canadiangirl Posted December 20, 2015 Share Posted December 20, 2015 I am not sure if "Social Encounters" is the right place for this thread, but I have been reading with empathy the threads on recoupling and the thoughts expressed by those who have found or seek another, who do not feel like life will be complete without a partner. While I understand and honour these feelings, I don't have these thoughts, and was wondering if there is anyone else on the boards who feels the same way. Of course things may change, but I am not dating and have no desire to date. I am two years out. I am in no shape to recouple but I also have zero interest in doing so, and this may last my entire life. I am okay with this. I met my DH in my mid-30s after a long dating history. I have always done my own finances, been responsible for running the apartment or house alone, had evenings to myself, pursued a number of interests, etc. I became used to being alone, doing things alone or with friends (theatre, restaurants, cinema, travel all good). This is good, because the city I live in has a ratio of 7 to 1 eligible women to men. I am happy to answer only to my child and myself, and I don't wish to share decision-making about my child with anyone. My DH was a good man, the real man that I had been seeking, and I felt I won the lottery when I met him. Statistically I am skeptical it will happen again, especially as I am older now. Not long ago, I met the mother of my highschool sweetheart in the airport. She was widowed in her 40s, left with 4 children, the youngest of whom later died in a car accident (not my ex BF). I think of this mom often. When I saw her and introduced her to my child and told her about my widowed status, she said, "I never met anyone else. But I have been happy." Happy -that's saying a lot, especially with her double loss. I felt like I was seeing the future. Anyone else doing okay alone and not seeking another? To be clear, I am not looking for analysis of my life as I have put it here, just reaching out to those who may have similar feelings post-loss. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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