Jess

Hi everyone. We are keeping this board active as it seems clear that these discussions need a place separate from Social Encounters. Thank you all and I hope this space continues to be helpful for our community.

I wish I had magic words to make everything okay, but all I can offer are positive thoughts to you.

Okay, if the need arises we are happy to help.

Old thread is unpinned so it can be bumped. The new "how to" is pinned and locked. If future editing needs arise and it gives you issues, just let us know.

Yes, let's start clean with a new thread with just the instructions and we'll lock it from receiving replies. The lock shouldn't impact your ability as the author to make edits as needed, but if it does, you can contact me or whoever may be admin at that time to unlock for the edit and relock. We can retitle the existing pinned thread to "Bump- I'm in chat" or something and unpin it.

Rob, we were thinking that locking the pinned thread and having a separate bumpable chat thread may be the best way to go. That way, your instructions stay pinned but people could still bump a regular thread so it doesn't get overlooked. I was thinking you could create a "I'm in chat" thread and edit your pinned instructions in the original post with a link to that thread. Thoughts?

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I did this once, but a coworker said "Jess, you know I love you and think you are great... but honey, your shirt is inside out" Sigh.

I know that feeling so well. I felt like much of my life was tied into looking after my husband's well being, even though he didn't have an illness. He had a very intense job that affecting his emotional state profoundly (child pornography investigation). I really used to feel like my life purpose was to make him happy so he could make a difference in the world. When he was suddenly gone, I lost my purpose and those are the sort of things that really make this type of loss so profound. When we lose a spouse, we lose our identity as a spouse and all of the plans, routine, and focus that role entailed. Of course a lot of us feel so lost, how could we really feel any other way? Bit by bit, new pieces of our identity come together and new purpose seeps in. I am still in the seeping in phase myself, but it has gotten better.

Moved. Thank you.

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We are giving this a try.

There has been demand for a place for those in committed relationships to be able to discuss the highs and lows of this circumstance. We would like this forum to evolve to meet the needs of its members, so we are going to try out having this space available as we agree that the idea has merit. In the event it does not make sense to keep it separated, we would simply merge this board back into the Social Encounters board so no one's posts are lost. If you have an existing thread in Social Encounters that you think is better suited for this new space, please either reply to this post or send me a PM to request that it be moved.

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Below is a compilation of common Acronyms/Abbreviations you may come across in this forum: BAG - Beyond Active Grieving BF - Boyfriend BIL - Brother-in-law BOL - Brother-out-of-law DD - Dear Daughter DF - Dear Fiance DGI - Don't Get It DH - Dear Husband DS - Dear Son DSD - Dear Step-daughter DSS - Dear Step-son DW - Dear Wife FIL - Father-in-law FML - F*ck My Life FOL - Father-out-of-law FWB - Friend with Benefits FWIW - For what it's worth GF - Girlfriend IRL - In Real Life LH - Late Husband LW - Late Wife MIL - Mother-in-law MOL - Mother-out-of-law NG- New Guy/Girl SIL - Sister-in-law SOL - Sister-out-of-law SOS - Survivor of Suicide YMMV - Your Milage May Vary For additional common abbreviations, please see the following link: http://www3.sympatico.ca/n.rieck/docs/Internet-Acronyms.html

I can also add a link like this one: http://www3.sympatico.ca/n.rieck/docs/Internet-Acronyms.html

Yes, and added.

Current list with additions: BF - Boyfriend BIL - Brother-in-law BOL - Brother-out-of-law DD - Dear Daughter DF - Dear Fiance DGI - Don't Get It DH - Dear Husband DS - Dear Son DSD - Dear Step-daughter DSS - Dear Step-son DW - Dear Wife FIL - Father-in-law FML - F*ck My Life FOL - Father-out-of-law FWB - Friend with Benefits FWIW - For what it's worth GF - Girlfriend IRL - In Real Life LH - Late Husband LW - Late Wife MIL - Mother-in-law MOL - Mother-out-of-law SIL - Sister-in-law SOL - Sister-out-of-law SOS - Survivor of Suicide YMMV - Your Milage May Vary

The list as it stands now to go in the post: BF - Boyfriend BIL - Brother-in-law DD - Dear Daughter DGI - Don't Get It DH - Dear Husband DS - Dear Son DSD - Dear Step-daughter DSS - Dear Step-son DW - Dear Wife FIL - Father-in-law FWB - Friend with Benefits GF - Girlfriend LH - Late Husband LW - Late Wife MIL - Mother-in-law SIL - Sister-in-law SOS - Survivor of Suicide Anything wrong or additional to add at this time before I post? It can obviously be edited to add or subtract, but I'd like to start it correctly.

We can put this perhaps in the Introduction part of the forum. Compile the abbreviations in this thread and we will make it happen.

A reservation at Lucille's is set for 7pm for 6 people. It is under "Widda". See everyone there!

Good luck, Amor!

I also authorized donation. They were able to harvest tissue which they said could be used to help up to 50 people and a heart valves. Unfortunately, they were not able to use his eyes. I unexpectedly struggled with them not being able to use those because I kept having the irrational thought that I let them take them for no reason. I have made peace with it. I have found the donor network to be nothing less than remarkably compassionate towards me, from the 30 minute phone call to go over details to updates and additional thanks.

Tomorrow, 7pm. Can't wait to see everyone!