donswife

So sorry couldn't make it. I was so looking forward to come Will try again next time and can't wait to here how it went My moms health got worse so had to rush to get palliative care involved this weekend Yup. Happy new year.

this is exactly how I feel , I have stopped being the person that I was and I miss her

Cheers and thank you for getting me to realize that I do have a warm, dry,and safe home Appliances that work and fellow wids that understand take care

Keep taking this day by day its the hardest thing you have probably had to do just getting up and getting daily life done is a huge accomplishment I wish I had more encouraging things to say but know we are here to listen take care

what a lovely thing to have happened Your niece obviously Loved your Catherine and the only good thing about the ice is that is has preserved this wonderful cookie for awhile I agree I find the second year for these holidays to be so much harder, but I hope this helped I find kids are the most honest when it comes to asking or talking about who we have lost My neighbors son who is 8 considered My don his best fried and talks about him often I love that , Just the other day he said "I miss that old guy" brought a huge smile to my face take care

wow that just sucks , sounds like good time to keep a your distance form these people sorry about that

wow has the "ex" been around them the whole time or is this a new re entrance into their lives either way it is just weird and I can understand why you ask ...WTF? i am sure you'll never fin the answer to that one take care

so right I miss after we would host christmas eve , the quiet time where it was just us two , opening presents we gave to each other and talking about the night oh I so miss those time yup it sucks !

you didn't fail anyone and when those tears want to come , nothing can stop them Having true sadness that he isnt there.. is the truth It was all his family who was there so they understand all to much we didnt have any kids either and together over 25 years so I understand the private jokes and remember when times Like you we were together more years then apart Nothing is harder then walking into a house, party etc alone so used to having Him as my constant shadow and support God I just miss that , I miss him take care

second christmas with out Don and yes, some how this is harder like you said last year was a blur but here we go ... christmas eve at my nephews with family , just part of our family will be 20 of us big crowd but being from a loud irish family it's always a good time and toasts to ones who are not there I will stay over at moms christmas eve with my brother (her health is bad so needs 24 hours care ) we will make christmas dinner for the three of us with people popping in and out I am blessed in the fact that my family and friends don't ignore that Don is gone and this is hard for me and them blessed that they don't let me dwell on it and they provide stories and laughter about him plus we no longer buy presents just enjoy each others company so huge relief on that end

both my nephews got married this summer ,my sister who died of cancer two years ago, they are her sons so it was emotional to start with yes joyous for the reason and I am happy good things are happening but like you always some pings of heartache To not have the person who would have just touched my arm during the Vows beside me or to really know how important this was for them I just miss him the most at these happy moments take care

good luck !

fuck that the second Christmas since my don died is so much harder, because he really isn't coming back fuck the feeling when you pull up to a gathering and you have to take a deep breath and get ready to walk in alone fuck that you have to put on a happy face all the fucking time fuck that I won't be getting a Christmas present from a man that put so much thought into every gift he ever gave me

I am a little over a year from when My don died for now I cannot picture myself with anyone else My don would work some overnights so I was used to doing lots of things on my own and had friends that I would do things with etc I am prepared to be single and right now have no need to be out looking for someone a fellow widower noticed I still have my wedding ring on (and dons on my necklace) so until I feel I am no longer married to him I can't even think of anyone else like you I feel like I won the lottery when I met don and chances of doing that again are slim I appreciate you posting this as I am glad to see its OK to not be recoupled or even wanted to be

plain and simple that just sucks hope in some way this turns around for you take care

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Max2507 - what you posted now makes sense why this person sent it to me I knew it wasn't sent maliciously so what you said made it clearer for me thank you for that so funny how people can interrpret things with different perspective as to where their lives are you are right, I still think of don as here and I hope when that feeling fades I can think of it as a way to start the next part of my life

someone sent this to me on Facebook , they were trying to be understanding but it took me to my knee's it was : The saddest moment is when the person who gave you the best memories , becomes a memory . this really set me back , was trying to be a good soldier and get through the second Chistmas without my don but this made it real and I don't like it just when you think you can make it through the day, the pain comes back , strong as the day it happened

yes I agree so much this is my second Christmas with out my don and its so much harder this year glad to have people like you guys who know how it feels and how hard it is

birthdays are tough to say the least I also felt I just wanted to skip mine I am so sorry your Rob isn't here to wish you a happy birthday and give you a hug take care

this post timing was perfect I have been struggling with both my mind and heart I feel like I should be able to at least take my wedding ring off =mind but I just can't =heart I am still not able to even think about someone other then Don in my life =heart and I know he's not coming back=mind I am still in love with him so this post made me feel OK about that and when my mind and heart are ready Ill know it in my gut thank you for this and glad when you were ready you found someone

I noticed when i looked in the mirror ,( not that i do that often , I just looked so angry and I have become a person with road rage just saying the meanest things to people in cars thank god the windows are up just need to find an outlet somehow .. I get where you are and how it isn't the way we used to be

Yes it is Saps the strength right out of you and doesn't matter how much you sleep , if you sleep It's just exhausting

Mark. Hope today's red up being a good day to remember her birthday. I'm sure it was still a tough day

I can see why you feel overwhelmed because it is a lot you are going through its overwhelming just dealing with life itself for me I am sorry about your dog and I do get the strong connection we have to our pets they listen to everything we say and never talk back I am glad you ended with things you are grateful for ... Happy birthday take care