Leadfeather Posted October 7, 2017 Share Posted October 7, 2017 Thanks L2F, I have a mountain biking get together tomorrow and just set up a lunch M&G for Monday. So, yay? As for my Mother she is content to live on her own at 73 and has no desire to recouple. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted October 7, 2017 Share Posted October 7, 2017 LeadFeather -- no harm in showing her. My mom is a bit older than yours and my dad died almost 23 years ago. Interesting how life changes: when I was a kid we had a neighbor and a woman my mom worked with lived with him. The two never married on paper but were together for ages. The woman died and several years later, my dad died. My mom moved out of the house I grew up in and time went on. The neighbor moved to a town maybe 20 minutes from my mom and they became friends, talking about my dad and my mom's co-worker. Next thing you know, they are a 'thing'. She has her home, he has his. They spend time together and are each other's contact for medical emergencies. It just works. You never know And all the best on the biking and the M&G! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Momtojandj Posted October 7, 2017 Share Posted October 7, 2017 Does anything change ? 4 nice dates .. 2a few months ago, guy admitted to not being ready .called me and so then 2this week and get .. basically he just wants to “hang “ .. no thanks .. 😢 this sucks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted October 7, 2017 Share Posted October 7, 2017 Momto -- so, dude is looking for a 'buddy'? 'friends with benefits'? Ugh. Sorry {{{hugs}}} Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Momtojandj Posted October 7, 2017 Share Posted October 7, 2017 Arneal... I took it that way. Told him I’m looking to date one person , not a sex buddy . I’m about to offer a reward for finding a nice guy lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted October 7, 2017 Share Posted October 7, 2017 Oh,my! A reward might bring out more madness than you'll want! : LOL! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trying2breathe Posted October 8, 2017 Share Posted October 8, 2017 arneal's post about re-coupling later in life reminds me of the book Our Souls at Night - has anybody read this? It's now a movie on Netflix and stars Robert Redford and Jane Fonda. momtojandj The guy sounds like a flake, good that you found out sooner rather than later. There are good guys out there, really! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leadfeather Posted October 8, 2017 Share Posted October 8, 2017 Oh,my! A reward might bring out more madness than you'll want! : LOL! I was going to say something like "embrace the madness" but that is probably what they want. . . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momof2obs Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 Went on a first date with a guy last week. During our lunch he asked me about the size of my late husband's penis Can't make this stuff up!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 Momof2obs -- Wow. Just ... wow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
faye Posted October 9, 2017 Share Posted October 9, 2017 I had one who went into a day by day narrative of the last month he and his wife were together, including the details of when they were intimate, on our first and only meeting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 Eek, faye -- there's honesty and then there's honesty Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captains wife Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 Ugh- one of my "best" first dates last year- guy (who seemed great in his profile) shows up to our date late and stoned. Then I hear a blow by blow play of the break up with his ex-wife who ran off with his friend when he lost all his money in the real estate market and his friend was richer than him. Then he showed me pics of his ex who was dressed in very revealing lingerie and doing "sexy" poses on a bed - and these are pics he kept in his phone. Then I got to hear about how he was going to make even more money than his friend and show her. Then he said he thought we were so comparable and should def go on a 2nd date (to which I politely declined). I can't make this stuff up. Hope it gave a few people a few chuckles... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arneal Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 Oh Captains Wife Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Julester3 Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 I know we can't make even half of the stuff up that really happens! It's like reading one of those stories on FB and you tell yourself, wow...then it happens and it's surreal! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jgib Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 Went on a first date with a guy last week. During our lunch he asked me about the size of my late husband's penis Can't make this stuff up!!! I hope you said it was huge and you are tight and wouldn't want it any other way......what a jerk! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jgib Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 All these stories are exactly why I am OVER it! Glad it has worked for some. I definitely need a break. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momof2obs Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 I hope you said it was huge and you are tight and wouldn't want it any other way......what a jerk! I made sure that he knew that it was VERY satisfying! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leadfeather Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 Mountain biking Saturday turned into a second Mountain biking afternoon on Sunday. Nothing there but friendship she does not like biking alone I enjoy biking with a companion. Monday’s lunch date had to cancel 10 minutes after I arrived. Her boss called her as she was driving with an angry client emergency. Was a little bummed but we rescheduled later that night and have a m&g tomorrow. it Is strange to still be so deeply in love with my LW and dating other women. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abitlost Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 Mountain biking Saturday turned into a second Mountain biking afternoon on Sunday. Nothing there but friendship she does not like biking alone I enjoy biking with a companion. Monday’s lunch date had to cancel 10 minutes after I arrived. Her boss called her as she was driving with an angry client emergency. Was a little bummed but we rescheduled later that night and have a m&g tomorrow. it Is strange to still be so deeply in love with my LW and dating other women. Cycling partners are good. Strange? No. I'm almost 9 years out and will always be deeply in love with my DH. New guy not only accepts that, but respects it as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Leadfeather Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 The strange part isn’t being in love with her. I always will be. The strange part is looking for another great love who is not her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
serpico Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 it Is strange to still be so deeply in love with my LW and dating other women. I wouldn't say it is stramge, but I can see it being confusing for the women you are dating if they have designs on something long term. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Abitlost Posted October 10, 2017 Share Posted October 10, 2017 The strange part isn’t being in love with her. I always will be. The strange part is looking for another great love who is not her. Understood. It is surreal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jgib Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 The strange part isn’t being in love with her. I always will be. The strange part is looking for another great love who is not her. This is what I struggle with as well. I still feel married so dating is odd. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trying2breathe Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 It is so strange, almost feels like cheating on my LH. I'm at 8 months with NG and it's better, although there are still surreal moments where I can't believe that this is my life now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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