donswife

I also took up smoking Don's cigars ...just love the smell I know bad habit but at this point don't care I will confess I see men that look like my don ,shaved heads,bright yellow shirts (he was a dpw worker ) and I am have been so tempted to stop and just ask for a donnie hug plus right now wearing his flannel shirt

I am watching a movie on netflix with my dog on my lap and a bud light by my side I did have dinner with my family , ten of us , which is a small gathering for our crowd but I did bail by 8 because I am an old fart now

good for you and welcome to scooby having a dog makes you go for a walk when you don't want to and greets you first thing I think it was a great idea for you and lucky for scooby who no doubt will have a wonderful life now

yes I feel the same , like I have aged ten fold hugs your way

oh that must have been heartbreaking, so sorry I have never seen that done at a wedding (married people dancing . longest ..) I went to the first wedding of my nephew a few months after don died and that was hard enough with out that we did pass around a shot of whiskey in his honor at our table as a quiet way of saying he was there

what a wonderful post and I also wish you peace on these especially rough days on sunday I will take a moment and take a deep breath in/out and think of you and your Dan take care

thanks for posting this this will be a hard day and I am glad you are letting us be a part of it hopefully at some point today, through the sadness, maybe you can remember some of the good times you had wedding anniversary's are tough as it was about just the two of you take care

so sorry about the bad day and that awful feeling about missing your wife when it hits like a tidal wave like that its hard to get back up again hugs to you

sorry to hear about your FIL but it must have been a comfort to hear that your andrew was there thanks for the story

I did lose some friends or lets just say I am now putting them in the acquaintances category our best friends were this couple my don knew from high school days we camped , vacationed etc but they have slowly faded away I think its more that they feel widowhood is contagious and seeing me reminds them that life could change in an instant can't blame them, we might have acted the same way but it's still hard I do have two really close friends who I can turn to plus family but even for them its hard to figure out what I need when I don't even know I do cherish coming here

My worst day will be 10/18 still can't take it all in and Like you I thought it would be better now and its the opposite thinking of you and can totally relate wish I could say something more profound to help

feeling this way also Fall is Don's birthday and also 10 days later when he died so this isn't going to be pretty I miss having the most important person in my life and being the most important person in theirs and I so miss the random , almost like a habit, of hearing and saying ,I love you

I also lost the love of my life,don , suddenly one minute we are having a conversation the next he's gone I am still in shock and when I sit down and really try to take in that he won't be coming back I have to stop myself because it's impossible to imagine so I can understand a little how you feel I do have support from family and friends but it can never compare to what we have here Its hard to say out loud sometimes how we feel , the dark thoughts and fears that we have but here you can

sounds like your tim had a wonderful sense of humor and it showed that day love when that kinda thing happens

what a lovely story and day for you and your son

sounds good for me we still thinking portsmouth or somewhere else

Ocrober 11 would work for me but don't redo things on my account

great post and question Just came upon this and would love to know what to do It will be a year for me in October so like you I will be in year two which is crazy to me and how did you all do on the actual day ? I don't want to really even acknowledge the day but I know some people will

I agree , just want my old life back this one is exhausting

oh shoot I have a wedding on the 25th but just let me know

We also never liked change or risk . Hell I still am at the bank where I opened my first account at the age of 15 I am approaching the 11 month mark since losing Don but I can relate to your post I have been in a manic phase , finishing up house renovations, cleaning up the garage full of left over construction debris then when things started to slow down I offered my home up to a engagement party Will be around 100 people coming to my house(tomorrow) so of course I have been landscaping till dusk I am not sure if its our way of keeping going because when we truly stop its so hard emotionally or if I think its harder to hit a moving target so in constant motion or if you and I know we have to do this things to continue living our new lives when you find the answer , please let me know

just wanted to say I am sorry you and your family are going though this right now wish I had more to say but know we are here

I am glad your Mom put them in their place about that classless act sounds like these are people you no longer need in your life but that doesn't help stop the sting from them from being less hurtful sorry this is how you started your day

I am so glad you reached out here Like others have said this was a life saver for me and that's not an exaggeration I am so sorry that you have to be a part of this community but know we are here whenever you need us

this is such a tough one but it sounds like you have gotten to a place where you may be able to start the process I will keep looking at this post for advise I so far have only been able to give things I knew would go to people that wanted or could use them I gave some of his fishing things to a charity he was close to and some of his clothes and of course ask family /friends if there was anything they wanted I threw out all of his work clothes because before he died he started to hate his job don has tools , tons of tools and tool boxes that I need to figure out what to do with so wishing you luck and do what works for you