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LOL Quixote.... You did post it there

Good to hear your back on track Bear!!

Yes WW I have to agree with this "But oh, to have someone who I enjoy, respect and love. To find a relationship that brings out the very best in me and allows me to be vulnerable and strong...Sigh"! I had that and would like that to but just not ready yet I guess. All in good time. Hugs

Congratulations Maureen! Hugs

Yup, I completely get it. I remember feeling exactly the same. Vent away Ruth, get it out. It hurts like hell and I remember very early out and held onto this because it helped during those dark times. "If you're going through hell just keep going". Hugs.

Hi Ruth I certainly get what you are saying. For myself, I have learned its usually the anticipation of the date that was worse than the actual date. At least for me I discovered this on the 3rd sadiversary. We are all different in our grief. Gentle hugs to you on this difficult time of the year.

"Clean slate", gotta love those signs. Thanks for sharing your blessings and experience M. Always insightful!! Hugs to you.

TWW your blog post was terrific! Thanks for sharing. You made me laugh out loud with “the penis embargo.” Haha interesting way to put it!! I haven't ventured into any dating at almost 5 years. Another statement you made regarding your check off list struck me as so true is "In fact there really was only one item: don’t hurt me." I guess my heart is just too tender for it yet. Hugs

Well said LF. Yes riding out the emotions instead of trying to bury them is a good thing to do! My first trip really weirded me out. Especially coming home to an empty house. Have a good time! Hugs

Good morphing LF. You never know what this trip may bring. Good on you for pushing through and doing it. Safe travels and I hope you have a great time! Hugs

Wow, terrific letter! Thanks for posting this. Hugs

Thank you LF! So well said! Hugs

Yes, so much. I do still miss him and again I miss US!! I miss the connection we had, knowing each other and being there for each other on so many levels to describe and I bet you all get it! Hugs

PoaP I'm agreeing with Portside on this one. Stay gently firm with your BIL and please don't involve your niece. I too think it could possibly damage your relationship with her. Your BIL will eventually find his way and hopefully this will all blow over. Hugs to you.

Hey LF, the only advise I could give you is to read your Jan 28 post! Good luck to you!

Hugs to you Virgo

So very well stated Trying!! In the end tough love is great when needed. Hugs!

So well said LF. Thank you! Another thing I've learned since DH's death is this statement "if you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans." Your posts always give me food for thought and I thank you for that as well! Hugs.

OT: Dr. Jordan Peterson is an amazing speaker. I went to a talk given by him a few months ago and he sure was captivating!

Phone call. Chicken or steak?

Hugs to you jgib

You will do this TS2 . Remember, widda strong!! We've survived the worst. Awkward seeing former coworkers...yeah and you'll get through that too! Uncanny how it fell on this day of all! Hmmm maybe a sign of moving forward? Just sayin And another big difference is that Andy is there by your side, don't forget to lean on him when you need to! Hugs to you!

Yes James, at almost 5 yrs I remember feeling just as you described. Hugs to you.

Good luck NT, I echo what you advice you have been given by both guys! Sometimes tough love can be the best love when it's needed for you and for him. Hugs

Wow, that was a terrific talk. Thank you LF!