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I'm so sorry TK74. Sounded like life was just starting to turn around a bit for both of you. Hugs and prayers for both of you.

Just thinking of you SR and hope you are holding up ok. This is a difficult time for you and your son. I pray you find the strength to stay the course. Hugs

Your tribute to your husband was beautiful. Hugs to you Ginger.

Ouch, I just reread the part about picking up the phone. You may be about to upend your and your daughters world, tread carefully TS. This is major! LDR suck if you ask me. I've been in one way before I met DH. Take your time and tread lightly. It seems to me you are trying to work through this very carefully and that is wonderful. Trust your gut TS. Hugs

A while back my 57 yr old brother posted on FB he was devastated when a pro hockey player at 86 yrs old was not doing well. Really? He never met him and 86. OMG get a grip bro. More like idiot if you ask me. Oh another even more priceless, about 3 months out a supposed close friend text me her life is so stressful. New puppy, house renos and work is crazy. Really, you want to whine about that to me. Ugh DGI big time Yes, I too have lost some ability to feel sympathy, not totally but nowhere near where it used to be.

Good for you! Stay strong for you and your son. Stay a firehead . My sdaught is a firehead too . You can do this SR. You deserve a good life. Hugs

"Broken together" sounds more like a connection than an addiction, being widowed isn't like being addicted to a substance, more like our reality. Just thinking out loud.

'Jump off the jetty'. Love it!!! I think I found a new motto at just over 2 yrs out. I was looking and I think now I've found it. Thanks Lost35

Try it Icoxwell. It's liberating. Fuck it! Lol

Oh TS. I get your path of least resistance. I didn't used to be that way but I am now. I wished I had learned it sooner the way DH got it. That kinda makes me sad. I can't change that but I have changed. Fuck it is where I am. Just how important is it? Not really then... Fuck it. I don't say it but I do think it

Square peg round hole, oh yeah I get that. 20 yrs at Nortel taught me that. Had a great career and boom gone. 2004 life was altering for me. 10 more yrs I would have had full pension but that didn't happen either. There are no guarantees in this life. Then 9 yrs later the biggest life altering event ever. Just go for it means more to me now more than ever. So much easier said than done, I know, I get that too. Sometimes you just have to trust your gut, but at the same time you have to listen to ALL of what your gut tells you. Best of luck to you!

I thought you were a Canadian until I checked your profile. Coming to a place in the States near you. It's been happening here in Ontario Canada for a couple of yrs and so ridiculous. F off insurance companies and govt trying to reduce rural mail delivery. The way of the world but changes are weird when we don't have them to talk with no matter how small it may seem. Days before DH died he said out of the blue "change is the only constant in life". It took me aback because he knew I had a hard time with major change, I think he was trying in his own loving way to ease it for me. I have repeated that in my head so many times and he was right.

My motto for the past while... Fuck it. That's all

Helen, great to hear from you! Whine away don't back away. Your input is always appreciated. As for the move from the home you built together, I totally get it. I'm so struggling with that right now. Aren't you coming into empty nest too (I think I remember you posting that. Maybe I'm mistaken). Both are so huge to deal with on top of our grief. Are you happy with the job offer? Will you get satisfaction with this job? I know, so much to consider when making such a huge decision. Prayers and hugs to you.

Is he single and available? Trust your gut and tread slowly. You say "we're 2 yrs out' is he widowed too? I get what you're saying about in the early days being revolted. A man winked at me at a store, early out, I wanted to crawl out of my skin. It was so bizarre. Never felt that way in my life. What a crazy journey.

Thoughts and prayers are with you SR.

Very wise words given. That's why coming to this site is so wonderful and profound. JJ you are early on and I can remember feeling as you do. Be gentle with yourself and maybe try doing one day at a time. I don't look to forward some days because I have no idea what the tomorrow's will bring. At now 2 yrs out the days are not as intense as they used to be. It's doable. I had a 'friend' tell me I had to choose to be happy. I remember thinking yeah fuck you like I want to feel this pain. She had no idea. As the pain lessens the joyful moments will slowly seep in. Hang on dear Lady

Thanks for this new perspective GM. That was a good one!

Hugs TS. The dance is done and I too would not have it any other way. I cherish the memories. Intense and unpredictable describes it perfect.

So beautiful and true ATJ.

My heart goes out to you CMF and all of us others that endured a similar situation. Hugs

Sounds like it worked out with smiles and tears. That's ok. I love you said fam damily. We said that often too. Just had my 2nd sadiversary yesterday so I'm feeling it too. Not that it matters, we all get it Hugs

I'm sorry you are hurting so much AW. Tight hugs

Thank you for your kind supportive words and thoughts. You have no idea what it means to me (well maybe you do ). Today turned out better than I thought it would and for that I am grateful

Yay Mrs Dan. You rock and congrats. Life will be a bit easier for you. That is huge! You deserve it!!