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I'm so sorry for your loss.

My daughters and I have said the same thing. It is strange. ((hugs))

If the inquest is over, and her death was ruled a suicide, can you deny the meeting with the police? I'm sorry it's bringing up those memories again. Your co-worker sounds like a doll. What an ass! I'm sorry you have to go through the filing process, but good for you! Hopefully there are some consequences for his actions.

8/10, 8/11, 8/12, and 8/13 squat challenge done! I haven't lifted weights yet this week though.

I'm trying to find my motivation today. I have several errands to run, but I just want to stay home in my pj's. Yesterday I put together another desk and helped my 8yo daughter organize her room.

Thanks for sharing. It was hard deciding when to send my daughters back to school. I felt sticking to their routine would be helpful, and it was. My youngest daughter was in first grade when my husband died. I just recently found all of the little notes her classmates wrote to her while she was home. Heartbreaking, but sweet. One that stuck out was, "I'm sorry your dad died. Your mom can find you a new daddy." Kids speak their minds. Her teacher was amazing and very supportive! My daughter loves to read, so she made my daughter a little 'safe place' under her desk if she ever felt the need to be alone. Thankfully she didn't use that space to often. She wanted to participate in class. My two older daughters were in 6th and 9th. They wanted to go to school and pretend like nothing had changed. They didn't want people to know about their dad because they didn't want to be treated differently.

Maybe you can ask your question without adding to many personal details. I know sometimes it's nice to get a different perspective.

I had the opposite problem with mine this year. I couldn't get it to open up. Whoever closed it last tightened it to much, or it corroded. I ended up replacing the tank. The tank is what freaks me out the most when using my grill. lol

That works too! Grilling is fairly quick. I think I finally mastered the grill.

I think that's when you know you need to find easy meals to cook at home. I dislike McD's though, so don't mind me. I have three daughters to cook for, but when I'm solo I normally grab a cod or tilapia fillet out of the freezer. I just cook it in the mircrowave with some vegetables. Quick and easy! The fillets are individually packaged which makes it even more convenient.

Social media- missing out on life while posting about it. I would definitely have another conversation with your friends so that you feel comfortable leaving your kids with them. Ask them to 'unplug' while you have the conversation. Good luck, and I hope you're able to enjoy your vacation!

I say let the tears flow. If that's what you're both feeling that day, let it out. No one is going to think anything about it. Even under normal circumstances weddings are emotional days. ((hugs)) I also have three daughters, but hopefully I have awhile before they get married. They're 16, 13, and 8. Hard to imagine their dad not being there to walk them down the aisle. It makes me tear up just thinking about it.

"You will become someone it would have been impossible for you to be, and in this way your loved one lives on, in you." This is a great quote from an article someone posted in another thread. We are forever changed. Maybe we won't be as happy as we were before, but I believe we will be happy again.

I have these ups and downs too, but have noticed they are getting further apart. It really helps me to set daily goals. When I'm able to mark something off of my list I feel like I've accomplished at least something. It helps me stay 'up.' I also try to put myself first once in awhile. That's hard to do as an only parent. We all need a recharge once in awhile. Find something that helps you recharge. Dancing, exercise, a sport, cooking, baking, a craft or hobby, something.

"You will become someone it would have been impossible for you to be, and in this way your loved one lives on, in you." Thanks for sharing!

Wouldn't you think activity here would slow down some in the summer anyway? A lot of summer activities, kids out of school, and vacations. Great suggestions Jess! I have mentioned widda.org on Facebook a few times. widowat33- I think you should continue to post your thoughts. Even if people don't respond just reading your thoughts might be helping them.

I'm glad that you found comfort and joy there again!!

Goals for this week: finish landscaping around my mailbox finish trimming and weeding the landscaping *STARTED put things back in rooms (water damage) and organize basement *STARTED normal, daily cleaning/laundry weightlifting at least 3 times mail off bereavement gift drop off donations go to Verizon, drop Phil's phone have friend install light fixture hair cut appointments back to school night make endodontist appointment for my 13yo get curtain rods for 16yo's bedroom order bathroom countertop buy new faucet

Squat challenge day 8 & 9 done! Leg workout 8/8. Rest day 8/9.

He needs to let it go to voicemail unless it's an emergency or his job requires him to answer. My LH was a K9 officer, so he was required to answer the phone if it was the PD calling. LEO's are never 'off duty.'

Glad you had a good time! Did you make plans for a second date?

Did you meet up for your date?

My brother has two sons by two different women. 16yo and 3yo. He scheduled his time with his youngest to be the same weekend as his oldest, so he would still have every other weekend kid free. Then he was complaining to me about the ONE week this summer that he had his youngest all week. Even some family members just don't get it.

First, I'm sorry that you are dealing with all of this by yourself. I'm sure it's difficult even without all of the mistakes being made since you planned on doing all of this with your husband. Definitely have the installer replace the countertops. It was his mistake. You're not getting what you paid for and granite isn't cheap. If you're anything like me, you'll never be happy with them if you keep them. Don't settle!

Looks so peaceful! I'm glad you enjoyed your holiday.