Being told I was strong used to make me very angry, in those early months I had never felt more weak, broken and vulnerable and when someone would tell me I was strong I felt like they were invalidating my feelings.
Now I just roll my eyes. I realize that people who have never lost a spouse have no way of understanding and they need to feel like I am doing better than I am. That's about them, not me. Only through sharing with all of you did I come to realize that it was ok to have a day when I couldn't get out of bed or my kids ate cereal for dinner. It's ok to fall apart, get back up, move forward and repeat.