BrokenHeart2 Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 I have 5 siblings and they are all being really weird. They think I should be taking care of,fMom because I'm not working and I have always done it. Well since I lost DH 23 months ago and I did Friday, I told them I am done. Did it for 8 yrs with Mom don't have the strength to take Mom through the halls I did with DH 2 yrs ago. Figure it out. Oh, lashback, they don't like to hear that. Too fucking bad. Take care of it for a change. I do have 2 brothers that have stepped up. Thank God for them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 (((((Hugs)))))) I wish I had something better to say, but I've typed and deleted four times. Stupid useless words. More ((((hugs)))) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 My mother passed away three months before my husband. I have more regrets with the months leading up to her death than his because I wasn't with her as much toward the end of her life. My husband's chemo treatments were at a cancer center almost four hours away. I stayed with him. I was so torn. I wanted to be with her too. I was with my mom three hours before she passed. I understand that your mother's care isn't solely your responsibility but you might not want to step away completely. Only you know what is best for you. I'm so sorry. ((Hugs)) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrokenHeart2 Posted May 4, 2015 Author Share Posted May 4, 2015 JJ your words are always welcome. The only dummy ones are the ones unspoken : Thanks Virgo you are so right and I don't plan to step away completely. After my DH died she was one of the very few that got me and has had my back for the past 2 yrs. I think that's why this is doubly hard. I'm now not only losing my Mom but also my best friend and my rock in this horrid journey. She guided me all of my life. How can I do this? How can this be happening? I just can't do the emergency stuff It's to raw and hard for me right now. I will always do best by my Mom though. Even if my dickhead siblings do whatever. I'm used to that. How can this be happening? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ATJ Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 (((BrokenHeart2))) So very sorry to hear this! I am thinking of you and wish you strength to get through this very painful time! ATJ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trying Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 I'm so sorry to hear about your mom, I hope your siblings step up and do their share. Wishing you strength and peace. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
canadiangirl Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 (((BrokenHeart2))) I am so sorry to hear this news. This is one of my greatest fears. You will be in my thoughts! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carey Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 One would hope your siblings would be able to see that given what you've been through, being the automatic go to person in this situation would be devastating to you. I am so sorry that you're losing your mother. There aren't adequate words. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Virgo Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 I felt the same way. How could this be happening? I lost two of the most important people in my life within 3 months. My mom was diagnosed with ALS about 4 years before my husband was diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia. I spent a lot of time caring for my mom before my husband's diagnosis, and like you my brother was never there. Hopefully ALL of your siblings will do right by your mom. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eddienhp Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 Hugs to you. Sometimes siblings need to be told exactly what to do. My mom has had a double stroke and respiratory failure in the past year requiring two hospitalizations and months of therapy. My sister is the first one to help since they live very close and my sister doesn't have kids. I am next but I have two kids 8 & under. My two brothers are clueless. Me and my sister made a plan for Mom's care then told the brothers what they had to do. We even wrote up a list. It's like taking care of children but me and my sister had to do it so we wouldn't burn out. Just a thought. Hope the siblings step up to the plate and help you. Best Wishes, Eileen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoVerySad Posted May 4, 2015 Share Posted May 4, 2015 I'm so sorry, BH2. I know your mom's support has been so precious to you. Tight, tight hugs... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
linda5 Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 Oh BH2, I'm so sorry to hear about your Mom. I'll be praying for your Mom, you, and that your siblings help out more. You've done a lot of your Mom. Sending you peace and love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrokenHeart2 Posted May 12, 2015 Author Share Posted May 12, 2015 I thank you all for your amazing support. I just love my Widds! Not a lot of change as of lately. My Mom is one strong Woman. She wants to go 'home' I'm so sad but I get it. She has been bedridden for yrs and one of the strongest ladies I've ever known. Another bittersweet in this insane world. Some days I hope I'm not as strong as she is. How insane or crazy does that sound? Ugh? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CBB Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 Brokenheart2, That doesn't sound crazy at all. Not at all. I can only imagine how difficult it is to hear her say she wants to come home and knowing that isn't possible. You are a strong lady. Your posts always speak to me. Your doing the best you can in such a crappy situation and your mother knows how much you love her. Sending you a ton of virtual hugs. Cyndi Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Needytoo Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 Sending you strength. . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisa Posted May 12, 2015 Share Posted May 12, 2015 I'm so very sorry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
batmanswidow Posted May 13, 2015 Share Posted May 13, 2015 Big huge hugs. Sorry you are having to deal with your siblings on top of your mom's health. I hope you get some quality time with her and that your other siblings step up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lcoxwell Posted May 14, 2015 Share Posted May 14, 2015 I do not know how I missed this earlier. I honestly have no words, right now, but wanted you to know I am thinking of you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eddienhp Posted June 11, 2015 Share Posted June 11, 2015 @BrokenHearted2, been thinking of you. Hope you are holding up ok. Hugs, Eileen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ursula Posted July 1, 2015 Share Posted July 1, 2015 brokenheart ,I am so so sorry. Totally understand that you are not ready for any of this. How could you. Nothing I want to say sounds right, so I just say that I am thinking of you. Hang in there . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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