree with this I use to make my wife smile with my silly jokes or talks or will tease or try to make her get angry on me but now miss all that stuff. When sometimes see similar stuff on tv smiles or cry sometimes.

Hello Everyone, Sorry we all have to be part of this club but as if we had choice. I am 5 months out and now I can see more people asking me what is the plan for future. For now just telling them something to shut them up. I gave away some of the stuff belonging to my wife as knew my daughter will not use it and it is better someone uses then going waste. Rest of the stuff is still there and keep thinking of slowing donating them but can't find courage. Hugs Manoj

It is 5 months for me today and I don't know why I am crying since morning just missing her. I hope tomorrow will be better Hugs to everyone. Manoj

Hi Amber, So sorry for you loss but you are at right place as we all are going similar loss. It is good that you have started writing as I feel much better after just replying in this forum. Hugs Manoj

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Hi Leah, Sorry to hear about the incident and what you have to go thru. I had similar scenario on Sat when my daughter came to me to tell that she is on phone with a friend who might have killed herself by eating too many pills and wanted me to call 911. I asked him she knew the address but friend will not tell. Anyways as my daughter was crying non stop so I decided to call 911 and give cell number of the girl and cops reached there and found she was fine as she too 8 instead of 2 tablets but still took her to emergency. I took my daughter to hospital to see her friend but the whole episode on phone with my daughter was for almost an hour and definitely has some effect on her. Not sure what to tell her except she did a good job of telling me. Hugs Manoj

Sorry for your loss. I had similar dreams about my wife where I have been told she is gone just 1 or 2 times it is like she is alive. I am dying to communicate with her in dreams but so far nothing. I hope it will get better for you. Hugs Manoj

I also want to write but then realize kids might not like it. My 19 year old asked me to close his mom's FB as it pops up whenever he is on FB so I did close it considering he requested it few times and think it is kind of closure for him.

Home is not home, as you said is only realized once we lose them. Missing her at this moment and don't feel like having dinner or going to bed but know in my head that I have to do all this to stay alive for my kids. Manoj

Hi, So sorry for your loss. We all have lost our loved ones in one or other tragic way so we can understand your loss and pain. For now just take one day at a time and eat well. Hugs Manoj

I have noticed the same thing that kids will only mention her if really needed else no discussion so I bring up the topic and discuss or show some funny pics and make comments.

Sorry to see you in this club. I lost my wife 4 months ago and I was trying to do everything similar to my wife's style but realise I can only do 25% of what she can do. I was one doing most of stuff while she was here since Dec 2015 but she was there to monitor it I miss my her monitoring her. Now I have stopped comparing me with her as I know it is not possible. So please go easy on you. Hugs Manoj

Hi Karin_a You are pretty normal. I am doing similar things like crying when alone or driving or shower time as no one can see you. The only thing which makes me work is my kids so if it something to do for them I have energy else I don't. Keep taking things as they are and hopefully things will get better. Hugs Manoj

Sorry to see you part of this club. Eat healthy and focus on baby's health. I did similar stuff but my kids are grown up (19 and 14) so more worried about them as they are in critical stage of life. Hugs Manoj

Hi Katie, So sorry for your loss. Yes your top most priority should be kids. Take one day at a time and hopefully things will be little better. It sucks to be part of this club but really not in our hands. I lost my wife age 43 back in end of August and as was away for almost 1 month as she was in hospital so had to start work soon after cremination and other religious stuff was done and as kids started school soon too. Hugs Manoj

Hang on everyone we all are in same boat. Around 4:35 Am but no sleep in eyes so seems like our destiny to wait till we force ourselves to sleep.

Hi Indira, I am so sorry for you loss which led you to this group. My kids were not of similar age but 18 year old boy and 14 year old girl. My boy cried most on the day of death and little on funeral. My daughter didn't cry much after funeral. Seeing this I stopped crying in front of them as I was crying whole time during funeral and that might have made them think them crying will make me more weak. Your kids might be going thru similar emotions. Also kids seems to get mature faster now-a-days. God bless you. Hugs Manoj

Hi Leah, Hugs to you. I think we all go thru some of it. I didn't had similar case but was blaming myself for her death whereas I know it was not my fault. I totally agree anger and hurt will make us something different which might not be good for our kids. Hugs Manoj

Sorry to see you in this club but as we all know we are not here by choice. If allowed to changed anything of our life that day would be the item on my list. Drink lots of water. Try not to think too much and take one moment or an hour at a time. Hugs Manoj

Same situation here. I finally decided to be with family during dec end. Since last 18 years had made so many trips to India with or without my LW but was not unhappy as I knew either she was waiting for me or was with me. Feels more depressed after seeing everyone as a happy couple and enjoying life as I was till few months back. This year has been tough as things were not on my side since last Dec but once she left I am completely broken and don't know the direction except have to live for my kids. Hugs Manoj

Hi Rebecca, Hugs and Sorry for your loss. I lost my wife 4 months back unexpectedly and still trying to digest the reality. It will take time some days will be worse than others. Take one moment at a time. Don't take any big decisions if not needed. Drink lots of water and eat as much as you can but make sure you eat. Hugs Manoj