CJF Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 Lots of support and prayers coming to you and to your son. I know how difficult it is but you are making the right decision. Stay safe. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kealoha Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 Sending so many good thoughts your way. I am in awe of your courage. "I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear." - Nelson Mandela Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabzmom Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 Oh, my dear, I wish I could reach out to hug and comfort you. I am glad you are safe. Please know you were and ARE loved. You have a beautiful son. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shawn823 Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 Wishing you strength, courage and resolve....your goodness shines through in everything you post and I hope you feel the love coming from your fellow wids. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrokenHeart2 Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 Thoughts and prayers are with you SR. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IfIonlycould Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 SimiRed-Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers....YOU ARE STRONG YOU CAN DO THIS....we are standing behind you. Wheelerswife-Please keep us updated. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carey Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 Wish we could all be there physically with you tonight to bolster you. You've been on my mind a lot Tracey and my heart goes out to you. I so hope that it goes as "well" as something like that can and you can take a big step to the peace you so richly deserve. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest sphoc Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 Sending you warm thoughts!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Justin Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 SimiRed, I have been and continue to pray for you. You are showing so much strength - keep it up, you are doing the right thing! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoVerySad Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 Thank you for the update, Maureen. SR, I'm still sending you positive energy and love. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mmg19 Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 Continuing to send good thoughts and prayers your way. It's going to be OK. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
swilson Posted June 2, 2015 Share Posted June 2, 2015 Prayers for strength and comfort <>< This too shall pass. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheelerswife Posted June 3, 2015 Share Posted June 3, 2015 Just a quick update. The meeting was brief and to the point. The words have been said. SimiRed still needs our strength to boost her stamina to extricate herself from this situation. It has been very emotionally taxing for her. Maureen Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluebird Posted June 3, 2015 Share Posted June 3, 2015 Continuing to keep SimiRed in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong...you can do this and life WILL be better. Take care, Bluebird Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trying Posted June 3, 2015 Share Posted June 3, 2015 Thanks for the update Maureen. SimiRed we are all pulling for, stay strong and stay safe! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mmg19 Posted June 3, 2015 Share Posted June 3, 2015 Continuing with thoughts, prayers, and encouragement. Be safe. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carey Posted June 3, 2015 Share Posted June 3, 2015 I know that feeling .... wanting to leave, but bad as it is there's still a part of you that's so attached it's hard , oh so hard, to let go. Thank you Maureen for the update ... and for being there for Tracey. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gracelet Posted June 3, 2015 Share Posted June 3, 2015 Prayers coming from the other side of the Atlantic. Love to you, SimiRed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lisa Posted June 3, 2015 Share Posted June 3, 2015 Sending support and good vibes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lcoxwell Posted June 4, 2015 Share Posted June 4, 2015 I'm truly wishing I had seen this sooner, so that I could have been praying at the time, you requested. I have bad a burden for you, since the first moment I read parts of your story. Having been in a volatile, dangerous relationship in my long ago past, and knowing how hard it was to extricate myself from the situation, I have already been lifting you up in prayer, sweet lady, and shall continue to pray for you and your son, until you no longer need the prayers. ((((Hugs)))) I would also like to join in with the others to thank you, Maureen, for the updates. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SimiRed Posted June 4, 2015 Author Share Posted June 4, 2015 My Mother always called me her "Steel Magnolia", since I was a small child. Never quite figured out why but now I know. I am a woman who possess the strength of steel, yet the gentleness of a magnolia. I would rather have thirty minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special. I had forgotten who I was, for a long time... I knew this person 25 years ago, he wanted me then, sent me flowers, persisted, but I was engaged to be married to my Rick, my sweetheart, my strength, my everything, since we dated when I was 16. I never allowed him to woo me from Rick. He called my friend... left a message on her machine and said I wanted to be with him years ago, that I was only with Rick because he was my first and I felt obligated to be with him. NEVER, NEVER, NEVER hurt my Rick, you SOB! He called me, tried to talk... I said, How dare you try to destroy what Rick and I were and devalue what we had to my friends and family, I LOVED HIM, I will always LOVE him, and if you f**k with him and his son, I will destroy you. He said, "I've never seen you like this, your having a nervous breakdown"... Me: "Huh, what did you say, let me turn the tv on so I can only half ass listen to you", He tried to over talk me, railroad me, we need counseling, reading God scripture to me. I said, "Shut up, can't you shut the H*LL up, yak, yak, yak... that's all you do"...he tried to overtalk me, I said, "How's it feel? How's it feel to feel like a piece of shit that you're not good enough for me to give the time of day to?" HOW'S IT FEEL? Told him I was done, and if I EVER stepped foot back into that house I would paint the Living Room F-ing RED, and I would be the one in control now, and he could sit around and be my BITCH SLAVE that I could scream at, yell at, and belittle until he freaking hurt the way he hurt me. No, I will not live like this, I told him go to your counselor, Tell her you HIT A MINOR, then, figure out if we can do this sensibly by Saturday or next week I will serve your ass papers. Told him I am no longer under his control, that it is time for me to be the one in control of my LIFE. "sorry, sorry...sorry, I was wrong" Told him "How DARE you come after a widow without taking care of YOU first, how DARE you pursue me for your happiness without thinking of the happiness that I, as a widow lost, HOW DARE YOU, you knew you had issues, and YOU destroyed this, NOT ME!" Too late, don't call me, don't text me.... Don't know what came over me...But, I feel different today, invigorated, strong.... And the person I'm staying with : "So, is that the red-headed temper we're never suppose to tap into? Holy-Cow, bout' time you tapped into that" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
donswife Posted June 4, 2015 Share Posted June 4, 2015 As a fellow red head ....Good for you keep taping into that strength , You got this take care ! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IfIonlycould Posted June 4, 2015 Share Posted June 4, 2015 Told him I am no longer under his control, that it is time for me to be the one in control of my LIFE. Too late, don't call me, don't text me.... Don't know what came over me...But, I feel different today, invigorated, strong.... Continue to stay strong! You will get through this.....you will....keep focused on what you want. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest TooSoon Posted June 4, 2015 Share Posted June 4, 2015 Another red head (well former red head) chiming in: Do not listen to his pleas or apologies. They are part of the pathology of abusers. In my experience, of which I've told you, the pattern DOES NOT AND WILL NOT CHANGE. Letting your pent up and wholly justified anger out may leave you feeling spent and tired but do not capitulate. You have done the hardest part: you took the first big step. Now, trust your instincts and stand your ground. The leaving itself will not be so hard. I'm thinking of you. PS. Next time, if he tries to hit you or J or hits you or J, call the police. I know it is hard but you must. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trying Posted June 4, 2015 Share Posted June 4, 2015 Good for you! You are not lost or under his control any more, you took that control back. The road ahead may be hard but you are in charge now. If that amazing strength starts to falter we are all here to lift you up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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