On line dating vents and laughs......

[Missmybecky]

I am a civil engineer and I do a lot of work on pipelines as I have said previously and this thread continues to crack me up!

[Captains wife]

Funny ! Ok - so great date with cute Turkish (electrical) engineer on Friday. This was only date 2 although we have been in touch for a few weeks. He sent me a very straight forward text the following day about me hopefully becoming his girlfriend very soon. VERY sweet but much too fast for me right now. Is it bad that I am currently enjoying multi-dating now ?? It just feels comfortable for me after all the BS I have been through - the various guys know I am multi dating and nothing really that physical has transpired yet. I have just met some decent men recently but they are SOOO different so I want to take some time and I'm actually starting to get more comfortable being on my own and my last (failed) relationship is getting further and further in the rear view mirror (yeah !!)

[Mrskro]

Captains wife....NO it isn't bad that you are enjoying it!  You've been honestly they all know so take your time.  Enjoy yourself IMO

[Captains wife]

I responded to one guy that although I appreciated his email, I am not interested in meeting up now as I have dating fatigue (which I do for some reason). I thought that might deter him - but NOPE...he still wanted to go out. Funny....

[Momtojandj]

Ok I'm tired of this , tired of online dating .. The guys who just stop messaging , or the ones who just want to talk and talk and don't ask me out, tired of talking about myself and explaining I'm a widow , explaining the reasons I stopped working until kids are out of high school. We all know nothing matters if there's no chemistry .. So ask to meet , coffee .. Just tired of searching , trying , I reach out , I wait for them .. I need a break .. You think ?? 😜

[Needytoo]

That does suck, lately I am having guys give me their cell numbers and want to meet right away.  I understand this, because this chatting thing and then them go poof, sucks!!  My problem is right now I am so dam busy that I can't even find time to go for a coffee so I need to clear some stuff off my calendar. 

 

What do you think about speed dating? 

[Captains wife]

I tried to sign up for speed dating in Boston but it kept getting cancelled as enough men didn't sign up. I haven't heard a lot of success stories from speed dating but think it's a great idea. Sucess probably depends on timing and location....I say- why not?  : )

[Wheelerswife]

I tried to sign up for speed dating in Boston but it kept getting cancelled as enough men didn't sign up. I haven't heard a lot of success stories from speed dating but think it's a great idea. Success probably depends on timing and location....I say- why not?  : )

 

CW, I had to laugh at this one.  Imagine speed dating in Western Kansas. Would anyone show up??  And the only place people speed around here is on the interstate....and our speed limit is already 75.

 

 

Maureen

[Needytoo]

If speed dating didn't work well in Boston, it sure in heck not going to work in Northern Ontario but just for fun I just might call and ask them. 

 

Had a guy message me today, I read his profile.  He is looking for a girl 18-50 years of age.  Anyone else a little grossed out by that? 

 

Speaking of age difference I have been chatting with a guy for a week and he appears normal.  He is 11 years older than me.  Any opinions on that? 

[Forgottenwife]

Had a guy message me today, I read his profile.  He is looking for a girl 18-50 years of age. 

 

Haha well this thread says vents and laughs, this definitely gives me a laugh. They designed the block feature with this guy in mind, I learned to block these people right away.

 

11 years is no big deal in my opinion, but more importantly, what do you think? If you enjoy chatting with him and he seems interesting and fun, is 11 years a deal breaker for you? Its your opinion that really matters.

[Guest TalksToAngels]

Some guys age very well. I don't feel age is a negative factor.

Maybe because I've seen great couple many years age difference.

It's the person not their age.

[Momtojandj]

Ok, so I have a date Friday night. Messaged, texted and spoke on phone. I'm cautiously excited . I even asked him if he had teeth since I couldn't see them in his pictures.. Just needed no surprises . And asked if he was a serial killer . Boy am I jaded or what ?!

[Guest nonesuch]

Ok, so I have a date Friday night. Messaged, texted and spoke on phone. I'm cautiously excited . I even asked him if he had teeth since I couldn't see them in his pictures.. Just needed no surprises . And asked if he was a serial killer . Boy am I jaded or what ?!

 

Early Google chat between Flavor and me:

 

Flavor:  I can't chat long. I have a meeting at 7.

 

Me:  Meeting? What kind?

 

Flavor: You haven't Googled me, have you?

 

Me:  No *sigh* What is it? Antichrist?  Sex offender registry?

 

Flavor: Worse.  I'm a politician.

[RobFTC]

Hey Momtojandj, you might be onto something there!  Maybe a checklist:

 

Please enter responses as truthfully as possible:

 

- Gender: __ Male __ Female __ Who's asking? __ Where's a Target, I need to pee

- Have you ever been a: __ serial killer __ politician __ pipeline engineer

- Are you in the armed forces?  __ Really?

- Have you ever visited __ Ghana __ Nigeria __ Turkey __ Sudan

  - Are you there now? __

- Are you missing: __ teeth __ hair __ an arm __ a leg __ a breast __ multiple parts __ Mr. Happy

- Do you take: __ Viagra __ Cialis __ Addyi

- Men: Insert penis pic into this toxic waste container >> <<

- Women: Flash boobs into your own NSFW container >> <<

- Do you text: __ well __ badly __ yearly __ monthly __ daily __ weekly __ hourly __ omgly

- Do you like: __ walks on the beach __ long talks

- How do you like children: __ OK __ can't stand yours __ can't stand my own __ boiled

Essay section: Write about why you're the right person:

Women:

_______________________________________________________________________

_______________________________________________________________________

_______________________________________________________________________

_______________________________________________________________________

_______________________________________________________________________

 

Men: _____________

 

Take care,

Rob T

[momtokam]

 

- Are you missing:  __ Mr. Happy

- Do you take: __ Viagra __ Cialis

 

 

Now here is an interesting conversation starter!  😂😂😂😂😂

[momtokam]

 

What do you think about speed dating? 

 

The one time I was booked to go I never made it.

 

I think it has way better possibilities than on line dating.

 

Not as many men sign up in our age range and I've heard they say yes to everyone to get a possible match. Don't know if it's true or not.

 

I say it's worth a try.

Even for a few laughs and potential stories to share on this thread! 😂

 

[Tatianakm]

@RobFTC, that was really funny! Thanks, I needed it at the end of this trying day.

[Portside]

Speaking of age difference I have been chatting with a guy for a week and he appears normal.  He is 11 years older than me.  Any opinions on that?

 

Sure - What's the issue? I dated women between 20 years younger or older than me. I had a blast and I believe they did too. I learned at least one thing valuable about myself or of life from each one.

 

True beauty, grace, compassion and wisdom is timeless. To attempt to put an age limitation on it is a fool's errand.

 

Good luck and best wishes - Mike

[tybec]

As I am new to this world, maybe someone else may benefit from this tidbit.  I am in a small town, and the dating site required the town you live in. I gave my NG my first name, he knew my town I lived in, and then I told him my professional credentials.  He found me on LinkedIn from that.  He is former and retired Military in terrorist "stuff."And a former MP and officer.  So, he told me he looked me up to show HE was trustworthy and a "normal" guy with lots of security clearance over the many years. He told me I was very evasive for our chats, but having a child and where I live, etc, I did it on purpose.  BUt he still found me..... Doesn't take much, I guess.

[serpico]

^^^ No, it really doesn't.  I guess, though, that I don't see it as a huge risk.  I mean, I know all about stranger danger and all, but I'm not sure what sort of harm could come of a person 'knowing who you are' based on a dating website.  If you have a date, they're probably going to know who you are anyway, and even if you don't end up having a date I don't think it's a big risk.

 

It's a double-edged sword.  We want to know all about our potential dates and we call it a 'red flag' if something they tell us doesn't match up with reality, but if we conceal our own identities we're really doing the same thing.

 

[Tybec, I'm not picking on you here, it's just that your post brought this to mind]

[jeff1973]

 

 

Tybec,

 

I guess I would have no problem with a lady checking me out to  know that I'm legit and who I say I am.

 

In fact I encourage it for their own peace of mind because I have nothing to hide.

 

I'm not so comfortable of anyone saying they have or can learn everything about someone just to prove a point.

 

Can that be an indication of control issues somewhere down the road?  I don't know to be honest.

 

My guess is if a lady doesn't want me to know who she is or where she is then that is her choice.  If I want more then it's my choice to ask or to leave the relationship.  I will never do anything that would make someone uncomfortable.  It's not in me to do that.  To me sharing information is a mutual trust issue and should be treated as such.

 

Besides I'm too computer challenged to, " Know Stuff ". :-[

 

Love the Checklist Rob

 

Jeff1973

 

 

[Guest TalksToAngels]

There was a post on FB (and I'm not a big fan), about how in 2 minutes someone can steal your identity and hack you, with just a phone number and first name.

VERY Scary. I only say to tybec I do think he overstepped his bounds with the security talk.

I dated a police person for a short while, and I know I was scrutinized.

It made me almost feel a bit violated.

 

Online has its ups and downs. To me, I don't do it, or play the silly games that seem the norm.

If anyone has seen my posts they know why. Most everyone I met had this notion that I wasn't over grieving and at a point maybe I could see why. But I bumbleeffed my mind thinking that they were somehow good people when in the end I felt I just was there to entertain.

Unfortunately I felt at my expense. Anyway I learned hopefully. I at one point never even again brought up my past, yet had to hear countless stories of abusive exes and bad dates. That was enough after awhile for me.

SF you will meet the right person on your time. And your own special way.

[RobFTC]

Hey Gayle,

 

That is a creepy amount of information.  Maybe the issue is that we don't all know or agree where that 'creepy' barrier is anymore?  In this as well as several other areas?

 

I've searched a couple of times, mostly when my spider senses tingled for some reason.  One woman had told me about getting sick at one point, but had failed to mention that she'd lost both of her legs below the knee to it - I saw a feature on her in the local news later.  I could see that being hard to know how to talk about, but it made me wonder.  She seemed open when we talked about it, and so I saw her further.  Next there was the double standard she had, talking about how she hated her ex driving by her house and then later talking about walking to the park across from his house.  So finally, she had this consulting business, and it occurred to me to search for stuff about it.  Hmmm - at least a couple of customers had wound up getting stiffed, to hear them tell it.  Next!

 

To the Google generation, I would suggest that because you can doesn't mean you should, and that getting to know someone over time and learning at a more stately pace can be a pretty good deal.  If you get a good match, lots of good can happen.

 

Take care,

Rob T

[tybec]

Well, glad that sparked some conversation.  NG stated he tends to be transparent as his MOA, versus evasive.  I didn't KNOW how evasive I had been, actually.  NEW to this, ya know.  My profession lead me to not want to be found easily, as I didn't want folks in my town seeing me and talking, but it probably has happened a bit.  I live next to a large army post, where LH worked, so I was familiar with some things. I practiced googling myself, and he was right.  3 simple things, first name, location and profession lead to linked in and then FB, too.  He gave me suggestions I could use to change that quick of a search.  I work with law enforcement, too, and they said it would be par for any person in the field to search. NG and I are having lots of fun, and I can't say the other men who contacted me were as direct, honest or gentlemanly as him, even in chatting, etc.  But good to hear different perspectives.  THANKS!

[Guest TalksToAngels]

I too scrutinize and search. It's very easy when you're computer literate. And of course we all want to know the agenda. I keep it to myself nobody really likes to know they're being googled, I would imagine. Sex predators that's fine, but don't look up what I had for dinner last week

; )