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Well I've recently discovered I like mojitos so if you could get me one of those I would apreciate it....and you know what would make it really fun is if you could use a glow stick as a stir stick.....had one of those in a bar in France once. I prefer pink, but yellow or green is fine.

Next time invite me over.....I'm not far away! for now a virtual cheers. I get where your coming from.

Have fun ...wherever this may take you.

momtokam....yes I'm sure I'm comparing.... My other post wid relationship seemed natural, where this one seems fantastical. Meaning it's interesting and exciting but it doesn't seem normal or relaxed. I'm not used to being wined and dined. I'm trying to give it time to see if I will adapt...I was a little more relaxed on Saturday.....

one of the things that made me fall in love with dh is he loved me......we always joked that he loved me before we even started dating...and it really did seem that way.I lacked confidence and I didn't believe that a guy as good as my dh could love me so it took me a while to come around but part of why I loved him is cause he loved me first. I'm more confident now, guy #3 is haed over heels about me...in love with me at first sight....it feels good but this time I dont know whethers its enough because I don't need it as bad. The other part of this is I'm enjoying the attention, but right now I think I'd enjoy attention from almost anybody...and that's hard to figure out. Sorry I maybe rambling but this is where I go to hear peoples experiences and opinions

Whenever I wonder about reaching out...I reach out...if I don't I won't know. All they can do is either ignore the message...or answer it.....both provide me with an answer so all is good.

yes I can relate....advice make it smaller.... it is just one step....a step hopefully in the right direction bu simple enough to fix if you find you aren't as ready as you think,,,you just take one step back. set the meeting,on the day of the meeting, think positive,make yourself feel confident and loved in whatever way works for you. For me it was nails done and I would wear a special necklace that dh gave me, a subtle reminder to myself that I was deeply loved and deserve that again. And admittedly I think I drank a small shot before I went,,,,realistically l think the effect was psychosomatic but I felt I gained bravado.

I've had no success with match but I think it's very regional which sites are most popular. As far as repeaters......I think I could be guilty of being a repeat messenger..... If you've been on and off the sites it doesn't keep a record of who you've spoken to. If the person changes their main photo , it might be hard to remember. If I'd met the person, you'd hope that it would be memorable enough ..... If I was contacted by a repeat messenger that originally just kinda faded out and there was no redflag disconnect I'd start talking again. I think sometimes l've let go of an ok lead to persue a more intriguing lead but if that fizzles I wanted to revisit the other one... so I give other people the benefit of the doubt and let them converse again,( that is as long as they didn't give me a rude brush off or whatever the first time)

Announcing that you're a rich lawyer make the person a little pretentious and maybe a little unbelievable but I still believe that rich( well at least well off) people will use the free sites. I know a couple of rich people in real life, that use POF.......but I've also talked to some that I definitely felt were scammers and they all seemed to be claiming the well off status

Not a pleasant situation, Hopefully the arbourist is right, but otherwise here's my advice... Hold tight the memory ,the personal momentos that you still keep ...let go the angst that this public memorial has caused...regroup and so forward. Another ( maybe weird) thought, if the tree is dead ask for the wood, burn it and keep those ashes as the tree was what you hoped would represent your wife after her passing.

Still confused what I want.... I'm seeing a guy that is into me...he is courting me ( to use an old fashioned term) or at least that's the way it feels. I enjoy myself any time we go out.....I like the attention I like holding hands and the compliments. I'm intrigued with his life as he's in a business that I don't know alot about and find interesting. I don't see any obvious redflags but right now I'm not head over heels into him..... Is okay to go with the flow and see what happens.... I've been upfront ever time he has professed his attraction for me I say I'm not there yet and he has to give me time.....

Try and remind yourself that a happy mentally healthy parent is a better parent. If you deny yourself then your well being may suffer. There has to be happy medium but in times of self doubt look at the balance and make sure it is there.

I wish you luck....My sons who were 17 and 19 for my first round of post widow dating and 19 and 21 now as I try again have no big interest in getting to know "my guy". I'm ok with that but they do not say I shouldn't be dating they just don't want to be involved. Maybe your middle daughter is more like that, maybe she doesn't want you dating because she doesn't want to have to interact with him....

I'd just email..

ESFP, -A/-T just did the test ...now I have to read what it means...you've got me curious.

Imisswidow that's great...good luck

wecouldbeheroes just read your reply again.... "why would he need a dating site to meet people"...why do any of us need a dating site!?! cuz we're not meeting people in our daily lives. I don't think online dating is restricted to one economical or societal class of people....rich people don't necessarily have more friends. I don't know that's my opinion......do the rest of you feel like online dating brings in a certain type of person? ( ok I know...fisherman and offshore engineers)

not really feeling it but we'll see...story of my impression of online dating..... I don't know I think its just the inorganic nature of it......it takes time to form an opinion. In the past generally you got to know someone peripherally and then if they intrigued you then you try to become more engaged with them....that warm up period is missing in online dating.

I have a very enthusiastic fellow that I'm seeing at the moment....stating that he knew the moment he saw me that I would make him happy ..closing down his account etc. I enjoyed meeting him and continue to having fun when we go out but...I'm not very decided and almost feel mean cuz I'm not responding to his complements and his professions of /luv/like, with as much enthusiasm. I've told him he has to give me time to figure things out......I think he maybe getting where I'm coming from now though, he's careful what he professes too me.

he didn't tell me it's an assumption I made from car, house location, and owning a business....he could be in debt up to his eyeballs but he's not renting a room in a house like some of the guys I've met. also keep my finances quiet for a while but as soon as people know where I live they know I'm not dirt poor.

ok I've gone on 4 dates with a tall,wealthy fellow that is fun,flirtatious and enfactuated with me. I'm having fun but I don't know, I'm not totally relaxed....it's like i don't beleive he could be that taken with me.....and of course I'm over thinking everything.....why can't I just relax!

MR this is exactly the reaction I get. My sons are 19 and 21 so maybe that is just where they are at.....or how they handle things but yes their DAD popping up on facebook does not make them feel good. I also feel his brother, who was very close, would be rattled if popped up on facebook all the time.

cuddles only work for me if I like the cuddler....I don't relish massage for the same reason.That's also why fwb just seems bazarre to me. I'm a person where the physical pleasure is not separate from the emotional mind but that is just me , Ithink if these things work for you then it sounds like a cool idea.

Actually my children is one reason I don't post.....I want them to remember when they want..... not when they go on facebook to check in on something and suddenly are faced with what's missing......

I don't post ....I don't need to....he's in my heart and my head...he's in my children and the way they lead their life. He is mine to cherish. There are other who also carry him with them but I don't need to advertise.... I have a neice who adored my father( her grandpa) and always posts on the aniversary of his death. I have mixed feelings about that...in a way I think it's sweet and in a way i think why are you putting that out there. do you need other people to know you loved him? Anyways I think I'm in the minority here but that's my thought.