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It would be nice if it worked that way. Just have Mr.Right delivered to my front door. I'm not really worried about attracting someone, but I want to attract the right someone for me. I'm not really looking forward to dating either. I met my husband when I was 16. We got married when we were 19. I went on just a few dates before we met. Most of what I've read here doesn't make dating sound appealing at all. My friends tell me I'm overthinking it. I should just go out and have a good time. I suppose they're right.

Congratulations grandma! ! 1. I spent individual time with all 3 of my daughters today. 2. I got a lot of chores done. 3. I organized 4 1/2 years worth of photos. I still have 12 years to go!

My oldest is also 16 and a junior. She sounds like she is the other extreme. Stresses out about grades! This is just our second week of school. She was texting me today worrying about failing her pre-cal class. She was seriously considering dropping it...already! She wants to graduate with the honors diploma. I told her to just give it a couple of weeks. Sure enough when she got home today she said she understand the homework that her teacher assigned. When my daughter is slow to rise in the morning I remind her that she needs to go to bed earlier. I think at their age they need to adjust their sleep to their schedule. If they don't get enough sleep then they'll just have to suffer the consequences. It was their choice to stay up to late. I do have her turn off all of her electronics at 10. Then I suggest she be in bed around 11. It doesn't always happen. She has her permit. She's actually out driving right now with my father in-law. I'm not ready for her to drive!! She's doing great, but I'm just not ready to let my baby out into the world. We went around yesterday getting job applications for local businesses because she wants to get a job. It's definitely more challenging to discipline them as teens. I agree with MissinGrizz. I would say figure out what her 'motivator' is. Does she like to watch TV? Video games? Phone? Take that item away until she gets her homework done. I took my 13yo daughter's iPod away last night. She thinks that thing is HER LIFE. So dramatic! lol She cleaned her room, did her homework, and got her shower before she got it back. She lost it because I told her to take care of her lunch bag and clean up all of her stuff by the front door before she got on it. The first thing she did was grab her iPod. Bad move!

Plan for today: laundry organizing downstairs clean bathrooms clean kitchen mop/sweep/vacuum schedule endodontist appointment for my daughter/call insurance company for approval

Yesterday I checked out a new gym location. I did abs, cardio, chest, and tri's. They had a better cardio section, but were lacking in weights. They didn't have hammer strength machines. I think on Wednesdays I'll do weights at the local gym and cardio at the other location while my girls are at youth group. Normally I would participate in bible study, but they are repeating the study I just finished. Today was a quick legs and shoulders workout. I've been keeping up with my squat challenge too. Meals are improving. I've gone down a pant size.

It was more than likely a CYA situation on her part, but at least she apologized to him in front of his classmates. That's important. Now that she's aware of his twitching I'm sure she won't point it out again either. Good job mom!

That's terrible! They preach to the students not to bully and then a teacher bullies one of the students. Great role model. I'm glad you're starting with his counselor. I was going to say that I wouldn't start with the teacher. Good luck!

Could you possibly get an advance on your check so you can pay the lower amount? That's awful, I'm sorry. If you've never missed a payment before you would think the electric company would be more lenient.

I want to, but I'm getting frustrated with admissions. I have contacted six colleges. Only one is within driving distance. I want a bachelors degree in health nutrition/dietitics. One college had the bachelor's degree program, but I needed an associates degree in applied science for that program. They didn't offer the associates degree in at that school. Four of the colleges only offered campus courses, so they were out. My next step is to schedule an appointment with our local college to see about getting an associates degree that will work with the bachelor's degree at the other college. I'll be able to complete the bachelor's degree online. They did say credits could be transfered. It's either that or choose a different degree. I honestly didn't think it would be this difficult to get started.

I shared the first day of kindergarten for all three of my daughters with my husband. Our only fear was that they would cry but they all did great and were excited about going back the next day. I'm sure it's going to be a bittersweet day for you. Be strong momma!

I think the reason a lot of us are sensitive to criticism from others is because we're already so critical of ourselves. You have been making a lot of changes lately and should be proud that you have the confidence to do so.

That's really sweet. My husband spoiled me with jewelry from the very beginning. The first piece he gave me was for my birthday just two months after we started dating. He liked to just surprise me by saying we were going out for dinner. Then he would pull into the jewelry store parking lot and say, "your choice."

I'm so sorry Jen. ((hugs))

Yes, and if I mention wanting to talk to him to non-wid friends they say, "then talk to him." We all know it's just not the same. My mom died just three months before my husband. I'm always reaching for the phone to share with her too.

I really dislike grocery shopping. It is something that my husband and I always did together. We just made a day of it. I felt like he was with me today in spirit. I have had smoothie straws on my list for a long time. I've just never been able to find them in the store. Anyway, I deleted them from my list today. Well as I went to grab a few bags of pretzels for my girls guess what is on the shelf right next to them? A package of smoothie straws. Ha! I said, "thanks Phil." I don't care if anyone heard me either.

That sucks. I hope you enjoy your weekend!

I think about his last 24 hours quite a bit still but not as often as before. It was his first bad day and it was truly awful to witness. ((Hugs))

My husband and I had a will drawn up after our first daughter was born. We had it amended after our second daughter and then our third. I'm not sure if I would need to have it amended again. I guess I should inquire. I tell everyone that I know to consider having a will and life insurance. Another thing I wish we would have known about was mortgage insurance. If your spouse dies the house would be paid in full. We had no idea that even existed. Big ((hugs)) to you! ! I'm sure you'll feel relieved when it's all taken care of.

Another Saturday night at home.

I'm sorry. I hope they're able to manage her pain.

I can't really relate, since I haven't dated, but I hear 'you fulfilled your vows' a lot here. It is true, but I'm sure it's hard to convince your heart of that. ((hugs))

Our situations are somewhat similiar only my mom died at 65 and my dad is drowning in alcohol. I will be 40 this month. Being a widow isn't something I ever thought I would 'go through' with a parent. It's a weird, difficult situation. Not only is my dad depressed, but the alcohol alters his personality. He's very needy, but rude at the same time. When we do talk it's mostly about him. He rarely asks how I or my daughters are doing. He also dwells on who hasn't called or visited him. Maybe it's the difference in ages? My dad is dating someone, but the alcohol doesn't let him really enjoy her company either. I understand how you feel. You get to a point where you just don't want to talk to them or be around them because they're so negative. My daughters feel the same way. We can't change how they feel or act. They have to want to change for themselves.

Most of the school districts in our area have open enrollment. Is that an option for you? That way you could stay in your neighborhood, but enroll your kids into the better school? The only downside would be transportation. Free transportation is only offered to students that live in the school district. That's how it works here anyway. What about private schools?

Being out on the soccer fields with my girls watching them play and co-coach was my 'happy' tonight. They were all smiling and having a great time. My 16yo offered to help our neighbor co-coach the boys middle school team. He enjoyed having her input, so he asked if she would also like to help co-coach his 3rd grade boys team. My 13yo helped by being the goalie during their scrimmage. My 8yo was on another field practicing with her team. I graduated high school with her husband/wife coaches and one of the other mom's. It was like a small class reunion. After her practice was over I worked one on one with her while we waited for the boys practice to be over. I love having individual time with my girls. It doesn't happen very often. Great evening!