Needytoo

The last diet place I was going to wanted me to weigh in three times a week. I hated that, because my weight does fluctuate during the day (I think everyone's weight fluctuates). I tried not to put too much on the weight thing but lets face it, it does feel good to see it go down. Weigh in was yesterday down 3 lbs. Don't think I will match Arneal's 20 lbs weight loss in 6 weeks but I will do my best to try.

Big hugs to you Arenal. I don't think I have ever posted on this thread before but I think it is time I did. Before my husband I had a very good sex life. Unfortunately sex in my marriage wasn't that great ( there I said it). My husband has been gone for three years and it has to be at least 5 years since I had sex. I am craving it so badly. I don't generally remember my dreams but lately they are pretty fantastic. Wish I could turn it into reality.

Good for you. I am giving counselling a try again as well. Mine all started with on-line therapy to a therapist who I found out wasn't registered so I couldn't claim it on my benefits and she did something our last visit that just didn't sit fine with me. Next week I have an appointment with a new one, keeping my fingers crossed we connect.

Big hugs to you. Trying to understand ourselves is really hard, I am glad you made an appointment with a therapist. Hoping it helps.

Last night my emotional release continued. This morning I guess I a little lighter. I have no idea why this keeps happening to me but maybe there is a reason why it keeps happening. I know I can't control my friends the only person I can control is myself and that is were I get a little foggy. Going to jog that around my head all day.

It is all ok now

I didn't ghost. Feel really bad for this guy he is very lonely but there is no way it is going to work he lives way too far. Still getting messages from the other guy at least he hasn't ghosted, yet. A got a two other messages from guys. Weird how it comes in packs and then settles down. What is Tinder? I think my kids are on that one.

Thank you Arneal and SunshineFL it means a lot that you guys care. Now on to the update one guy messaged me but I didn't notice he lived a distance away, he is willing to relocate. I have no idea what even his name is. Thinking I just might ghost on that one. Another guy has asked me what I do for a living before asking what my name is. Weird stuff.

Very true Virgo. I switched from one diet place to Weight watchers. Weigh in day was yesterday and only lost 0.5 lbs. Now that is discouragement. Wow ManutesGirl an ironman that is fantastic, my goal is just to able to finish my mud race.

Hi Sunshine FL, I did texted that one guy. It went back and forth and stopped at my last text. I can see when he goes online but I haven't received any messages back. Guess that one stopped before it started. Not sure what I did wrong? Thanks for asking how I am doing, I can't remember how long someone actually asked that question to me. My weekend kind of sucked to be honest. On Sunday I thought I had enough and sent out some more messages to guys and chatting with a few right now. I really want to be done with all this solo stuff. How are you?

First time I have posted on this thread: To my friend that said I was moody after a 3 hour work out, do I ever put you down during one of your “bipolar” moments no I do not so you can fuck off. To my sister, thank you for texting me and asking why I am not at my Father’s. The answer is the same every year dear sister. We were not invited so fuck off bringing it up. Why don’t you and my dear brother bring up with your hosts? To my BIL, thank you for your 6 month phone call to check up on us, have to admit at least you are better than my family. Thank you for telling me I should move on but it really isn’t your business so fuck off. To contractors all of you can fuck off

I use to block out the day my Mom passed away, totally would forget it and then the next day feel horrible that I did that. Best wishes to you hope today is better.

Weigh in was on Monday and I am down 8 lbs, yippee. Thought I would step it up a little this week. Wednesday and Thursday did 3 hours of exercise classes. OMG I am in so much pain, completely drained and very moody. Taking a break today. Hope everyone is doing well.

I am glad that I made you laugh Arneal, and I have to add some more information just for your enjoyment. The lady that I met she is a Sexologist and I got to here all the details. You are so correct imissdow this online dating is so hard, I try not to let it get to me but it is hard not to.

Loved your story Kilm. Ghosting? What is up with that. I did text one guy and we chatted back and forth and I thought we were going to make plans to meet, and then poof no response I see he is online all the time too, am I suppose to keep messaging him? I don't get it. One legged guy messaged me and I told him I think we are done. Two coffee dates and he didn't show up for both. Another guy has messaged me twice asking me over to his place. Not once has he even asked my name. I am no expert but sounds like he wants a booty call or maybe he just doesn't know what the heck he is doing online. We are having a local reunion party weekend in our area and I told him maybe I will see him there. Hint hint there buddy I am giving you an opening. His response was "have a great time". Seriously, what the heck. Lastly this one is for the books. I belong to this women over 40 dating support site. There are women from all over the world on it and wouldn't you know it there was a women from my area. Online she seemed great so I suggested maybe we can try speed dating or going to single dances together. We got together last weekend. Three hours she talked. To keep it short the woman is a little off. Now because of my big mouth she is going to a concert this weekend with me. Seriously, I am an idiot. Arneal your message put a smile on my face, thanks sweetie. lol

I am not sure when those triggers will stop hikermom. I will admit I am finding less of them but they are still there. A few weeks ago my sister posted on of those memory posts on facebook. It was a picture of her on my couch with my golden retriever flopped over her lap. She got so many "likes" for that picture and all I could think was that was the day we buried my husband remains. I wonder if she even thought about that when she posted the picture.

Right now haven't hit the "gym" part still sticking to exercise classes, jogging and other assorted things. Yesterday did pilates and zumba and today I am doing boot camp and pole dancing. Loving the pole dancing it is really helping with that "fear" factor and it is just so much fun. I am sore but I am feeling good. I am not starving and I am sleeping so well at night. My head hits the pillow and I am out.

Been chatting with one guy who gave me his cell number and wanted me to text which was my intention on doing. I really have stepped up my work outs doing classes at lunches and in the evening and by the time I get my chores done it is after 9 at night and I just don't feel like sitting there texting someone so I haven't. Going to try texting today and see how it is goes.

Good for you Jen. I am back into therapy and at first I so against going back and dealing with the past, I thought the point was to "stay in the present". I found once you are able to open up and talk about those issues it was amazing truly amazing how much lighter you feel afterwards. Good luck to you.

A few years back I was doing so well with losing weight and fitness and I just let things kind of go in that area. Then because of taking on too much on at work and too much sitting I put on the pounds. For the last few months I have been slowly getting back on track. I am entered in a mud race at the end of August so I thought it was time to step it up. I am back exercising twice a day, my muscles are sore but one thing I noticed this time around is I am much better at exercising. I don't have that limiting belief that I can't do it because I know I have done it in the past. I have done more work on myself and really feel that I have dealt with my mental weight issues and now ready to find out and meet my better physical being. Wow, a little too deep for a Wednesday.

Wow, I have changed I know I am going to miss a few things. 1. I let go of anger and have accepted my life. 2. I understand alcoholism and accept and love my husband. 3. I am so much better at loving unconditionally. 4. I am calm and happy. 5. I have learned what self love and taking care of myself means and I do it everyday. 6. I have grown out my hair and now a red head. I have totally changed my style of clothing. People don't recognize me. 7. I work out and really starting to like it. I even do Pole Dancing 8. I love trying new things and now can say after 49 years of life I have hobbies. 9. I got a full time job and doing well. 10. I got a tattoo 11. I actually want sex.

Deepest sympathy.

Update from the North. I have no issue starting the conversation with a guy and a few of them have resulted in coffee dates. Still getting messages from one legged man, he has stood me up twice thinking of blocking him. Still more of the guys asking what I do for a living before even asking my name but the mystery is solved thanks to my dental hygienist who has the scoop on everything. According to her the guys in our area are sick and tired of the welfare Moms. Guess that makes sense. Another guy messaged me last week to hang out in his second sentence. Honestly not sure how to take this but maybe I shouldn't be so critical. That is the point isn't, to meet the person face to face. Another interesting development, I belong to an online facebook for single ladies over 40. There are members from all over the world, wouldn't you know one of the members lives in the same town as me. We both are going to go to the Speed Dating together, and the 45-55 group is the largest. Go figure. The next Speed Dating even is July 23 and I can't wait.

My parents had very good jobs but I worked and paid my way through college. When I moved home and got a job I had to pay rent to my parents, $100/week and that was back in the 1980s. My son's didn't have to pay tuition but I made him pay for his books. He lived at home throughout college and I paid his cell bill, car insurance and he paid for the gas. He just graduated and got his first job so I am asking he pay exactly the same rent I did, pay for his insurance and cell bill. He thinks I am horrible. I have two sons and my grocery bill for one week is $300, I kid you not. Should we charge rent to our adult children?

You are in my thoughts, my deepest sympathy.