BrokenHeart2

Don't forget, you are widow strong! You've got this girl!!

I too am feeling the same way. My thought is "I can't imagine staying but I also can't imagine moving". Uhg. And if I do move I'm not sure where I want to go. Widowhood is crazy or maybe I'm just crazy. Lol

Oh yeah, feeling really low. My less than 5 yr old lab died 4 months to the day I lost my DH. I can't bring myself to get another dog although I've tried and others have tried to get me to too. I'm just not ready, I can't bear the thought of loosing it too. I feel like I'm still walking through the valley so I can't bear to loose anything more.

Must agree MA. I'm too widowed for this is bang on. Great article TS! Thank you!

Great post Jess. Thank you! "Bring on the new traditions and memories". That's what I need to do too!

You said it 'but I am starting to think he needs some moderation a little'. That simple, turn the phone to silence and just live! Why is that so hard for people. I hate when I'm asked to be put on hold from friends or family in a phone conversation. Unless you think it's life threatening let it go to voicemail! Really, what ever happen to etiquette? UGH

Hey JJ "One day at a time". Now I really get what that means. I'm at 26 months and it's been a roller coaster. Hang on and keep going. You'll get there Lady! I couldn't have done it alone either and I too am so greatful for EVERYONE here too! Hugs to you.

I want to thank you all for your wise words and support. I haven't been on here much lately and feel like I'm being a taker and that's not who I am. You have all helped me so much and I so appreciate it all. I'm trying to find my way. Just when I think things are starting to look up I get sucked down hard and fast and I'm getting so tired of that. I do realize I'm starting to see some of me coming back and discovering the new me is intriguing as well. Sweet dreams dear people!

I know I haven't posted in a while, I don't feel like I have much to offer. I am so stuck, does anyone have tips on how to get unstuck? I just feel like I just don't care and I want to care about having a life. OMG I want to be unstuck!!

Ouch I'm hearing you. My stepson is the best man, my stepdaughter is a bridesmaid and he won't be with me but his ex will be there. UGH. I will go for my skids, but won't like it.......

Platitudes drive me nuts! Hugs to all of you!

Well stated Bailey.

Wow, that was sorta cold of them. They would sell for half the proceeds. Ugh I'm sorry you're having to deal with this especially with the timing of his birthday but as I have learned, some people just don't get it. DGI they have no idea what you've gone through and given up but still, the timing couldn't have been worse for you Hugs

^^^^^ totally agree. Especially on the internet. How is a person to know. Hope you're ok smabify.

Just don't go into debt for 'stuff'. That makes me crazy. It all marketing and that is big business now. Don't buy into this is all I'm saying. I guess I don't get buying stuff makes you feel better. Walk in the forest, go for a swim, take a class of interest, whatever, marketing is such bullshit and such a huge mind game that people fall into the marketing trap. Stop spending and find a way to just live your life

I just don't get that shopping thing so sorry I can't help. I will not buy into spending money to help me feel better on 'things'. I just doesn't work. There will always be things out there to buy. If you need it and truly want it, then go for it but be financially responsible at the same time. I have bought all of my cars on my own and I'm 54 yrs old. Not that big of a deal. Know what you want, make sure it's a good deal, then just do it if you can afford it.

I deactivated my Fakebook acct as I need to find a new way. I'm done with the fake shit. I need to rebuild a whole new life and that's what I'm going to do damn it ( I know, not a easy as it sounds) We will all find our way somehow. Wid strong!

Yes I drove by my "friends" house on July first (I have no choice in the village) to go some where and their driveway was full, I was not invited, I felt like I was kicked in the stomach. He even gave a eulogy at DH funeral. Uhg We all spent almost 20 yrs of an evening together on long weekends as couples, WTF?

Hey Mikeeh, no I don't think you're being creepy at all. Just honest. I too have found myself secretly hoping, so I get it. There are times I wished I didn't have my ring on. Then I think "What, really have I lost my mind" Such a crazy journey, for me anyway. Higs

Ditto to Trying and Annie's fine words. I met DH after his divorce and I remember going to one of his High school buddies parties, I was ostracized, not because I was younger or prettier but because he found a new happiness. The wives didn't like that. Some women/wives can be nasty/insecure. So pathetic. And now here I am again.....not dating but not feeling like going through that again either. Some of those bitches never were accepting of me although they never got to know me. My DH said to not give them a thought, their just being bitchy and insecure. He was so right.

Smabify, not sure why you deleted your original post. I personally think this is a good thread of many varied and different perspectives. Our journeys are so different and it's refreshing for me to hear (read) such caring opinions. I hop you're ok! Hugs

Oh Baylee I couldn't agree more. I have a dear friend who says it all the time. Last week while talking on the phone I asked her to just say his name because I know he's your husband, she replied ' I like saying that'. I told her I hate it because mines gone. She went quiet on the phone and yes we are still good friends.

Mikeeh, I am in the process of taking my ring off and on and repeat. I'm struggling with it too. When I'm home I take it off and when I go out it's back on except for pottery class. This grief shit makes me feel crazy some days. Hugs

I just can't tolerate the phoney shit is all. If it's said genuinely then ok. We all know when the BS flies or meant sincerely.

My DH said it is what it is before and more so after diagnosis as well. And yes it does suck. Thank you for getting me.