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You are kidding! Talk about "oversights"! Yeah, that would have me bursting into tears. And needing a drink. Baylee

Amen, amen, amen, sister girl! Adamantly clapping my hands right now. My counselor tells me: most people think of anger as a *bad* thing, but it can be useful, and be a position of strength when you need it. If you're fuming--well, that's you're right to reserve, no matter his "contrition", (which I suspect is another attempt to manipulate you). The hard part isn't over, but you have begun, and that's often the hardest step to take! Baylee

Honey, you have my prayer. Right now. I'm so in awe of your resolve. This is a freaking hard move you're making. Baylee

SR, Concerned for your well-being--on all fronts. Your self-confidence has been slow-bled from you, so it's no wonder you find yourself in the middle of the proverbial intersection, momentarily paralyzed. When you are able, do begin that thread. Begin to win back your betrayed (hell, eviscerated) sense of trust--even if it's only in your own instincts, at first. Begin to hope for a better, deserved life. Begin to formulate a plan for the debacle you're in currently. Above all--first--please begin. Your worth is too valuable for this. Baylee

So sorry, darling girl. It's dreadful, the aching missing of them. Sometimes, there are no other words I can muster--just--"I miss him." Hugs and hand pats, missy. Baylee

Saturday evening spent in my comfies with my momma. Yup, my Saturday night date is my momma. We ordered Mexican takeout and watched The Big Bang Theory reruns. At this point, I should get a dozen cats and invest in some elastic waistbanded pants. And call it good. Baylee

It's a sign you are seeking and needing support, but nothing more. And that's what you should be doing, that's a healthy thing. Baylee

Ok, slow down just a minute. Take three deep breaths. (Hard to do when you are feeling frenzied, I know). You've weathered many a tragedy. There's no getting around that. No way, no how. These deaths and the fact that you are feeling defeated --"too many things I can't fix"--are not pre-indicators of your impending demise. Considering what you've endured, I think you are bracing for the next tragic event because life has you shell-shocked, and waiting for the other shoe to drop. The other shoe dropping is not an inevitability. You could wait for decades....And nothing. Do you suffer from panic disorder? Have you ever experienced a panic attack? I do, and some of your post reminds me of the feelings that encircle me when I'm in the frightful throes of one. I feel like I must be dying, or like I will die imminently, like in the next week. Often, my precious Grana would whisper to me, patting my hand: try and calm yourself, Sugar. You're struggling, but it's going to be alright, you'll see. Please PM me or email if you would like. Keep posting. And consider locating a good therapist--I believe therapy is one of the best investments one can make on their own behalf. Hang in there, missy. Baylee

I can imagine him hosing down Rubber Robin in antiseptic before gettin' busy with it, er, her. That might be a bit time-consuming. But that would alleviate him of any potential weight concerns with her as a partner. She gets too chunky, he just lets a lil air outta her, no big whoop. Baylee

^^^OMG! That's hee-larious! "Life could be fine if we both 69". Sweet lawd. Baylee

Sounds refreshing. I mean, Jose Cuervo, he is a friend of mine;) Thanks for sharing! Baylee

"Flying flapjack"? What's a "vergina"? No hair in your "ass crack"? Hands off, girls, he's all mine. Admittedly, I think he had me at "c*m facials" a deux. Shud-der! Baylee

Kamcho, you are such a warrior. Just thinking of all the shitty cards you've been dealt, and I can't get that visual of you as a fierce She-ra warrior widda! (Yes, I'm wierd. Why do you ask;) I have no advice or anything remotely helpful to say, but I wanted you to know that I hear you, and I think what you've endured thus far is unjust and just effing sucks. My hope is that things will vastly improve for you--soon. Even warrior widdas need a respite, dammit! Baylee

Just said a prayer that your friend will not be subjected to the crushing blow we've all been dealt by losing our spouses/significant others. I implored God to please repair her husband's heart aneurysm here on earth. I'm so sorry for Jackie, and I am also warmed by your deep concern on her behalf. Please keep us updated, AW. Baylee

Take it extra easy, lil missy. I'm glad to hear you are able to mend in the comfort of your own home. Keep us updated on your progress! Baylee

I'm so sorry, AW. My upcoming 3rd wedding anniversary looms at the end of June. We celebrated only one wedding anniversary together. As I read your posts, each one paints the portrait of how lovestruck your marriage was and is. Wedding anniversaries are just tragic spent without the one who gave that day meaning. Hugs and hand pats, lil lady. Baylee

In the remembering of them fondly enjoying events or special days, we honor them. Thank you for sharing this sweet memory of your Rodney. Baylee

Well, what a tangled web we've weaved!! Lol. Just kidding. ;D Firstly: was it a mistake? Is he single? Is he a good man who you've respected and cared for? Is there reciprocity of those things? The chemistry is there. Obvi. Ahem. Romance with the sibling of our departed loved ones is unlikely--sometimes inadvisable--BUT, it's not unheard of. Some even have a happy ending. Keep us posted, missy! Baylee

Heard that;) Baylee

Happy you're okay, missy! Keep us posted, as we are all thinking about you. Baylee

In the driver's seat (since DH passed). Cheerios: Regular --or-- Honey Nut?

Mel, I think if you were totally at ease with your boyfriend's words and actions, you would not have felt compelled to ask for advice, with the inclusion of the details that---I feel--are giving you the most disconcert at the moment. Something seems amiss with him. Just what that is, isn't clear to me. But he's got you a bit unsettled, and most of the posters here seem to be perplexed by his intentions, also. It's wise to listen when a group of people advise you that something isn't right. Trust me, I'm Lil Miss Learned It The Hard Way. (My bastard ex-husband before I married Brooks). But I'd keep my eyes wide open and my ears perked. Baylee *edited to clarify

Can fully identify with this. Every morning is just a regurgitation of the morning before it. I've no real impetus to accomplish much. Just steeped in apathy. This is such a departure from the old me; I was formerly a high achiever and pursuer of excellence at work. And now? Meh. Baylee

Oh my goodness, lcoxwell! Absolutely I will say an earnest, fervant prayer for you! I hope the physicians will pinpoint t he problem, anything serious will be ruled out, and you'll be in the mend and discharged imminently. I'm so sorry this happened. I think a great deal of you, as I know we all do here. Please keep us updated, as you are able! Baylee

Simply marvelous, WW! Way to go! Baylee