Virgo Posted May 20, 2015 Share Posted May 20, 2015 Do you play this horrible mind game? Did I have this shirt before or after? (translation: did he see me in this shirt?) Did this song come out before or after? (translation: he would have liked this song.) ....and on and on and on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrokenHeart2 Posted May 20, 2015 Share Posted May 20, 2015 Yup. So right, and on and on it goes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swilson Posted May 20, 2015 Share Posted May 20, 2015 Yes Virgo when looking through the pantry or freezer. I often think, I didn't buy this so it's at least 8 months old. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jennybug Posted May 20, 2015 Share Posted May 20, 2015 Yes, yes, yes...all the time. When I realize I have clothes from before, I'm not sure if I should get rid of them or be happy that they still fit! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen Posted May 20, 2015 Share Posted May 20, 2015 Oh, yes. All the time. He touched this. He never saw that. He would have liked this shirt. He would've wanted to see that movie, or that tv show, or that MMORPG update... Sigh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mizpah Posted May 20, 2015 Share Posted May 20, 2015 Of course. It's like the personal version of the line between BCE and CE - before death and after death. Before he died, the dividing line was before him and once we met. (Now, in a way, it's before the birth of my daughter and after, but it's still kinda before he died and after.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CHM1988 Posted May 26, 2015 Share Posted May 26, 2015 Yes, absolutely. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CJF Posted May 26, 2015 Share Posted May 26, 2015 I do this all the time. Even with things going on in the world - I have to stop and think to myself "did he know about that?" I do that with changes I've made to the house also - was that pre-death or after-death? I guess we all do that from time to time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisa Posted June 3, 2015 Share Posted June 3, 2015 Always Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IfIonlycould Posted June 4, 2015 Share Posted June 4, 2015 Absolutely...although the further out I get (coming up on 7 years) the more likely that the answer that comes back is "after"...sigh.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JeanGenie Posted June 8, 2015 Share Posted June 8, 2015 Yup....sadly all the time... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sugarbell Posted June 9, 2015 Share Posted June 9, 2015 Technology is the one that still gets me. The changes in phones, social media, computers...all of it. So much has changed since 2007. Honestly...it's kinda scary how quickly technology is changing in rapid speed. My Mom predicted technology would be the destruction of mankind back in 2003 after she retired from teachers computer science for 30 years. But yeah...I do it a lot with anything media related still Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maddalena Posted June 10, 2015 Share Posted June 10, 2015 yes, i do that too. sometimes, I ask him. Do you like this? would you like this? because you never saw it.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
linda5 Posted June 10, 2015 Share Posted June 10, 2015 Play it every day. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Baylee627 Posted June 10, 2015 Share Posted June 10, 2015 Yes--without fail, while watching a movie on TV, I'll check the release date of the movie to check whether Brooks would have been alive or dead at that time. And either way, I will feel a pang in my heart. If it was before, I try and recall what he or we might have been doing at the time the movie came out. If it was after, I know he never got a chance to see it. Which, even Brooks, himself, would chuckle that he's damn glad to have missed out on yet another Lifetime movie. But, yeah, I know this phenomenon. Interesting thread topic. Baylee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest nonesuch Posted June 14, 2015 Share Posted June 14, 2015 Cleaning out the shop: finding old receipts and looking at the dates. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joey Posted June 23, 2015 Share Posted June 23, 2015 Do you play this horrible mind game? Yes... I do it too. Oddly, I do it with music. I find myself listening to music that I used to like before DW. The stuff we listened to together, or the songs she liked... well i'm not quite there yet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CBB Posted June 27, 2015 Share Posted June 27, 2015 ALL the time..with just about everything I do. It is funny how I never did this before he died. Strange indeed! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ursula Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 Hey Virgo, I do it too. And the not being able to throw away anything that I encounter from before he died. like train tickets...or shop receipts....I stuff it somewhere just being unable to throw it away. Clutching at straws...imaginary straws...aargh. and yes, that too, things I look at, like, buy, eat, listen to...I mentally involve him in it...I have always involved him, why should I stop doing that? I still look at things in the men's section of shops thinking what would suit him, and then I get the pang when I realise, no, not that, never again. Gosh if all these thoughts just would go somewhere where they are received. Or are we all sending into open space ????? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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